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#1 JIC

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Posted 21 January 2021 - 04:04 PM

Hi,

Although not a busy forum as there are many adoption pages out there I felt that a discussion page is needed here. IVF.ca forums have been a great resource for me right from the start of my journey.
I am currently in the process of completing my homestudy which is the last step for me to be adopt ready.

Nov 2016 Feb 2017 4 failed iui

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Dec 2017 FET  6.5 mc

May 2018 Donor FET 5 week mc

Feb 2019 Donor FET 5.5 week mc

 


#2 Axl2

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Posted 22 January 2021 - 09:21 PM

Thats super exciting! When will your homestudy be done?

We are still waiting ☹ our 5 year update is getting close. So looking at maybe changing our child preference to include meth exposure. Im finding it hard to find good information on meth exposure so thats a struggle.

#3 JIC

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Posted 23 January 2021 - 09:30 AM

I have my next meeting on Monday. When I asked how many times we will meet she said 4-5 and we are meeting every 2-3 weeks so only a couple of months hopefully. Then the waiting game again.
The exposure part was the hardest section for me. I originally said no drug exposure and open to alcohol then I tried to look more into it. It is a tough call and I agree very little info still out there

Nov 2016 Feb 2017 4 failed iui

Mar 2017 IVF 3 pgs abnormal embryos

Oct 2017 IVF 1 pgs normal embryo

Dec 2017 FET  6.5 mc

May 2018 Donor FET 5 week mc

Feb 2019 Donor FET 5.5 week mc

 


#4 returnable

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Posted 23 January 2021 - 12:30 PM

Just jumping in to see if you guys saw this article in Nature: https://www.nature.c...cles/npp2014147



#5 Axl2

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Posted 24 January 2021 - 04:26 AM

How long is the average wait? We said minimal alcohol exposure and for drug exposure at moderate level cocaine, marijuana and opioids. If we do decide to go ahead with changing our child preference to meth exposure we will add consult call before our file is being shown.

@returnable I will take a look at this article.

#6 JIC

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Posted 24 January 2021 - 08:26 AM

Thanks for the article Return I hadnt seen that one.

The wait time is unknown and can fluctuate greatly from right away to multiple years. I think I got my home study so quickly is because I said I wanted to adopt siblings and the oldest could be upto 9 years old. As well as the fact I think others like me thought home studies were delayed due to covid. Had I called earlier I might already be done. A couple I know waited about a year. They actually declined to move forward when approached in one case prior to adopting their son.
As soon as I am adopt ready my file is available to be presented. I have opened up my drug to minimal and one thing I was told was often the birth mother is scared to admit drug use so there is a chance the child was still exposed.

Nov 2016 Feb 2017 4 failed iui

Mar 2017 IVF 3 pgs abnormal embryos

Oct 2017 IVF 1 pgs normal embryo

Dec 2017 FET  6.5 mc

May 2018 Donor FET 5 week mc

Feb 2019 Donor FET 5.5 week mc

 


#7 Axl2

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Posted 25 January 2021 - 12:06 AM

Yeah covid hasnt really helped things. The one nice thing about covid we dont have to meet in person for our update. I dont know if covid had anything to do with it but the agency Im with seen an increase in placements. I think its easier to be placed if your open to older kids and sibling group. The government system in Alberta if your not interested in kids older then 7 then they tell you to adopt through an agency.