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#1 Clover83

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Posted 24 September 2016 - 08:57 PM

My husband and I had our second IUI this month. I woke up to period cramps followed by a broken heart. A few hours later my sister announced her third pregnancy, after trying for two months. My husband wants to take a month "off" next month because he feels IF has overwhelmed our lives. He's right - I'm currently drowning in tears. But at the same time I feel we're so early on in our journey and I'm in such a rush to get to the end...when is the right time to take a break?

#2 nervus optimist

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Posted 24 September 2016 - 10:49 PM

We took many breaks. Short and long ones. In fact, it was rare that we did back to back cycles. With IF you never know if it will be a sprint or marathon so take care of yourself at every stage.


I'm so sorry this cycle wasn't the one. I hope you're not in this for the marathon....



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I am 38, DH - 39
Genetic - IVF&PGD to prevent Genetic Disorder
IVF #1 - Nov/08 - MC @ 6 weeks, no embryos frozen
IVF #2 - Aug/09 - bfn
IUI #1 - Feb/10 - ectopic
PRIDE - Apr/10
Homestudy - July/10
Given the gift of donor embryos - Jan/12
Donor FET Jun/12 - 9 weeks - no heartbeat... MC
Donor FET Oct/12 - we're PG biggrin.png

===> Beautiful baby boy born 2013 babyboy.gif

Donor FET Oct/16 - chemical

April 2017 - surprise PG

===> Beautiful baby girl born 2017 babygirl.gif

#3 piggypower

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Posted 24 September 2016 - 11:49 PM

I took a few breaks. Most of them were forced upon me while I was waiting for results or appointments with specialists but I also took one or two on my own.  I remember when I first started the journey, I was so overwhelmed after the first round of testing, orientation sessions and diagnoses, that I put off treatments for a few months.  I had also just started a new job and it was too much.


Infertility treatments are psychologically and physically punishing, especially if you move onto IVF.  If you need a break, take one. One thing I learned along the way was that many things are out of my control and that things take time. Best of luck.

#4 amazing grace

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Posted 25 September 2016 - 02:16 PM

I have been at this for the last six years. Part of me many times wanted to quit and if I listened to my husband I would have THREE years ago. However that little voice kept telling me to go on. So still hoping, trying and praying that it will happen. In the six years, I have taken months off and as well a whole year. Do what your heart tells you and best of luck.

#5 Krys83

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Posted 25 September 2016 - 11:23 PM

Same as the other ladies. It seems as if sometimes we get forced breaks whether we like them or not. It's frustrating because you want to move forward, but something else has to happen first. it has been nice to know there's nothing you can do for a while and just breathe. 

2002 met my Handsome Hubby!

2010 September; Married


2013 September; TTC

2014 September; "Normal" results for both at Gyne appt ( HSG Sept. 14). Clomid x 4 months.


2015 March; Appt in Edmonton clinic. HSG showed hydrosalpinx. still no explanation... any thoughts?...dontknow.gif 
2015 June; Surgery left salingectomy + polyp. Still have "Righty"
2015 July; On the Clomid train again with lateralization U/S to see which side the follicles are developing on.

2015 October; IUI BFN

2016 Jan; Hysterscopy 


Starting IVF

2016 April; Retreival 25 eggs, OHSS Freeze All cycle. 6 Frosties (Day 5, all variations of grade 4) 

2016 July; FET 4aa BFN Didn't attach cry.gif

2016 October; Endometrial Biopsy

2016 November 9; FET 6!! & 4ba. All our Frosties are graded as "4," but after they lasered it in the morning, it HATCHED! It came out of the shell, we were able to see the zona. 

2016 Novemeber 18; th_abfp.gif

2017 August; Our beautiful baby girl arrived babygirl.gif




I feel like this is an opportunity to throw in a quote about not counting the years, or making the years count... the joy is on the journey... I'll work on finding one that doesn't make me want to scream eusa_wall.gif