How do you deal with it?
Posted 27 December 2010 - 02:58 AM
DH vasectomy 15 years ago
March 2009 Vasectomy reversal
March 2010 all test are negtive for sperm reversal deemed a failure
Oct 2010 IVF/ICSI #1
Long lupron protocol due to unexplained high estrogen
10 eggs retrieved
None left over good enough to freeze
AF 1 day before blood test
Posted 27 December 2010 - 08:05 AM
I wish I could say that goes away but at least for me so far it hasn't, when I hear of someone getting pregnant those feelings still surface.
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Posted 27 December 2010 - 09:47 AM
I thought that once I got pregnant, I would feel less bitter about other people's pregnancies. Maybe because it's still early for me (I'm 6 weeks today and I'm still convinced it's all going to go wrong at some point, and I can only imagine the bitterness I'll feel if that happens), but I still feel bitter that other people get it so easily. Maybe it's also because a lot of them have never experienced a m/c and therefore have less fear in their pregnancies than I ever will again. That first time, m/c never really crossed my mind. I mean, we knew it could happen but never thought it would. And then it did. And now I can't imagine a pregnancy lasting. So yeah, still totally feeling sorry for myself.
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Posted 12 May 2018 - 09:47 PM
I hear you Smiley2010. I have a colleague who started in my office at the same time I did, and we've both been working together for a year. In that year he's had a child. Which was really hard for me to hear about
Mother's Day being tomorrow is going to be difficult too.
Posted 13 May 2018 - 08:32 AM
I think it will always be in the back of our minds just like frosted said. Its a part of our experience and with experience comes knowledge about allll of this long medical journey which others who struggled but still got pregnant without needing ivf or iui could never understand.
Posted 13 May 2018 - 02:03 PM
I agree with what others have said, I'm not sure some of those feelings ever really go away. You just have to try not to let them completely ruin your day. When I have those feelings usually acknowledging them rather than stuffing them makes it a little easier.
Also, sometimes it may seem like a couple conceived easily but they might not be open about their struggles. I know someone in my family had success with IVF but we did not know they did the procedures until much later. They got pregnant about a month after a beach vacation, so most people just assumed it was natural... You don't always know a person's situation I guess.
Mother's day is not easy, but I'm trying to realize that although they may not be traditionally celebrated there are different types of mothers. You are a bereaved mother if you have experienced pregnancy loss, you could be a pet mother and women can be maternal to nieces/nephews and even kids in their community.
Me: 37 DH: 36
TTC since 2014
IVF #1: November 2016
ER: Retrieved 5 eggs, 5 fertilized, ended up with 4 five day blasts
Fresh ET Nov 2016: BFN
FET w/ ICSI #1 Feb 2017: BFP, M/C Apr (Lost at 7 weeks, found out at 14, had D&C)
FET w/ ICSI #2 June 2017: BFP, M/C Sept (Lost at 9 weeks, found out at almost 13 weeks, had D&C)
FET w/ ICSI #3 April 2018: BFN
IVF # 2: January 2020
ER: Retrieved 15 eggs, 10 fertilized, ended up with 7 five day blasts
Fresh ET Jan 2020: BFN
FET w/ICSI #1 Aug 2020: BFN
5 frosties left, likely not cycling again until next spring.
Posted 17 May 2018 - 08:24 PM
IUI #2 Jan 2017 ~ BFN
IUI #3 Mar 2017 ~ BFN
IUI #4 Aug 2017 ~ BFN
IVF#1 ER ~ DEC 2017 (11 follicles, 9 fertilized 7blasts frozen)
Dec 2017 ~ PGS testing (3 normal) (Day 5 5BC, Day 6 5BB & 6BB)
FET #1 Jan 2018 ~ BFN (6BB)
ERA Mar 2018 ~ pre-receptive by 1 day
FET #2 May 2018~ BFP! (5BB) ~miscarriage @6weeks