This is my first post, and I just need to vent and get this out. My husband and I have been trying for a baby for 3 1/2 years. We have been doing fertility treatment for a year and a half. We were told that only IVF with ICSI would work for our case. My husband has a low count and I have a small version of PCOS.
I have had 2 failed transfers, one was a straight negative and the second one ended in a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks. We heard conflicting things after each transfer didn't work. I was told after the first one that we might not be able to have children using my husband's sperm, which destroyed me. But after the second we were given a little hope that just maybe we could have a baby that is genetically ours. This has been a complete mind f***! I have to have surgery in August to remove a polyp that they found after my miscarriage, which may of possibly caused me to have a miscarriage. The fertility issues alone are stressful.
Besides the fertility stress we also are renovating, and have been for the last 5 years. But also we work for his parents. They were great in the beginning. Saying I can work from home when I have kids. No one plans on having issues conceiving. They were okay when we told them we had to have fertility appointments. Unless it messes with their plans if they want to not be in the office. And I should probably tell you that this only applies to me and my husband. Every other employee can have the random time off. I am paid hourly, so if I don't work I don't get paid. Which is fine. I should also mention that they have another son who gets paid a salary but doesn't work at all. The double standards are very stressful to handle. My husband and his dad are actually okay with me working from home, it's his mom that has the issue for some reason. She doesn't understand the stress and the dark cloud that is hanging over my head all the time. I can't flip the switch to be okay with all of this. I always have the option to get stress leave from a doctor, but I would rather not go that route. I just can't handle the lies. They say they are okay for my time off, but then when it happens they make it into such a big deal that I just get so angry. I've never had to deal with people like this, family wise. I can tell my family I've had enough with their comments and they will stop, but I can't do the same thing with my in-laws. This has started to make any relationship with them outside of work nearly impossible for me.
What would you do in my position? How would you approach this issue with your in-laws? Because the economy is so shaky right now, I am not in a position to find a new job and I would hate to find a new job while going through fertility treatment.
Thank you for listening