I am so happy to have found an up to date forum! My name is Cheryl, please see a brief history of me below. I am looking for someone who has or is going through the same situation as I am. I am very scared to begin IVF and could use a buddy or an advisor to help calm my nerves. Also please be patient with me as I am not too educated on the IVF terms or lingo! I ask when replying to me to keep this in mind.
I am 29, already have 3 children (2 boys and a girl) with my ex whom I split with about 3 years ago. I am now engaged to my fiancé whom does not have a child of his own but makes a fantastic step father. we have been saving for our IVF for 2 years now and are finally ready to start this process. I had my tubes tied 4 years ago after the c section birth of my daughter which is why I now require IVF. my OBGYN thought that tube reversal was more risky with lower chances. everything else seems to be ok with me minus the fact that I suffer from horrible anxiety which you will likely pick up by the end of this post. My fiancé is perfectly fine. He recently had an SCA test which came back perfectly fine! thank god! I had an IUD in to control heavy periods for over three years now which I recently had removed. This month (July) I will be doing my first diagnostic cycle monitoring as well as my sonohysterogram and endometrial sampling. I am very worried about this process and do not know what to expect. our goal is to transfer and embryo in Oct. My fertility doctor thinks we have good chances and I should not worry. I have seen people on here saying they have done 3 rounds before getting pregnant. I am very scared to pay my entire savings to something that has no guarantee, how far do I go, when do we draw the line? We have also opted for ICSI. Please see a list of my below questions and if anyone has any answers please feel free to write back I appreciate any help!
do you think ICSI is helpful?
what happen is I do not get pregnant in my first round? do I use a frozen embryo?
can someone walk me through the steps of first round success ?
what are the steps for the second round ?
how long will it take to know if the embryo took?
how long do I have to wait to do round two after the failed round?
is any part of this process severely painful?
am I being too optimistic selecting a month I hope to transfer an embryo?
do you have full complete trust that your fertility doctor is not just trying to take your money and sabotage any of your ivf rounds? (I know.... I know.... but I had to ask)
any extra advise?