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#26 Sugaree

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Posted 17 May 2008 - 01:38 PM

Hi AMV -
I totally agree that we will never take for granted the blessing we'll have when we do finally have kids. Some people have NO IDEA how lucky they are. Not to get political but the gov't healthcare will pay for pregnancies to be terminated hwile there are so many people out there who would give their right arm to have a baby and we have to work so hard (literally/financially) to make it happen. Its really hard to hear people complain about their kids. My DH was in the grocery store the other day and a little girl about 2 was running around and screaming and her father looked at my DH and shook his head and said "Want a kid?". If he only knew.
We also agree that it seems like our life is just on hold now. There are alot of times we're sitting around looking for something to do and it just feels like children would fill the hole in our day to day life. We spend alot of time with kids in our family...babysitting and going to their hockey games, etc. But its just not the same. Our time will come, I'm just impatient!
Me-32 DH - 34
DX - Unexplained
TTC - 7 years

IUI(COH) #1 with Serophene and Bravelle injections and HCG trigger - June 22/08 - BFP!!
Beta - 15 dpiui - 40 :( very low
2nd Beta - 19 dpiui - 345 BFP
U/S July 28th/08 - heartrate 60 bpm :( I'm not ready to let you go....
3rd beta - 37 dpIUI - 31, 690
4th beta - 39 dpIUI - 40, 000 - still rising
U/S Aug 19th/08 - no heartbeat at 10 weeks (baby stopped growing at 8.5 weeks)
D&C Aug 22/08
We're done for a little while. I can't imagine going through this again.

IUI #2 March 19/09 (unmedicated) - BFN :(
IUI #3 April 16th/09 (unmedicated).....BFN :(

IVF #1
Called in Day 1 Dec 16th/09
ER - Feb 4/10 Retrieved 23 eggs, 13 fertilized with a bit of fragmentation
ET - Feb 9/10 Transferred 2 blasts (20/20 and 16/20) 2 Kidsicles :)
BETA - Feb.22nd BFN :(
I really thought this was the one. Devastated.

Sept 2010 - Started PRIDE
Nov 16 2010 - Last PRIDE session - Awaiting Home study.

FET #1
Nov. 9, 2010 - Transferred 2 blasts. One looked "excellent" and the other was "very good too".
Nov. 19, 2010 - hpt FRER BFP!!!!
Beta - 4w4d or 18dpo - 97 :( Hoping this one sticks around but I'm not optimistic...
Beta # 2 (5 weeks or 21 dpo)- 320 - going in the right direction at least...
Beta # 3 (5 weeks 4 days) - 1778.5
Went to ER at 6w6d weeks for spotting, BETA #4 15,217
Beta #5 7w4d 20,000ish
U/S 7w5d - no heartbeat :(

IVF #2 - Scheduled for April 2012
****SURPRISE NATURAL PREGNANCY THE MONTH WE WERE SUPPOSED TO CALL IN DAY 1 FOR IVF!!! ********
Beta #1 19dpo - 838
Beta #2 29dpo - 32,468
Beta #3 31 dpo - 44, 420

#27 hopeful_flyer

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Posted 18 May 2008 - 08:25 AM

Just got the news that the unemployed YOUNG irresponsible kids across the street are expecting. (living with 'new dad to be's Dad, new dad to be has one shift a week at the Timmies.....new mom to be has no job or skills....)

I get to see her (all of 18 I'd bet) out smoking with her friends. Talking loudly about baby clothes. While I want to go over there and wring her neck!!

But of course they must DESERVE it more than we do, right?

*snort*

It's gonna be a long 7 months around here.....

bah.

Edited by hopeful_flyer, 18 May 2008 - 08:26 AM.

ttc #1 Since Jan 2006. as of April 09 that means ttc for 40 months. Jebus. *sigh*
Bilaterally blocked tubes discovered Dec 2007
IVF#1 June, 2008 agonist protocol
300IU gonal f, 13 days of stims. Nothing to transfer.
EPIC FAIL
IVF#2 Started BCP for Antagonist protocol Oct 9, 2008 (menopur and centrotide)
Last BCP, Nov 2, 2008
First U/S Nov 2, start 300iu Menopur Nov 7, 2008
Back for daily scans and bloods starting Nov 11, 2008
U/S showed 5 follies between 1.1 and 1.25 start Centrotide today.
Nov 13 U/S showed 7 follies between 1.2 and 1.5
Next U/S Nov 14 10 follies
Trigger Nov 15
ER date, Nov 17th
6 retrieved.
4 mature and ICSI'd, 3 dividing on day 1.
3 still alive on day 2
ET Nov 20, 2008. All 3 going back!
8 cell grade 2, 6 cell grade 2, 7 cell grade 3 put back.
8dp3dt Brown spotting
AF arrived Nov 28, WAY early, thanks a lot...*sigh*
Beta Dec 1, 2008 (what is the point? NONE)
RE appointment April 27, 2009 to discuss IVF#2, and then I think we are done. Oh well, was a fun ride? *snicker*

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#28 KristaA

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Posted 21 May 2008 - 08:37 AM

Hopeful-That's always a kick in the junk when that happens! This girl I used to babysit just had #2 (She's only just turned 18) from a one noght stand in the bar! I really don't know how to respond to situations like that! It just makes me mad! :angry:
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Me (Krista): 34 DH (Rob): 31 (YES...I'm a cougar!:) )
We have 5 furr-babies (Dusty the pug, Yoda the siamese, and Abbey the orange tabby, Morty the white lionhead rabbit)
TTC: Since April/06
Cause: PCOS and male problems (blockage and antibodies)

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TTC Miracle #1
06/04/08- IUI #1 BFN
07/04/08- IUI #2 BFP
3/18/09-DS born

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TTC Miracle #2
04/18/10-07/15/10 Clomid Cycle IUI's #3, #4, #5, #6 ALL BFN
09/09/10-11/02/10- Puregon Injectible IUI #7, #8, #9 ALL BFN

The next step.......

IVF#1
02/07/011-ER~16 retrieved, 10 fertilized
02/12/2011-ET~5 frosties
02/21/2011-BETA #1~ WOOHOO! 141
02/23/2011-BETA #2~ Whoot whoot....342
02/27/2011-BETA #3~1497 :)
03/16/2011-1st u/s-OMG We're having twins!!!!! U/s showed two little beans bopping around! Twin A hb was 152 and Twin B hb was 166! I'm in shock!!! :)
04/04/2011-u/s Yup, still 2 in there!
04/06/2011-1st OB Appointment
04/28/2011-NT/Fetal Echo~Babies measuring right on track and everything looks good! Twin A HB 159 and Twin B HB 155.
05/04/2011-2nd Prenatal Appointment~All good with babes, my bp is on the rise though.....great here we go again with high bp! :(
06/08/2011-Anatomy Scan & 3rd Prenatal Appointment~ 2 MORE BOYS FOR US!!! :)~Holy DOODLE I'll have my hands full!
06/25/2011-3D u/s! It was AWESOME! Twin A hb 146 and Twin B hb 156. They are DEFINATELY boys! :)
07/13/2011-3rd Prenatal Appointment~ Both boys thriving! Twin A is 1lb9oz w/ hb167 and Twin B is 1lb7oz w/ hb165.
08/10/2011-4th Prenatal Appointment w/ u/s. All good starting to go every 2 weeks now. Twin A is approx. 2lb15oz and Twin B is approx. 3lb3oz.
08/24/2011-5th Prenatal appointment. Uh-oh bp's not so good have to see Dr every week now and she's threatening to put me in the hospital.
08/31/2011- 6th Prenatal appointment. BP's is REALLY bad...starting medication and the threat of hospital still lingers.... :(
09/07/2011-7th Prenatal appointment and u/s. Both babies weighing approx. 4lb6oz and doing GREAT. I've dropped and Dr warned me could be ANYDAY now......Ekkkk.....am I ready?!?!
10/06/2011-(36w4d)Bennett Lloyd Adam and Joshua Ernest Andrew made their appearance at 2:24am and 3:00am. Both weighed 6lbs and 6ozs. They are gorgeous and I'm so in love.......

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After years of trying and thousands of $$ spent for our miracle family my husband and I can finally say........SCREW YOU infertility we won and you lost! We have our family that you spent years taunting us with!! How does it feel bitch to be the loser this time!! :)

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the number of moments that take our breath away."

#29 KristaA

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Posted 21 May 2008 - 08:38 AM

LOL Sorry can't spell! "night" ;)
Me (Krista): 34 DH (Rob): 31 (YES...I'm a cougar!:) )
We have 5 furr-babies (Dusty the pug, Yoda the siamese, and Abbey the orange tabby, Morty the white lionhead rabbit)
TTC: Since April/06
Cause: PCOS and male problems (blockage and antibodies)

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TTC Miracle #1
06/04/08- IUI #1 BFN
07/04/08- IUI #2 BFP
3/18/09-DS born

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TTC Miracle #2
04/18/10-07/15/10 Clomid Cycle IUI's #3, #4, #5, #6 ALL BFN
09/09/10-11/02/10- Puregon Injectible IUI #7, #8, #9 ALL BFN

The next step.......

IVF#1
02/07/011-ER~16 retrieved, 10 fertilized
02/12/2011-ET~5 frosties
02/21/2011-BETA #1~ WOOHOO! 141
02/23/2011-BETA #2~ Whoot whoot....342
02/27/2011-BETA #3~1497 :)
03/16/2011-1st u/s-OMG We're having twins!!!!! U/s showed two little beans bopping around! Twin A hb was 152 and Twin B hb was 166! I'm in shock!!! :)
04/04/2011-u/s Yup, still 2 in there!
04/06/2011-1st OB Appointment
04/28/2011-NT/Fetal Echo~Babies measuring right on track and everything looks good! Twin A HB 159 and Twin B HB 155.
05/04/2011-2nd Prenatal Appointment~All good with babes, my bp is on the rise though.....great here we go again with high bp! :(
06/08/2011-Anatomy Scan & 3rd Prenatal Appointment~ 2 MORE BOYS FOR US!!! :)~Holy DOODLE I'll have my hands full!
06/25/2011-3D u/s! It was AWESOME! Twin A hb 146 and Twin B hb 156. They are DEFINATELY boys! :)
07/13/2011-3rd Prenatal Appointment~ Both boys thriving! Twin A is 1lb9oz w/ hb167 and Twin B is 1lb7oz w/ hb165.
08/10/2011-4th Prenatal Appointment w/ u/s. All good starting to go every 2 weeks now. Twin A is approx. 2lb15oz and Twin B is approx. 3lb3oz.
08/24/2011-5th Prenatal appointment. Uh-oh bp's not so good have to see Dr every week now and she's threatening to put me in the hospital.
08/31/2011- 6th Prenatal appointment. BP's is REALLY bad...starting medication and the threat of hospital still lingers.... :(
09/07/2011-7th Prenatal appointment and u/s. Both babies weighing approx. 4lb6oz and doing GREAT. I've dropped and Dr warned me could be ANYDAY now......Ekkkk.....am I ready?!?!
10/06/2011-(36w4d)Bennett Lloyd Adam and Joshua Ernest Andrew made their appearance at 2:24am and 3:00am. Both weighed 6lbs and 6ozs. They are gorgeous and I'm so in love.......

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After years of trying and thousands of $$ spent for our miracle family my husband and I can finally say........SCREW YOU infertility we won and you lost! We have our family that you spent years taunting us with!! How does it feel bitch to be the loser this time!! :)

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the number of moments that take our breath away."

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Posted 22 May 2008 - 05:52 PM

Oh while we're in a venting mood. My family support is so awesome - insert sarcasm here- when I confided to my FATHER that we were having IF issues and that we had been trying for 2 years and our next step was a 10K procedure, His brilliant supportive response " Wow, you must really want kids. I'm not sure why you're having problems, you must not be a part of ou famiily. Non of your Aunts had ay problems and your Grandmothers had 17 kids between the two of them." I FN almost had a heart attack and climbed across the table to B*tch slap him. I of course restrained myself and managed to mutter " Yeah, well they were all 13 when they got pregnant. Adding insult to injury, my brother has 6 illegitimate children from 3 different woman, my stepsister 3 children - 2 different fathers and a stepbrother with 2 kids. All 3 of them Bro. SS + SB dropped out of school to be cool.Non of them married, in dead end jobs. While I went to college, worked part time and have spent the better part of the last 20 years being a good girl and focusing on my career and marrying a great guy. Doing the responsible thing and paying my bills. Ugh, oh am I in a mood today. I think the two martini's after work have just sunk in. Thanks for the vent!

#31 hopeful_flyer

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Posted 23 May 2008 - 07:18 AM

Oh I hear you Melissa!!!

While I was busy with my 'career', brother started breeding. And now I am left with a career I dont' even care for, and no kids.

I wish I could smack myself...LOL. :D
ttc #1 Since Jan 2006. as of April 09 that means ttc for 40 months. Jebus. *sigh*
Bilaterally blocked tubes discovered Dec 2007
IVF#1 June, 2008 agonist protocol
300IU gonal f, 13 days of stims. Nothing to transfer.
EPIC FAIL
IVF#2 Started BCP for Antagonist protocol Oct 9, 2008 (menopur and centrotide)
Last BCP, Nov 2, 2008
First U/S Nov 2, start 300iu Menopur Nov 7, 2008
Back for daily scans and bloods starting Nov 11, 2008
U/S showed 5 follies between 1.1 and 1.25 start Centrotide today.
Nov 13 U/S showed 7 follies between 1.2 and 1.5
Next U/S Nov 14 10 follies
Trigger Nov 15
ER date, Nov 17th
6 retrieved.
4 mature and ICSI'd, 3 dividing on day 1.
3 still alive on day 2
ET Nov 20, 2008. All 3 going back!
8 cell grade 2, 6 cell grade 2, 7 cell grade 3 put back.
8dp3dt Brown spotting
AF arrived Nov 28, WAY early, thanks a lot...*sigh*
Beta Dec 1, 2008 (what is the point? NONE)
RE appointment April 27, 2009 to discuss IVF#2, and then I think we are done. Oh well, was a fun ride? *snicker*

I swear by my life and my love of it that I will not live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for the sake of mine. -Atlas Shrugged

“Unthinking respect for authority is the greatest enemy of truth.”- Einstein.

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Posted 23 May 2008 - 10:29 AM

I'm another who thinks it's totally unfair and annoying! A year and a half ago everyone seemed to get pregnant. My hubbys brother and step brother both got their wives pregnant, his business partner and his wife were pregnant, his best friend for 20 years and his wife got pregnant. Christmas last year was tough. I was in a room surrounded by babies. Everyone knew we were having problems conceiving, but it didn't stop any of them from asking when we were finally going to have one. People can be so insensitive.
My sister-in-law was the worst. She planned her baby shower at MY house, didn't bother to ask me, just planned it then said "oh by the way..." I can't even go to baby showers anymore so having one at my house was sooo hard, I ended up outside most of the time. Her and hubbys brother got pregnant again when their first baby was 3 months I cried but tried to feel happy, she had a miscarrage and is now pregnant again. They came over a few weeks ago and she insisted on telling me how lucky she was to be pregnant 3 times in one year, she went on and on and on. This last month we just found out that all those people who had babies last year are ALL pregnant again.... I think people should just stop getting pregnant until I do hahahaha I'm so selfish lol

#33 Ever Hopeful

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Posted 24 May 2008 - 06:00 PM

OMG I love you girls!
It seems like the people the least deserving are the ones who are always "oops" getting PG. Maybe it seems harsh to say undeserving but I realy feel like that some days. Having been married for nearly 8 years, the question about children gets hearder and harder to avoid at family functions and get togethers with friends. You try to brush it off like you're purposely trying not to get PG yet all the while dying inside because only you know the struggles you have been through and continue to face. It's so nice when people point out the fact that "it's so much better to have them while you're young *yes thank you - I'll get right on that like it's as easy as buying bread ughhhh!)

15 year old cousin "oops", 17 year old cousin "oops", unmarried friends, newlywed friends get PG on their honeymoon (awww!).....the list goes on and on.

My DH and I have both established ourselves in a home, with good careers and are generally seen by people as having it "all together", we seem to be able to have so many successes and be so strong in our lives about everything but having our family. When it's all you think about it's everywhere and every comment, annoucement and PG person you see, cuts like a knife into your heart.

I've had to stop reading People magazine (my favourite!!) cuz I'm just so sick of hearing about every celebrity in the world getting PG, whether unwed or 16 years old or getting their children taken away because they're too much of a mess to even take care of themselves.

I like to think about how much stronger this has made me as a person and how much strength it has brought to our relationship as a couple. It sounds realy corny but I feel like after everything we've already been through we could tackle anything together!! Our tongues are forever thickened by all the biting we've had to endure!

Be strong ladies and know that for as many people out there who don't understand...they are as many "in here" that do.
Smiles.
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Me: 32 DH: 30
Married: since 2000 TTC: since 2000
(history detail achived to 'About Me' page)
2 lap surgeries - right tube removed
6 cycles - Serophene/Femara
IVF, ET July 1 (-)
IVF, ET Oct23 (-)
FET, ET Jan 27 (cancelled Jan26)
FET, ET Feb 26 (-)
FET, ET Apr 24 Beta - May 8th - BFP, Beta - May 10th - More than Doubled
Our first miracle was taken from us ~ 11w6d missed m/c discovered
IVF#3 - Underway November 2009 - THIS IS THE ONE!!!!!!
ER - Nov 16 16 Retreived, 11 fertilized normally
ET - Nov 21 2 blasts :) :) grow babies grow!!
Beta #1 14dp5dt 2036 Beta #2 16dp5dt 4900
u/s#1 Dec21(7w) TWINS!!!!!! measuring 7w3d, 7w2d both heartbeats 139
u/s#2 Dec 29, Due to spotting ~ babes looking great
u/s#3 Jan 4(9w) ~ Babes looking great!!!
u/s#4 Jan 8 @ ER Massive bleeding diagnosed as Subchronic Hemmorhage ~ babes bouncing around like nothing was bothering them :)
u/s#5 Jan 15, followup u/s to check on babes following hemmorhage & first prenatal appnt.
u/s#6 Jan 22, NT scan ~ perfect results babes are measuring 11w6d & 12w ~ Graduated from the Fertility Clinic :)
1st OB appnt. Jan 26 ~ what a great great doctor!!!
2nd OB appnt. Feb 4 ~ I'm concerned that I'm still spotting ~ Dr. said can take time to expel the 2 clots that resulted from the hemmorage (2 more weeks?)
u/s#7 Feb 13 @ ER ~ another hemmorage started the day before. Babes look great, and active.
Baby A - 15w3d - 146bpm - 121 grams (4.26 ounces) Baby B - 15w2d - 155bpm - 122 grams (4.3 ounces)
3rd OB appnt. Feb 18 ~ pretty much a nothing appnt. Now up about 15 pds since peeing on that first stick
Anatomy u/s - March 16 ~ IT'S A BOY AND (LIKELY) A GIRL !!!! LOL Our little girl was all cuddled into a ball for the whole u/s - gender to be confirmed
4th OB appnt. booked for March 22 ~ results of Anatomy scan, perfect!!
3D ultrasound April 8 ~ IT'S A VERY ENERGETIC BOY AND A SUPER CUDDLY GIRL !!!!! Yippee!!!!
Growth u/s - April 12
5th OB appnt. April 15
Pre-Birth Clinic at the Hopital completed, Prenatal classes completed. It's realy starting to sink in!!!!!
July ~ Many Many amazing ultrasounds and OB appointments later.....
We are realy to meet the Miracles :) :)
Section date of July 22nd (Oh my goodness that's my little boy and little girl's birthday!!!) *Tear
The babies are here!! The babies are here!! We are sooooo in love :)

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Posted 24 May 2008 - 11:35 PM

If it makes any of you ladies feel better, my husband and I had an "oops" pregnancy when we were quite young, underemployed and a student,......and have never been able to conceive again in 14 years!!!

Did I "deserve" my baby, hell yeah! Did I appreciate the ability to conceive, hell no!

I never got to decorate a baby room, buy the "dream crib" etc. as I had my child extremely young and $$$$ was extremely tight. Just remember when you seen a young mom-to-be that may be her only baby and she might be posting on this same board many years from now after desperately trying to have another....

At least my family has stopped asking about more children... they assume we wouldn't want any more so far apart...how little do they know! I keep telling my sister to give me one of hers and she can have more...so far she hasn't gone for the bait....

#35 Ever Hopeful

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Posted 25 May 2008 - 12:24 AM

If it makes any of you ladies feel better, my husband and I had an "oops" pregnancy when we were quite young, underemployed and a student,......and have never been able to conceive again in 14 years!!!

Did I "deserve" my baby, hell yeah! Did I appreciate the ability to conceive, hell no!

I never got to decorate a baby room, buy the "dream crib" etc. as I had my child extremely young and $$$$ was extremely tight. Just remember when you seen a young mom-to-be that may be her only baby and she might be posting on this same board many years from now after desperately trying to have another....

At least my family has stopped asking about more children... they assume we wouldn't want any more so far apart...how little do they know! I keep telling my sister to give me one of hers and she can have more...so far she hasn't gone for the bait....


Glad you can appreciate the ability to conceive.
As for making me feel better...no.
Me: 32 DH: 30
Married: since 2000 TTC: since 2000
(history detail achived to 'About Me' page)
2 lap surgeries - right tube removed
6 cycles - Serophene/Femara
IVF, ET July 1 (-)
IVF, ET Oct23 (-)
FET, ET Jan 27 (cancelled Jan26)
FET, ET Feb 26 (-)
FET, ET Apr 24 Beta - May 8th - BFP, Beta - May 10th - More than Doubled
Our first miracle was taken from us ~ 11w6d missed m/c discovered
IVF#3 - Underway November 2009 - THIS IS THE ONE!!!!!!
ER - Nov 16 16 Retreived, 11 fertilized normally
ET - Nov 21 2 blasts :) :) grow babies grow!!
Beta #1 14dp5dt 2036 Beta #2 16dp5dt 4900
u/s#1 Dec21(7w) TWINS!!!!!! measuring 7w3d, 7w2d both heartbeats 139
u/s#2 Dec 29, Due to spotting ~ babes looking great
u/s#3 Jan 4(9w) ~ Babes looking great!!!
u/s#4 Jan 8 @ ER Massive bleeding diagnosed as Subchronic Hemmorhage ~ babes bouncing around like nothing was bothering them :)
u/s#5 Jan 15, followup u/s to check on babes following hemmorhage & first prenatal appnt.
u/s#6 Jan 22, NT scan ~ perfect results babes are measuring 11w6d & 12w ~ Graduated from the Fertility Clinic :)
1st OB appnt. Jan 26 ~ what a great great doctor!!!
2nd OB appnt. Feb 4 ~ I'm concerned that I'm still spotting ~ Dr. said can take time to expel the 2 clots that resulted from the hemmorage (2 more weeks?)
u/s#7 Feb 13 @ ER ~ another hemmorage started the day before. Babes look great, and active.
Baby A - 15w3d - 146bpm - 121 grams (4.26 ounces) Baby B - 15w2d - 155bpm - 122 grams (4.3 ounces)
3rd OB appnt. Feb 18 ~ pretty much a nothing appnt. Now up about 15 pds since peeing on that first stick
Anatomy u/s - March 16 ~ IT'S A BOY AND (LIKELY) A GIRL !!!! LOL Our little girl was all cuddled into a ball for the whole u/s - gender to be confirmed
4th OB appnt. booked for March 22 ~ results of Anatomy scan, perfect!!
3D ultrasound April 8 ~ IT'S A VERY ENERGETIC BOY AND A SUPER CUDDLY GIRL !!!!! Yippee!!!!
Growth u/s - April 12
5th OB appnt. April 15
Pre-Birth Clinic at the Hopital completed, Prenatal classes completed. It's realy starting to sink in!!!!!
July ~ Many Many amazing ultrasounds and OB appointments later.....
We are realy to meet the Miracles :) :)
Section date of July 22nd (Oh my goodness that's my little boy and little girl's birthday!!!) *Tear
The babies are here!! The babies are here!! We are sooooo in love :)

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Posted 26 May 2008 - 11:57 AM

Happy2BeMe.

I'm sure coping with Secondary Infertility is just as painful, frustrating, and exhaustive. There is a support group for Secondary Fertility on this site, I'm sure this is a group of very supportive women who do feel and understand your journey.

Having a baby for me is not about decorating a baby's room or buying clothes. You have been blessed to have one child, while some of us are doing everything in our power to be blessed just by one. I'm not sure I can relate to your journey, sorry


Hugs to everyone, may you all be blessed.
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#37 Maya_

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Posted 26 May 2008 - 07:53 PM

A few years back, I've been going through a hell of emotions when I heard that somebody conceived. I felt so furious inside me that I was ready to shoot the happy expectant mother and her deserving father-to-be. I know that this is an extreme feeling but at nights I was sobbing in my pillow, wondering what I have done to deserve the childless curse.

I never became friends with my sister-in-law who had three accidental pregnancies. She went on and on saying how much she wanted a fourth baby and how terrible it was that her hubby did a vasectomy. I don't know how I did not kill her right there. In the eyes of DH's parents, she was always an example to us, "career couple", of which we were constantly reminded during their visits.

My grief over IF lost its intensity over time. I learnt how to live with it, just how a person learns to walk on crutches. I can tolerate women and babies, and I actually enjoy spending time with babies. I guess, deep inside I accepted that I may never get pregnant. I opened my heart and mind to adoption thinking that some children will never have a mother, being raised in an orphanage. And if I continue IF treatments I will go crazy, and won't be allowed to adopt for health reasons. :)

I need a drink. :)
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May 2012 DE IVF m/c at 6 weeks
Aug 2013 - DE FET twin pregnancy, m/c at 8 weeks
Nov 2014 - DE FET (BFN)
Jan 2015 - DE FET (BFP) - miracle baby boy born.

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Posted 27 June 2008 - 01:13 AM

This site is wonderful. People who "get it"!! I've got to vent a little myself....

It continues to amaze me how people are so insensitive... I was at a baby shower last week (yep, not the best situation to start with), when a person I thought of as a friend (who knows I have been experiencing IF) announced her second pregnancy.

Fine- I try to be happy for others (though of course I am usually jealous first!!)- but I don't want to beget others their happiness. THEN, she announces.. "and it was a SURPRISE - AGAIN! You'd think a health care professional would know how to prevent these things!" OMG- I could not believe how insensitve she was. I was stunned.

ARGHH....
Me: 36, DH 34
-unexplained infertilty
-TTC since May 05
-Edmonton Fertility Clinic
-clomid "au naturel" June 07, Aug 07- BFN
-4 IUI's on clomid July 07, Sept 07, Oct 07, Oct 07 (it's a long month- I fit 2 in!)- BFN
-3 IUI's with superovulation Nov 07, Jan 08, March 08- BFN
-started accupuncture in March 08

IVF #1 at PCRM in July 08
-ER July 18th- 16 eggs- 10 mature- 8 fertilized normally
-ET July 23rd (day 5 transfer)- 2 embies..... no icebabies...... BFN :-(

IVF #2 at PCRM in Nov 08
-ER Nov 12 - 16 eggs- 9 mature- 8 fertilized normally
-ET Nov 17 (5 days transfer)- 2 embies... no icebabies...
-Beta Nov 26=7 = chemical pregnancy. BFN :-(

-Starting the domestic adoption process!

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Posted 27 June 2008 - 07:41 AM

The other day someone announced to me that they were expecting number two.

And that since our ivf failed I should get another cat.

UGH.
ttc #1 Since Jan 2006. as of April 09 that means ttc for 40 months. Jebus. *sigh*
Bilaterally blocked tubes discovered Dec 2007
IVF#1 June, 2008 agonist protocol
300IU gonal f, 13 days of stims. Nothing to transfer.
EPIC FAIL
IVF#2 Started BCP for Antagonist protocol Oct 9, 2008 (menopur and centrotide)
Last BCP, Nov 2, 2008
First U/S Nov 2, start 300iu Menopur Nov 7, 2008
Back for daily scans and bloods starting Nov 11, 2008
U/S showed 5 follies between 1.1 and 1.25 start Centrotide today.
Nov 13 U/S showed 7 follies between 1.2 and 1.5
Next U/S Nov 14 10 follies
Trigger Nov 15
ER date, Nov 17th
6 retrieved.
4 mature and ICSI'd, 3 dividing on day 1.
3 still alive on day 2
ET Nov 20, 2008. All 3 going back!
8 cell grade 2, 6 cell grade 2, 7 cell grade 3 put back.
8dp3dt Brown spotting
AF arrived Nov 28, WAY early, thanks a lot...*sigh*
Beta Dec 1, 2008 (what is the point? NONE)
RE appointment April 27, 2009 to discuss IVF#2, and then I think we are done. Oh well, was a fun ride? *snicker*

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Posted 27 June 2008 - 07:58 AM

hopeful - becuase it's you I can laugh " you should get another cat" I can't believe someone who even imagine saying thoes words out loud ( although i am laughing now as I read that) - laughing because I can't believe there is actually someone so stupid to say that - it's horrible lol.

I read something on here I really agree with - about how much more we'll value our children.
**DS mentioned ...

I have one DS concieved naturally and very possibly will never have another one even with the help of IVF unfortunately - anyways this whole journey has made me realize how incredibly luck I am to have one little miracle, I can't believe people would EVER complain about their children, and I feel awful that some people take it for granted. It is such a special miracle to be blessed with - and when everyone here gets a BFP I'm sure the baby(ies) will be so incredibly cherrished because we know how much of a miracle they really are :)
Me 25...DH 30....DS 3 ( concieved naturally born dec/05 )
IVF #1 - ER(07/04/08) 6 follies, 1 egg, 3dt of 4 cell grade 3.5 embie = BFN 07/19/09......DISASTER
IVF #2 - ER (09/25/08) 13 follies, 8 eggs 100% fertilization, 5dt 2 cavitating morulas = BFN 10/06/08......Getting Better
IVF #3 - ER (03/01/09) 7 follies, 5 egss, 4 fertilized, transfered 3 embryos 9 cell 3.0, 8 cell 2.5 and 7 cell 2.5 = BFP
Early Beta -13dp3dt 500 Second Beta - 15dp3dt 1649 Third beta -21dp3dt 12,300

G/G/B triplets!!!!

Babies born on due date Oct 14th
Baby A - Alanna Chelsea 5lbs 6oz
Baby B - Benjamin Albert 5lbs
Baby C - Lauren Summer 5lbs

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Posted 27 June 2008 - 08:09 AM

heh, exactly.

It was almost too unbelievable to believe. Which is why he came out unscathed...I was in too much shock to smack him in the face. ;)
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Bilaterally blocked tubes discovered Dec 2007
IVF#1 June, 2008 agonist protocol
300IU gonal f, 13 days of stims. Nothing to transfer.
EPIC FAIL
IVF#2 Started BCP for Antagonist protocol Oct 9, 2008 (menopur and centrotide)
Last BCP, Nov 2, 2008
First U/S Nov 2, start 300iu Menopur Nov 7, 2008
Back for daily scans and bloods starting Nov 11, 2008
U/S showed 5 follies between 1.1 and 1.25 start Centrotide today.
Nov 13 U/S showed 7 follies between 1.2 and 1.5
Next U/S Nov 14 10 follies
Trigger Nov 15
ER date, Nov 17th
6 retrieved.
4 mature and ICSI'd, 3 dividing on day 1.
3 still alive on day 2
ET Nov 20, 2008. All 3 going back!
8 cell grade 2, 6 cell grade 2, 7 cell grade 3 put back.
8dp3dt Brown spotting
AF arrived Nov 28, WAY early, thanks a lot...*sigh*
Beta Dec 1, 2008 (what is the point? NONE)
RE appointment April 27, 2009 to discuss IVF#2, and then I think we are done. Oh well, was a fun ride? *snicker*

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Posted 27 June 2008 - 08:18 AM

I bet LOL...you should get a cat.....what an idiot. ( still laughing at the insenstivity)
Me 25...DH 30....DS 3 ( concieved naturally born dec/05 )
IVF #1 - ER(07/04/08) 6 follies, 1 egg, 3dt of 4 cell grade 3.5 embie = BFN 07/19/09......DISASTER
IVF #2 - ER (09/25/08) 13 follies, 8 eggs 100% fertilization, 5dt 2 cavitating morulas = BFN 10/06/08......Getting Better
IVF #3 - ER (03/01/09) 7 follies, 5 egss, 4 fertilized, transfered 3 embryos 9 cell 3.0, 8 cell 2.5 and 7 cell 2.5 = BFP
Early Beta -13dp3dt 500 Second Beta - 15dp3dt 1649 Third beta -21dp3dt 12,300

G/G/B triplets!!!!

Babies born on due date Oct 14th
Baby A - Alanna Chelsea 5lbs 6oz
Baby B - Benjamin Albert 5lbs
Baby C - Lauren Summer 5lbs

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Posted 27 June 2008 - 08:21 AM

hopeful - becuase it's you I can laugh " you should get another cat" I can't believe someone who even imagine saying thoes words out loud ( although i am laughing now as I read that) - laughing because I can't believe there is actually someone so stupid to say that - it's horrible lol.

I read something on here I really agree with - about how much more we'll value our children.
**DS mentioned ...

I have one DS concieved naturally and very possibly will never have another one even with the help of IVF unfortunately - anyways this whole journey has made me realize how incredibly luck I am to have one little miracle, I can't believe people would EVER complain about their children, and I feel awful that some people take it for granted. It is such a special miracle to be blessed with - and when everyone here gets a BFP I'm sure the baby(ies) will be so incredibly cherrished because we know how much of a miracle they really are :)


I'm justing popping in really quick because this statement is one that I do have a problem with & one that I struggle with. Don't let IF rob you of the right to complain and be a "normal" parent, complaining about your kids doesen't mean you don't love them, everyday I feel like I won the lottery & I'm very very blessed I don't take that for granted BUT I do have stressful days like any other mom & I feel I have the right to complain about my kids just like any other "normal" mom. Ok I'm butting out just had to put my 2 cents in.

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Posted 27 June 2008 - 08:46 AM

*DS mentioned.
You're right Jaan sometimes he drives me crazy, and I think its human to complain a little bit - but I complain about things he does (ie peeing on the carpet this morning just for fun because mom it made a puddle!) but I would never complain about him - just things he does :) Big difference I think!
Me 25...DH 30....DS 3 ( concieved naturally born dec/05 )
IVF #1 - ER(07/04/08) 6 follies, 1 egg, 3dt of 4 cell grade 3.5 embie = BFN 07/19/09......DISASTER
IVF #2 - ER (09/25/08) 13 follies, 8 eggs 100% fertilization, 5dt 2 cavitating morulas = BFN 10/06/08......Getting Better
IVF #3 - ER (03/01/09) 7 follies, 5 egss, 4 fertilized, transfered 3 embryos 9 cell 3.0, 8 cell 2.5 and 7 cell 2.5 = BFP
Early Beta -13dp3dt 500 Second Beta - 15dp3dt 1649 Third beta -21dp3dt 12,300

G/G/B triplets!!!!

Babies born on due date Oct 14th
Baby A - Alanna Chelsea 5lbs 6oz
Baby B - Benjamin Albert 5lbs
Baby C - Lauren Summer 5lbs

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Posted 27 June 2008 - 09:00 AM

The words I live by are "It's all relative"....there is ALWAYS someone worse off than you, struggling more, hurting more...but that does not lessen the pain you feel when you lay awake at night crying, or ease the physical sickness in your belly when you get yet another BFN result!!

When someone makes an assinine comment to me (like when hearing my infertility is due to cancer saying "you are lucky to be alive. You should thank God for that and not ask for too much"), I just remember that my pain is real and I do not let them take away my right to feel the way I do. Just because I survived Cancer does not mean I have no other hopes for my life!!

That being said I have also realized that at my age (33) most of the women I come into contact with WILL have children and WILL talk about them incessantly (like they should). It is virtually impossible to avoid....for me it's been kind of like being on a strict diet and surrounded by fresh cupcakes all day every day!!! (excuse my simplification)...Ha!!

This forum has been a Godsend for me, because I don't know ANYONE else who has been through this struggle. When I read some things on here, I smile and laugh! It's great to know other people feel like throttling their pregnant friends sometimes and it's not JUST me!! LOL

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Posted 27 June 2008 - 09:22 AM

The other day someone announced to me that they were expecting number two.

And that since our ivf failed I should get another cat.

UGH.



LOL!

Yeah, get another cat that you can train double o seven style so it can sneak into their house under the cover of darkness spray their furniture and shred their carpet, then poop in the back of the closet so they can't find the smell and all their clothes stink....

Darn Evilyn, she's still around.

Then kitty can be all "puss in boots" cute with it's big beautiful eyes and purr and rub up against their legs when they come visit. Then you can all look at them a little cockeyed as your nose curls and you wonder what the heck that smell is!




Or not.... that could just be me....

Perhaps villainous ploys aren't for grouches?



Hope you have a great Friday!

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9 IUIs, 12 months Fermara, 4 months Clomid, 5 rounds of injectable, 1 LAP, 1 HSG, 2 Uterine Biopsies, 1 Postcoital, 1 IVF, 2 FETs... 2nd Fesh Cycle IVF - ++Beta 110!

TTC#2 - Dreams coming true... Surprise BFP Au Naturel! Never really started trying, but never gave up hope on dreams coming true. 20w2, after 6 days of strict bedrest, we lost our baby boy, Emmett to my incompetent cervix and he was born sleeping. 24cm long, 0.67lbs he was the most perfect little angel and has brought with him many lessons for us to remember him by.

Lightening strikes twice apparently>>>> May 24 ++HPT, Followed by ++Beta. Numbers are low, but doubling. EDD Feb1/2013 ~ Baby Boy arrived 5 weeks early in under 2hrs. Left me with 4th degree tears. 2 years later, still pending reconstructive surgery :( In that time hubby had a vasectomy. Never thought we'd have a chance to take fertility into our own hands

#47 hopeful_flyer

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Posted 27 June 2008 - 09:39 AM

I LOVE IT.

Actually, very close to what dh said...I think his exact words were these...

"How about I train the 4 freaking cats I have to find him and claw his face off?????"

hehee.

It is in total grouch style...I love plotting, even if I never get to execute...heh. ;)
ttc #1 Since Jan 2006. as of April 09 that means ttc for 40 months. Jebus. *sigh*
Bilaterally blocked tubes discovered Dec 2007
IVF#1 June, 2008 agonist protocol
300IU gonal f, 13 days of stims. Nothing to transfer.
EPIC FAIL
IVF#2 Started BCP for Antagonist protocol Oct 9, 2008 (menopur and centrotide)
Last BCP, Nov 2, 2008
First U/S Nov 2, start 300iu Menopur Nov 7, 2008
Back for daily scans and bloods starting Nov 11, 2008
U/S showed 5 follies between 1.1 and 1.25 start Centrotide today.
Nov 13 U/S showed 7 follies between 1.2 and 1.5
Next U/S Nov 14 10 follies
Trigger Nov 15
ER date, Nov 17th
6 retrieved.
4 mature and ICSI'd, 3 dividing on day 1.
3 still alive on day 2
ET Nov 20, 2008. All 3 going back!
8 cell grade 2, 6 cell grade 2, 7 cell grade 3 put back.
8dp3dt Brown spotting
AF arrived Nov 28, WAY early, thanks a lot...*sigh*
Beta Dec 1, 2008 (what is the point? NONE)
RE appointment April 27, 2009 to discuss IVF#2, and then I think we are done. Oh well, was a fun ride? *snicker*

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Posted 27 June 2008 - 05:55 PM

Hey Guess what, It's Friday and I just got my period!!!!! Whooo hoow, first period after my miscarriage. That means we can try naturally this month! Cocktails all around tonight. Let's start with Martinis. How's that for looking at the positive? Oh and the cat comment - I would SSOOOO be plotting revenge. Just a tiny one. You ladies make me cry and burst out loud laughing!

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Posted 28 June 2008 - 11:52 PM

I know how hard it is to hear about new pregnancies, especially if they are extra fertile and always in your face about their conceiving efforts and suceeding, even if you want to be happy for them. What irritates me the most is when people--mostly family--say that if I am less stressed, maybe it will happen naturally. My husband has low sperm count and motility and IVF was our only option. Plus, we tried for years. I think people who have not been through IVF can not really imagine how you feel or what to say.

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Posted 01 July 2008 - 12:41 PM

The other day someone announced to me that they were expecting number two.

And that since our ivf failed I should get another cat.

UGH.

WHAT AN IDIOT!!!