Tips for dealing with infertility?
Posted 20 May 2017 - 05:55 PM
Anyone have any tips? Right now I'm contemplating becoming a hermit and surround myself with childless friends (not many left to be honest)
Trying to really stay positive before my first fet but it's hard.
IVF #1 - Estrogen priming antagonist protocol. Poor responder. 6 eggs retrieved, 2 mature. 2 fertilized with ICSI. Transferred on Day 2 (one 4 cell and another 2 cell) - BFN
31 Years Old, deemed a poor responder with DOR due to severe endo (chocolate cyst on right ovary).
Am currently trying to figure out what worked for others in similar situations as me ?
IVF #2,3, and 4 - Completed Embryo Banking with VFC (Dr Hudson). Amazing Experience. Retrieved in total 9 embryos of high quality and day 5+.
FET #1 (with VFC) - June 2017. Successful, BFP, and DD born in March 2018
FET #2 (with VFC) - tentatively scheduled for December 2019
Posted 20 May 2017 - 10:24 PM
I'm thinking about doing another cycle to bank embryos too (instead of FET)bc I'm 36, and only got 2 frozen 3day embies.
Posted 20 May 2017 - 10:36 PM
Identifying some solid trustworthy outlets was important for me, as well as feeling like I was doing things for myself that were gentle and positive - and reminding myself to try and make time for things like working out and lining up things I could look forward to.
Posted 20 May 2017 - 11:29 PM
TTC #1- 3 failed fresh cycles age 35-36 (one cancelled) and one successful FET at 37 (DS:)
TTC #2 - 2 fresh cycles at 39 and 40- one miscarriage and one failed (uterine infection after)
-3 failed FETs (2 with complication of uterine fluid but went away after progesterone)
-2 cancelled FETs (one due to uterine inflammation/infection after miscarriage and one due to uterine fluid)
-2 great quality frozen embryos left - one day 3 (at 39) and 1 day 6 blast (at 40) waiting for FET - have figured out the protocol to avoid complications and just hoping for my golden egg
It's so hard to wait around for something that may never be, but harder to let go when it's all you've ever wanted"
Posted 21 May 2017 - 02:12 PM
Posted 26 May 2017 - 03:51 PM
I totally know how you're feeling. I also have severe endo.
I started my first IVF cycle last summer, and against all odds, got pregnant. Unfortunately, that pregnancy ended in a stillbirth at 23 weeks. Of course, the problem my baby had only occurs in 1 in 10, 000 pregnancies. It didn't have anything to do with endo. In fact, the doctors could not find any cause. Talk about the worst luck ever.
I can also relate to the feelings of envy you have for other women who are pregnant/have babies. I worked with two other women who were pregnant at the same time I was, and it has been really hard watching them celebrating the birth of their babies while I mourn the loss of mine and deal with the very real possibility that I won't have any children at all.
What has helped me cope is trying to feel grateful for the things that I do have that are good in my life and to make a list of the advantages of leading a child free life- not surprisingly there are a lot of them! These are only some of the items on my list: 1) I will probably get to retire earlier than my friends because children are expensive! 2) I can do more travelling. 3) I have more free time, in general, to pursue my own interests. 4) I don't have to worry about raising ungrateful, spoiled little brats (parenting is hard and I've seen a lot of people fail at it, to be perfectly honest!) 5) I don't have to go through the painful and, for lack of a better word, really gross process of childbirth (I'm squeamish, so sorry, nope, I don't find a woman giving birth to be beautiful.)
There are so many more items on my list, but I think you get the idea. Not everyone is lucky enough to have children, I guess. And it does seem really unfair, especially when you see other people who have them who don't really seem to deserve them. But I also do notice that the majority of those people also seem really unhappy. We all have our own struggles, I suppose.
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