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[Algae]

Carolyn b2
I have told my family and my boss...it felt great to have happy news to share after almost 4 years of heartbreak.
Congrats to you, let's be hopeful! I guess if the worst scenario happens, our families will know our pain.

It is a very individual decision.

[GardeniaD]

yaenaSK - congratulations! this is great news. I wonder why is he seeing you again? Is this the norm in your fert clinic? I just want to know what to expect myself. 

 

wannabemummy - I cannot tell you how many times this happened to me this time and in previous times. Symptoms could disappear suddenly for a day. Some women don't get them at all. Besides, what you mentioned are still symptoms.

 

algae - I have that some days too, but more like bad mood swings and angry at everyone. Yesterday was a big change, I was in the best mood since this cycle started. Strange. I never tried acupuncture. 

 

AFM - I am still taking diclectin. 2 at night then I sleep. They help me all through next day so I can eat and drink. But, during the night I suffer headaches and restless sleep. Last night I woke at 2.30 AM and threw up. Not sure how to weigh the advantages and disadvantages of diclectin. I almost would throw up if I do or do not take it but maybe I feel better for longer hours in the day if I take it. Who is taking it? And how do you feel?

 

We are planning on telling parents, babysitter, and 2 close work colleagues tomorrow before I start throwing up in front of them. No one else. 

[GardeniaD]

Updated members list with latest news. Let me know if missing anything/anyone:

 

GardeniaD: EDD 7/10/2017 - hcg done - will do external u/s around 12w

yaenaSK: EDD - EDD 5/10/2017 - hcg done - 1st u/s 16/2/2017 baby measuring 6w6d hb 125 

wannabemummy: EDD early Oct 2017 - hcg done - waiting 2nd u/s to see hb

CarolynB2 - EDD 11/10/2017 - hcg done- waiting 1st u/s 24/2/2017 

lisa222 - EDD 11/10/2017 - hcg done - waiting first u/s 

Jane31 – EDD ?

Sundance – EDD 15/10/2017 -

Algae – EDD 21/10/2017

OneBigSIgh – EDD ? – had hcg – waiting u/s on 1/3/2017

idream – EDD 15/10/2017 – waiting u/s at 6 ½ w

quandary – EDD 8/10/2017 – hcg done – u/s done 14/2/2017 hb 114 at 6w2d 

[yaenaSK]

Thanks Gardenia! Not sure if this is standard at my clinic or not - I get the impression it might be. She said that if we chose to do the Harmony test, it's actually her/the clinic that arranges it. She is letting my OBGYN, and my family doctor, both know now that I am pregnant, though, in preparation.

 

(Every time I type or say that I do a little happy dance in my chair.)

 

Also so good to hear the good and bad about diclection. I just got a prescription today because my nausea is becoming horrible. She prescribed it for two at night, then one each at breakfast and lunch (but said I definitely don't have to take it that much since it is sedating). I was planning to start with just at night and see how it works for me.

[wannabemummy]

Congrats YaenaSK that's great news, so happy for you! 

 

Thanks GardeniaD for the re-assuring words, I will have to learn to deal with the ups and downs or the next 7.5 months is going to be very stressful!  BTW my EDD will be Oct 10th, and will be same week as my mom's and my two nieces birthdays! 

 

Algae, I also did accupunture weekly up to transfer including pre/post transfer but have not had a session since ET.  My naturopath has not made any recommendations.  I think I'm going to mull over it a bit after the u/s and maybe ask for her recommendation.

[idream]

yaenaSK - congratulations! this is great news. I wonder why is he seeing you again? Is this the norm in your fert clinic? I just want to know what to expect myself. 

 

wannabemummy - I cannot tell you how many times this happened to me this time and in previous times. Symptoms could disappear suddenly for a day. Some women don't get them at all. Besides, what you mentioned are still symptoms.

 

algae - I have that some days too, but more like bad mood swings and angry at everyone. Yesterday was a big change, I was in the best mood since this cycle started. Strange. I never tried acupuncture. 

 

AFM - I am still taking diclectin. 2 at night then I sleep. They help me all through next day so I can eat and drink. But, during the night I suffer headaches and restless sleep. Last night I woke at 2.30 AM and threw up. Not sure how to weigh the advantages and disadvantages of diclectin. I almost would throw up if I do or do not take it but maybe I feel better for longer hours in the day if I take it. Who is taking it? And how do you feel?

 

We are planning on telling family and work colleagues tomorrow. 

 

Really you are telling people already?

I haven't even told my mom yet!

 

I am thinking of telling my boss is late March,  friends, facebook and work colleagues in late May. I am a private person, but i just don't want to tell people until i feel that it is going to stick.

 

When are others telling folks?

[quandry]

We will wait as long as possible. Our last loss we told people at 12 weeks and found out five days later the baby had passed. With our toddler son we told family at 22 weeks, friends while far away at 36, and fb when our son was born. Honestly if we could not tell anyone till after a safe birth I'd be happy.

[GardeniaD]

idream - As I mentioned in my post yesterday, the only reason I am telling is that I am very symptomatic. I throw up a lot at any time of day "suddenly". My last pregnancy was like all basket next to me wherever I go. And I needed to lie down most of the time. The five people we are telling are mom, dad, babysitter, 2 work colleagues only because I see them for long hours most days of week. I think these five already know something is going on. The way I suddenly cannot stand to go near coffee or I will throw up is the exact same as last pregnancy. No Facebook; no other people than these. We are very private. I should have explained more in my post. 

[yaenaSK]

We've been pretty open in telling people - but then, we were also very open in sharing that we were going through IVF too. We told our parents and siblings right after we got our beta results (we both come from very close families). I've shared with a couple of friends - my best friend, and then a couple of others who went through IF as well (so I know they are extremely sensitive to the risks we still face). DH shared with one coworker, because the two of them basically negotiate shifts and time off between themselves (so this gives DH a much easier time getting time off for appointments - otherwise he basically works a 60-70 hour week, ugh). I told my two coworkers as well, when it became obvious I'd be heaving in front of them, and needing time off.

 

We haven't, and won't tell extended family or FB until sometime in April. When we saw the RE today, she said our M/C risk is down to 5% - but that is still 5%.

[idream]

I think I am a bit paranoid about telling people.  I have only told 3 people, a few medical professionals and then posted on a few of the infertility sites I am part of.  I am not even ready to order some pregnancy books from Amazon for fear of getting ads from them. I just don't want to tell people and then something happen. 

 

I am a private person and have found it hard recently because my journey this far, got really stressful in the fall and I had to tell a few people because I needed the stress relief. (and more Kleenex!)  I have found that hard and I know that a few people are giving me the side eye going "is she preggers?"  One woman keeps asking me how are things going, not getting the hint that when I say fine and then ask her about her weekend plans that "I DON"T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT!!!"  

 

Luckily my nausea has been minor and mostly in the afternoons so I have escaped detection on that front. But my boobs are now YUUUUGE  (heading out for a DD bra this weekend) and if anyone is watching......

 

Being Single and older (42 soon) is only adding to my fears. I know this is going to be a source of gossip in the office and on Social Media. Honestly Can I just tell people like never?  HAHAHAHA.

 

cheers

idream

[OneBigSigh]

I have told a few people, some I am okay with some I'm not. We have told my parents, two girls I work with, and his parents ( not the best support, so they aren't allowed to talk to me about it ). I was half kidding when I told one of my cousins I would call her after I've had the baby and that is how she would find out my transfer worked. I love my family and they are so supportive, but we went through this pretty much exactly the same time last year. So we are in protective mode right now. Everyone is guessing it worked, but they won't outright ask me. 

 

I am feeling so unbelievably nervous about my ultrasound on the 1st. How do you ladies cope with all of this? Last year I was in a better place, I was fairly naive and thought nothing bad will happen. My husband will have his eyes glued to the screen at our ultrasound, they sometimes try to tell us he can't go into early ultrasounds but we don't listen ( small towns ). We can be stubborn 

[OneBigSigh]

GardeniaD: EDD 7/10/2017 - hcg done - will do external u/s around 12w

yaenaSK: EDD - EDD 5/10/2017 - hcg done - 1st u/s 16/2/2017 baby measuring 6w6d hb 125 

wannabemummy: EDD early Oct 2017 - hcg done - waiting 2nd u/s to see hb

CarolynB2 - EDD 11/10/2017 - hcg done- waiting 1st u/s 24/2/2017 

lisa222 - EDD 11/10/2017 - hcg done - waiting first u/s 

Jane31 – EDD ?

Sundance – EDD 15/10/2017 -

Algae – EDD 21/10/2017

OneBigSIgh – EDD 16/10/17 – had hcg – waiting u/s on 1/3/2017

idream – EDD 15/10/2017 – waiting u/s at 6 ½ w

quandary – EDD 8/10/2017 – hcg done – u/s done 14/2/2017 hb 114 at 6w2d

[GardeniaD]

I guess everyone should do what works for them. One person's needs are not like another's.

Here is a fun (almost science fiction for us here) Facebook thingy. One of my contacts (not close friend) just made her profile picture her POS positive stick! And look at us contemplating who of our closest people to tell for support. Sigh ughh and lol

Relax and do what makes you feel comfortable at night.

OneBigSigh - thanks for posting the updated list. It is easier when each of us updates their info and posts the list again than if one person does it for all others.

Btw, my u/s is booked for March 1 as well. So nervous. My symptoms are up and down.

[GardeniaD]

GardeniaD: EDD 7/10/2017 - hcg done - waiting u/s 1/3/2017
yaenaSK: EDD - EDD 5/10/2017 - hcg done - 1st u/s 16/2/2017 baby measuring 6w6d hb 125
wannabemummy: EDD early Oct 2017 - hcg done - waiting 2nd u/s to see hb
CarolynB2 - EDD 11/10/2017 - hcg done- waiting 1st u/s 24/2/2017
lisa222 - EDD 11/10/2017 - hcg done - waiting first u/s
Jane31 – EDD ?
Sundance – EDD 15/10/2017 -
Algae – EDD 21/10/2017
OneBigSIgh – EDD 16/10/17 – had hcg – waiting u/s on 1/3/2017
idream – EDD 15/10/2017 – waiting u/s at 6 ½ w
quandary – EDD 8/10/2017 – hcg done – u/s done 14/2/2017 hb 114 at 6w2d

[yaenaSK]

OneBigSigh- I had to laugh at your comment about telling your cousin after the baby is born. I have one cousin in particular who is so. freaking. nosy. Everyday - "How are you today?" "What's new?" We aren't particularly close - it got worse when, while I was struggling with IF and IVF, she got pregnant (after "struggling" for about four months, FFS). Then she proceeded to whine and complain to me about how hard it was to be pregnant, how lucky I was not to be feeling x or y, how tired she was being pregnant with another child at home. I wanted to scream "KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE". I was not her audience. She asked tons of questions during IVF and kept comparing it to pregnancy which was even more annoying. Finally, I posted on FB (and had to say it directly to her) to after retrieval, we wouldn't be doing any updates or sharing anything more, because DH and I had to finish the process ourselves and cope with all of the emotions and possible outcomes. Apparently this cousin didn't like it - she whined to her mom, who made a snarky comment to MY mom - who then put both of them in their place and basically told them to STFU. Ha. It makes me not want to tell extended family until "Surprise! Here's a baby!"

 

I mean, seriously. This isn't their information. This isn't their life. No one has a "right" to know any of the details except DH and I.

 

Sorry, I get soapbox-y about it. Which is funny considering we have told some people but again - they never demanded to know or even asked. They are the people we want support from, only. I was thinking we'd go public in early April but now I am not entirely sure. I love our little circle of "in the know" and feel so loved and supported by them. I am flying home to see the bigger fam in May, so I will probably have to tell by then. I'm also thinking of being like some celebs, and never actually acknowledging it. Oh, am I obviously pregnant? There ya go.

[CarolynB2]

So, some excitement happened last night. I started bleeding so went to the ER. No cramping, no symptoms. I went tot he bathroom and that's when I saw it. To me it was a lot of blood as I soaked my panty liner, but apparently a lot of blood is going through a pad in under 2 hours. Turns out I'm okay. The fetus is fine. AND I got to see its tiny heartbeat a week before my scheduled u/s!! I burst into tears right there on the table it was so stressful and I was so terrified that it wouldn't be there! But it was. I had to hold my breath to see the little heartbeat vibrations.

 

The fact that I get another u/s next week will help keep me calm. I'm 6 weeks and 2 days now. My next u/s is in exactly a week.

 

Algae - I did acupuncture for one of my previous IVF cycles. Before this cycle it was the farthest I had been. I loved it! Very relaxing and very helpful. But I bit too pricey for me.

[quandry]

Re telling family -

We did that. Most of our families did not know we were pregnant till after the baby was born. Immediate family knew, but cousins and aunts and uncles. Nope. We kept it very very quiet. And we will again this time if we make it that far again. Honestly, dhs family is so incredibly UNsupportive, I wouldn't even tell his parents or his brother or sil till after the baby was born. I'm honestly considering not saying anything to my family till I have to see them this summer either. We've not had much support from friends or family these last few years and honestly, I feel like not telling anyone anything at all. But I'm obviously crusty. Ha.

[Algae]

hi everyone
Had my third hcg test today...all good 4433!
U/S in 2 weeks march 3rd.
Feeling pretty good, getting a lot of rest here.

Carolyn b2 scary story so glad to hear all is well!
Acupuncture is pricey, a major drawback.

[GardeniaD]

Carolynb2 - glad all is well now! Tbat is so scary. Best thing u get assurance next week as well.

Algae - congrats! Great number.

Reminder: please update info on list to anyone who has an update

[Algae]

GardeniaD: EDD 7/10/2017 - hcg done - waiting u/s 1/3/2017
yaenaSK: EDD - EDD 5/10/2017 - hcg done - 1st u/s 16/2/2017 baby measuring 6w6d hb 125
wannabemummy: EDD early Oct 2017 - hcg done - waiting 2nd u/s to see hb
CarolynB2 - EDD 11/10/2017 - hcg done- waiting 1st u/s 24/2/2017
lisa222 - EDD 11/10/2017 - hcg done - waiting first u/s
Jane31 – EDD ?
Sundance – EDD 15/10/2017 -
Algae – EDD 20/10/2017 waiting u/s 3/3/17
OneBigSIgh – EDD 16/10/17 – had hcg – waiting u/s on 1/3/2017
idream – EDD 15/10/2017 – waiting u/s at 6 ½ w
quandary – EDD 8/10/2017 – hcg done – u/s done 14/2/2017 hb 114 at 6w2d

[Baby2017]

Hi I did my transfer on Jan 24th and had my first beta on February 3rd at 286 and then on Feb 5th it was 698. I have my ultrasound this tues the 21st!! So excited!i transferred 2 frozen embabies and am started to feel very excited in knowing if one or two took. I am 6weeks and 2days today. Anyone else due Oct 11th?!

[GardeniaD]

Baby2017 - welcone to the forum and congratulations on the lovely numbers! U r the third due on the 11th I think. Here is the list I added u at the end. Every time someone has an update copy, edit and paste the list again.

GardeniaD: EDD 7/10/2017 - hcg done - waiting u/s 1/3/2017
yaenaSK: EDD - EDD 5/10/2017 - hcg done - 1st u/s 16/2/2017 baby measuring 6w6d hb 125
wannabemummy: EDD early Oct 2017 - hcg done - waiting 2nd u/s to see hb
CarolynB2 - EDD 11/10/2017 - hcg done- waiting 1st u/s 24/2/2017
lisa222 - EDD 11/10/2017 - hcg done - waiting first u/s
Jane31 – EDD ?
Sundance – EDD 15/10/2017 -
Algae – EDD 20/10/2017 waiting u/s 3/3/17
OneBigSIgh – EDD 16/10/17 – had hcg – waiting u/s on 1/3/2017
idream – EDD 15/10/2017 – waiting u/s at 6 ½ w
quandary – EDD 8/10/2017 – hcg done – u/s done 14/2/2017 hb 114 at 6w2d
Baby2017 - EDD 11/10/2017 - hcg done - u/s on 21/2/2017

[Jane31]

Hey guys! I had my betas this week - the first was 112, and I haven't gotten the result yet for the second. Not much to report otherwise... Sore boobs. Got my dicletin, but haven't needed to start it yet, since nausea still light. The pharmacist told me dicletin causes fatigue, which I'm not sure I knew last time. Last time I was soooo tired in my first trimester. Will try to avoid dicletin (if possible) this time and see if less tired.


GardeniaD: EDD 7/10/2017 - hcg done - waiting u/s 1/3/2017
yaenaSK: EDD - EDD 5/10/2017 - hcg done - 1st u/s 16/2/2017 baby measuring 6w6d hb 125
wannabemummy: EDD early Oct 2017 - hcg done - waiting 2nd u/s to see hb
CarolynB2 - EDD 11/10/2017 - hcg done- waiting 1st u/s 24/2/2017
lisa222 - EDD 11/10/2017 - hcg done - waiting first u/s
Jane31 – EDD 24/10/2017 - waiting for 2nd beta result
Sundance – EDD 15/10/2017 -
Algae – EDD 20/10/2017 waiting u/s 3/3/17
OneBigSIgh – EDD 16/10/17 – had hcg – waiting u/s on 1/3/2017
idream – EDD 15/10/2017 – waiting u/s at 6 ½ w
quandary – EDD 8/10/2017 – hcg done – u/s done 14/2/2017 hb 114 at 6w2d
Baby2017 - EDD 11/10/2017 - hcg done - u/s on 21/2/2017

[quandry]

Woke to some decent spotting this morning... kinda freaked me out, but I was still nauseas, so did my best to shrug it off. Had a long drive back and forth to Ottawa to pickup family (10 hours), was nauseas the whole way (thanksfully no one asked why I nibbled food all the way back), and spotting stopped, and no cramping. So maybe I scratched myself doing progesterone? Or maybe I have another sch? No idea but as long as I'm not cramping and don't have heavy flow, and still have symptoms, I'm calling that a win. Kmfx is stays that way.

[HFLO]

Hi ladies is it ok to join you guys? I've super nervous to jinx myself but after seeing the second beta double in 37 hours I can breathe a little. This is our first ever BFP. TTC since 2008, started IVF in 2012. FET on Feb 7 and started getting faint lines on 4.5dp5dt. First beta 110 and second one today was 269. I go for a third beta on Monday. And I don't know when the first ultrasound will be. According to the online calculator EDD is Oct 26.