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#1 BabyPollard

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Posted 08 July 2013 - 06:38 PM

Hello Everyone,

 

I am so happy to have found an up to date forum!  My name is Cheryl,  please see a brief history of me below.  I am looking for someone who has or is going through the same situation as I am.  I am very scared to begin IVF and could use a buddy or an advisor to help calm my nerves.  Also please be patient with me as I am not too educated on the IVF terms or lingo!  I ask when replying to me to keep this in mind.

 

I am 29, already have 3 children (2 boys and a girl) with my ex whom I split with about 3 years ago.  I am now engaged to my fiancé whom does not have a child of his own but makes a fantastic step father.  we have been saving for our IVF for 2 years now and are finally ready to start this process.  I had my tubes tied 4 years ago after the c section birth of my daughter which is why I now require IVF.  my OBGYN thought that tube reversal was more risky with lower chances.  everything else seems to be ok with me minus the fact that I suffer from horrible anxiety which you will likely pick up by the end of this post.  My fiancé is perfectly fine.  He recently had an SCA test which came back perfectly fine! thank god! I had an IUD in to control heavy periods for over three years now which I recently had removed.  This month (July) I will be doing my first diagnostic cycle monitoring as well as my sonohysterogram  and endometrial sampling.  I am very worried about this process and do not know what to expect.  our goal is to transfer and embryo in Oct.  My fertility doctor thinks we have good chances and I should not worry.  I have seen people on here saying they have done 3 rounds before getting pregnant.  I am very scared to pay my entire savings to something that has no guarantee, how far do I go, when do we draw the line?  We have also opted for ICSI.  Please see a list of my below questions and if anyone has any answers please feel free to write back  I appreciate any help!

 

do you think ICSI is helpful?

 

what happen is I do not get pregnant in my first round? do I use a frozen embryo?

 

can someone walk me through the steps of first round success ?

 

what are the steps for the second round ?

 

how long will it take to know if the embryo took?

 

how long do I have to wait to do round two after the failed round?

 

is any part of this process severely painful?

 

am I being too optimistic selecting a month I hope to transfer an embryo?

 

do you have full complete trust that your fertility doctor is not just trying to take your money and sabotage any of your ivf rounds? (I know.... I know.... but I had to ask) 

 

any extra advise?

 

 

Thank you....

 

Sincerely terrified.

 

 

 

 


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me 30, dh 32

 

 

Jan 2009 tubal litigation

April 2009 IUD put in to regulate period

May 2013 initial visit with FS

June 2013 IUD removed

July 2013 diagnostics cycle monitoring

July 2013 sonohysterogram & endometrial sampling  completed

Sept 2013 all results from me and DH come back normal

Oct 2013 waiting for period to start cycle 1

Oct 2nd period started, IVF cycle #1

FS will have me starting on BCP, Lupron, Gonal F, PPC HCG, progesterone oil

Cycle cancelled due to hyper stimulation cry.gif 

 

Oct 6th 2014 GOT MARRIED! 

 

IVF Cycle #2

Started 225 of Gonal F..........crsd.gif 

pray for us eusa_pray.gif 


#2 lesley1978

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Posted 08 July 2013 - 07:40 PM

icsi: yes, we had it as a back up but wish we did it from the start (see my info)

 

if no bfp 1st round, alot of things will determine if you do a FET(frozen embryo transfer), 1st:if you have any to freeze(day5 usually), what your dr recommends. No set answers in ivf, things change as you go along.

 

Pregancy test:Depends what day you do the transfer on and the clinics prefence on 3dt(day transfer) or 5 dt they will let you know when to do bloodwork for your beta(pregancy test).

 

Wait time between: depends on alot of factors,need to talk to ur dr after.

 

pain: no pain no gain:)kidding  well depends on the person/clinic. I had alot of complications from overstimulation due to PCOS, don't be scared. everyone is different. 

 

goto a dr you feel comfortable with, lots of clinics out there and be pro active! personally I like to educate myself on the ins/outs of ivf. You are the only one that knows what you are comfortable with, go with your gut.

 

Ivf is full of ups and downs, but so is life...it is what you make of it! Don't be afraid to ask for support because you will need it:)

hope this helps..welcome to the site, lots of great info here.

Lesley


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#3 JacMac

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Posted 08 July 2013 - 07:48 PM

Welcome to the roller coaster ride.

Most of IVF isn't too painful. I found the HSG test for blocke tubes to be the most painful, but everyone's experience is different.
I don't think IVF clinics plan for cycles to ail but with that being said it definitely isn't an exact science. Sometimes it takes more than one cycle to nail down the proper protocol. The fact you've had three successful pregnancies though means that you most likely don't have immune issues which often cause unexplained fertility. If your only reason for IVF is your tubal ligation I imagine you shouldn't have many issues.

We just did our first round this winter and I don't know if a clinic will specifically let you pick a month as usually it depends on wait,sits and how busy they are. We know we were lucky to get pregnant on our first cycle.
Some suggestions made to me by my acupuncturist were to avoid gluten and dairy as much as possible in the few weeks before starting treatment and egg retrieval/transfer as they promote inflammation in the body which can hinder implantation.
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Me - now 36 Him - 37
Trying to conceive since our wedding day May 25, 2008.
Started Clomid Jan-April 2012.
Referred to RFP June 2012.
First consult at RFP November 2012.
First IVF cycle on antagonist protocol (GonalF, Luveris) January 2013.
Transferred two day-3 embryos, had severe OHSS, lost one twin between 7-13 weeks but was expecting one little one October 2013.
Found out at 6 mos that our little one had died weeks earlier and had to induce and deliver stillborn, July 25, 2013.
Something found on adrenal gland at follow up ultrasound, MRI showed what seems to be a benign tumor. Meeting with specialist Jan 8, 2014 - all fertility treatments on hold. :/
Tumour is definitely producing Aldosterone (causes high blood pressure) and Cortisol. Lucky me, only 34 similar cases recorded in the world! Tumour removed May 2014.
Approached about a possible adoption March 2014. Rush through all the paperwork and process.
Charlotte Evangeline born June 27, 2014. We brought her home on July 7 and held our breath for 10 days until she officially became ours.
Surprise BFP October 2014. Due to wonky cycles, ultrasounds convince Doctors I have a blighted ovum but detailed ultrasound reveals heartbeat at 6w3d. On progesterone support and waiting to see if pregnancy is still viable. Holding our breath again.
Adalyn Marie born on June 9, 2014 after a roller coaster pregnancy.

#4 BabyPollard

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Posted 08 July 2013 - 07:55 PM

thank you ladies! I appreciate all of the info! keep it coming!!!


Cheryl  wub.png

 

me 30, dh 32

 

 

Jan 2009 tubal litigation

April 2009 IUD put in to regulate period

May 2013 initial visit with FS

June 2013 IUD removed

July 2013 diagnostics cycle monitoring

July 2013 sonohysterogram & endometrial sampling  completed

Sept 2013 all results from me and DH come back normal

Oct 2013 waiting for period to start cycle 1

Oct 2nd period started, IVF cycle #1

FS will have me starting on BCP, Lupron, Gonal F, PPC HCG, progesterone oil

Cycle cancelled due to hyper stimulation cry.gif 

 

Oct 6th 2014 GOT MARRIED! 

 

IVF Cycle #2

Started 225 of Gonal F..........crsd.gif 

pray for us eusa_pray.gif 


#5 JAllen

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Posted 08 July 2013 - 08:24 PM

Do you think ICSI is helpful?

  yes it is helpful. We did it becuase we have male factor.

what happen is I do not get pregnant in my first round? do I use a frozen embryo?

   Yes you can use a frozen one if you have one. If you don't you need to do another fresh cycle.

 

how long will it take to know if the embryo took?

   the clinic will give you a date to come back from a blood test.  At my clinic its about 15 days from ER (Egg retrieval) date

 

how long do I have to wait to do round two after the failed round?

depends on your clinic. My clinic is two periods after the failed cycle. agains it depends on if there is a wait list. 

 

is any part of this process severely painful?

Everyone is different. but for me the ER was awfully painful. But my ovaries are not always co-operative and like to run away from the doctor. but they give me good drugs and the prize at the end makes it  worth it ...

 

am I being too optimistic selecting a month I hope to transfer an embryo?

  again depends on your clinic.  If the clininc has wait times to start you  ay have to wait. 

 

do you have full complete trust that your fertility doctor is not just trying to take your money and sabotage any of your ivf rounds? (I know.... I know.... but I had to ask) 

 yes i have  complete trust in my doctor and my clinic. 

any extra advise?

get ready for an emotional ride. This is not an easy process for you or your partner. Try and find some support for both of you. This website is great place to start. There are so many supportive ladies here. Not sure i could have made it through my two failed cycles with out the awesome support i got here. 

 

Good Luck! 


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Start TTC in 2008 ( Me: 26 DH 28)
Referred to OFC June 2009 testing until 2012 
January 2012....MF
Feb 10 2012 .......Consent signing to IVF!

IVF 1 May 2012- BFN IVF 2 Jan 2013 -BFN  IVF 3 May 2013 BFN  FET #1  Oct 2013 BFN 

 

It is a world of BFN's for me,  Told there is no reason why it hasn't worked, so on to plan B Adoption  

Me 32 DH 35 

January 19th 2014 - PRIDE Course Begins

​January 2014 Found an  Adoption Practitioner

January 30, 2014  Home study begins 

April 16 2014 Finally adopt Ready! 

2015 waiting for our kids 

2016 still waiting.... 


#6 KandS12

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Posted 08 July 2013 - 09:02 PM

Hi there,
I echo what the previous ladies have said - it's a complete roller coaster ride. We're part way through experience ourselves.

I completely understand wanting to plan everything and try and stick to a schedule. My advice would be to try and NOT do this! My husband a previous vasectomy and unsuccessful reversal, so figured that since we already knew the problem, we would be able to start right away! I had my investigative cycle in February and still have not got to the point of ER!! So I can't offer you too much advice or share any experiences in terms of success there. Sorry!

I can let you know that I found the sonohysterogram to be easy peasy! My clinic recommended I take 2 advil and 2 extra strength tylenol before the procedure. I didn't find it painful at ALL. There was some pressure and light cramping but that's it. The endometrial biopsy I found to be more uncomfortable. I got myself quite worked up over the procedure and if I had to do it again, I would request a mild tranquilizer/anti-anxiety med. That being said, all women (and doctors) are different and some people have said that they had no problems with it.

I would say, absolutely make sure that you feel comfortable with your doctor. I spent 6 months with my doctor and left appointments feeling frustrated, anxious, and dissatisfied before I switched to a new one. We just met the new dr last week and have an IVF teaching appointment tomorrow afternoon. Feels like a little bit of a setback since I was hoping to be pregnant by now, but at least I now have confidence that my new doctor's priority lies with me and my husband and not making recommendations to bolster his/her statistics.

Best of luck :) It's nice to share this journey with some many helpful and understanding people.

K
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Me 38, DH 42

March 2011 - DH vasectomy reversal - unsuccessful

March 2012 - DH vasectomy reversal take 2 (what were we thinking??!) unsuccessful

 

IVF #1

Sept 2013 - 5 days of stims, poor response, cycle cancelled

Oct 11 - start stims CD2

Oct 23 - ER - 8 eggs retrieved

Oct 24 - 7 fertilized with ICSI

Oct 28 - ET - still have 6 blasts!  1 transferred, 5 on ice

Nov. 6 - AF arrives BFN

 

FET #1 - Feb. 2014

Feb 9, 2014 - transferred 1 beautiful blast

Feb 23 - beta BFN

 

FET #2 - April 2014

April 10, 2014 - transferred 1 4AA hatching blast

April 22 - beta BFN

 

FET #3 - May 2014

May 11, 2014 - transferred 1 good lookin' blast
May 23, 2014 - BFP!!! Beta 326

May 26, 2014 - beta 1478!

EDD - January 26, 2015

DS born January 27, 2015

 

FET#4 - Nov. 28

Dec 10, 2017 - BFP!  






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