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#51 KtownGirl

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Posted 21 January 2020 - 06:26 PM

Well I was right A BFN....

Oh well ...not sure what went wrong....it was a perfect little embryo

Hope eoe os having better luck!!


Sending you big hugs BCMom. So heartbreaking. Do you know what your next steps are? Will you be trying for another transfer?

I had my bloodwork done this morning but they said I prob won't be getting my results for 24-48hrs. Although I'm prob in the same boat as you as all my HPT came up BFN. This was our last embryo so we won't be trying again after this. It's been a long journey but I'm grateful for my 2 girls. I just feel like I've failed my husband and wasn't able to give him the son he's always wanted.

#52 BCMom

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Posted 21 January 2020 - 06:39 PM

Ktowngirl

I understand what you mean about feeling like you failed....although i know you know you didnt really....you did all you could....after that we have little say in the matter....but i get it because even though my brain knows it isnt true i too feel like i am disappointing, failing my partner too

Maybe you will get a surprise? Let ne know how ut goes hugs back to you nice to have someone to talk about it with

Im not young (lets just say over 45) and using donor eggs so my situation is time sensitive even though i do have more embryos.. .and my partner is 55 and we used his sperm...so i worry now about the quality of embryos....
Going to work towards another transfer asap....mentioned to the nurse about transferring two next time....we will see what dr says....

Thinking of you....sending supporting thoughts and vibes

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#53 tsm37

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Posted 21 January 2020 - 09:37 PM

Ladies,

 

May I ask how you decided between a single-embryo transfer or double-embryo transfer this time? 

 
I'm new to the forum, and I recently posted my wife's IVF experience in seeking for help here. My wife did not have any IVF success after two attempts. We are planning to a third IVF in about two months. There are still three PGD/PGS normal embryos frozen, so I just wanted to think things through whether we should do one or two transfer next time. For each of the two previous IVF's that my wife did, we transferred two. 
 
Also, how do you tell the grade of an embryo? I asked the doctor back in late November 2019. He said that grade isn't important when the embryos are tested normal via PGD/PGS. I'm not sure about this. 
 
 
Wish everyone good luck! 


#54 BCMom

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Posted 21 January 2020 - 09:50 PM

Hello tsm37

It is not something i came up with lightly....i am older and have had two unsuccessful transfers...my embryos are not tested....the eggs are donor eggs and sperm is my 55 yr old partner's....so i feel like maybe two might work....grasping at straws maybe....i am quite aware of risks of multiples...but i am not sure that multiple cycles of hormone therapy is that great either.... i am willing to take the chance with two untested embryos....not sure if i would with pgs tested ones.....but ultimately it depends on what doctors are willing to do. I havent heard yet yes or no as i literally just got my bfn today.
Good luck in whatever you choose!!
Wish you all the best including a take home baby!! :-)

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#55 Rabbitblue

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Posted 22 January 2020 - 05:58 PM

Faerie congrats on your BFP! Did you get ur beta yet? I haven't done by transfer yet. Going in on Friday to check my lining before I'm given a date.

BCmom sorry to hear about your BFN. I hope you're taking care of yourself. What are your next steps?
Ktown girl- did you get your numbers yet?

Tsm37- I was never given a choice as I live in Canada and the funded cycle is only covers 1 embryo transfer. I think that doing 2 gives u better odds, and if u are older it might save you some time. My FS never gave me a grading besides good, average and poor quality, he also said that it's not relevant. 🤷🏻‍♀️

#56 KtownGirl

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Posted 23 January 2020 - 02:03 AM

Well it's a BFN for me as well :(

Faerie-please tell us you have good news to share. My fingers are crossed for someone to have success this round.

Rabbit-fingers crossed your lining is great and you get your transfer. I don't have beta numbers as I did my transfer overseas so I dont have a clinic following me locally. I just went in for a normal blood test and did HPT.

tsm37-we had the option of doing 1 or 2 but the doctor said it would only increase our chances by 5%. Since I'm older, we didnt want to risk the possible medical complications and went with only 1 each time.

#57 prarie_faerie

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Posted 23 January 2020 - 07:22 PM

So sorry BCmom, sending a big hug your way xoxo If you've already mentioned I'm sorry to have forgotten, but do you have any more freezies/ will you be trying further?

Any news from others? Everyone has been so quiet on here!

My bloodtest came back positive with a hcg level of 348 at week 4. Went for second round of bloodwork today (5 week mark) to make sure that number is steadily rising. So very hopeful for good news, will hear back tomorrow. I didnt expect to feel as anxious as I do after getting a positive.

Really sorry for the ladies here who didnt get your BFP this time around, my heart goes out to you. For all the ladies we havent heard back from, I hope you're doing well and wishing you positive outcomes!
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Me: 27  DH: 27   Diagnosis: Unexplained

 

  • Started TTC: Jan. 2017
  • First medicated IUI: July 2019= BFN
  • Second medicated IUI: August 2019 = BFN
  • IVF/ICSI: Dec 2019 = 4 conventional IVF blastocysts + 3 ICSI blastocysts,  frozen at 5 days. No fresh transfer due to OHSS
  • First FET: Jan. 2020 = BFP resulting in a pregnancy loss at 7 weeks

#58 tsm37

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Posted 23 January 2020 - 10:03 PM

Ladies, need some help. I'm doing research right now in preparing for my wife's next natural FET, proposed by our doctor. After 3 failed IUI's and 2 failed IVF's (and lost three boys.....), as a husband, it's about time for me to step up to help out my wife's situation. 

 

I have three PGD/PGS tested normal frozen embryos left: two gals and one boy. There are some data I don't know how to interpret, wondering if you know what they mean:

 

  • First frozen gal embryo has Stage/Grade of 'B' and Days Post Fertilization of '5'. I think 'B' means blastocyst, right? What does the 5 days mean? Is it good or bad?

 

  • Second frozen gal embryo has Stage/Grade of 'HB' and Days Post Fertilization of '6'. What does 'HB' mean? I asked the nurse and she doesn't know. The doctor never got back to me. Is the 6-days good or bad?

 

  • Third frozen boy embryo has Stage/Grade of 'HB' and Days Post Fertilization of '6'. Same question as above.

 

Faerie and other ladies, did you do any bed rest at all after the transfer? I have been hearing that the bed rest thing is a myth. However, my friend (who had a successful IVF with a twin) was telling me that my wife really should take a two-week bed rest next time, literally laying in bed for two full weeks and only get up to use bathroom. My friend did the same thing during her IVF and the rest is history. She said in order to prevent not having sufficient blood flowing, take aspirin and viagra. They will help the blood tubes to remain open and allow blood flow to the embryos. I'm no expert on this and I'm just telling you what my friend told me from her experience. Have you all heard of this? 

 

After two failed IVFs, my wife will try this two-week bed rest thing after the transfer, and I'm in support of this. We have to try whatever we can to improve our chances. Her intent is to go with a boy/girl next. 

 

Wish everyone the best!!!



#59 BCMom

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Posted 23 January 2020 - 10:08 PM

So sorry BCmom, sending a big hug your way xoxo If you've already mentioned I'm sorry to have forgotten, but do you have any more freezies/ will you be trying further?

Any news from others? Everyone has been so quiet on here!

My bloodtest came back positive with a hcg level of 348 at week 4. Went for second round of bloodwork today (5 week mark) to make sure that number is steadily rising. So very hopeful for good news, will hear back tomorrow. I didnt expect to feel as anxious as I do after getting a positive.

Really sorry for the ladies here who didnt get your BFP this time around, my heart goes out to you. For all the ladies we havent heard back from, I hope you're doing well and wishing you positive outcomes!

Congratulations Prarie_faerie!!! Im so happy for you!! Wishing you a good number for your next beta, a healthy pregnancy and a take home baby!! :-)

I have more embryos...although untested and i am concerned about their quality now....the first FET was a missed micarriage at 10 weeks and now a complete bfn.....honestly the bfn feels easier because i wont have to wait so long for trying again....and no d& c.....just less traumatic in general...although im glad to know i can grt pregnant....i am going to try again right away....just waiting now for my period and i will be back at it....hoping they may have suggestions for doing something different...may put two embryos this time....

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#60 Rabbitblue

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Posted 24 January 2020 - 12:01 PM

Congrats faerie on the beta numbers! I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you! Keep up posted on your numbers.

Ktown girl sorry for your bfn. Do you have anymore embryos to transfer?

Tsm- I'm sorry I don't have much information for you in regards to the letters. I think B means blastocyst and HB is likely hatched blastocyst. The day HB 5 blastocyst has a better of success from what I've read. I'm not too sure about bed rest as I've never done a transfer before. My clinic insists on returning to daily routine and no hot tubs etc. I will however be taking a few days off work to rest but not necessarily stay in bed.

As for me, I went in for monitoring today: lining is at 12mm, but they found trace amount of fluid. That scared me because I thought I somehow developed hydrosalpinx or they missed it completely when I did my Sono. I have heard that it reduces implantation rates significantly and makes the uterus toxic.

I got my just got confirmation that I'll finally be doing my FET on the the 30th, so 6 days from today. I've decided to take two days off work and "rest", as Friday is the beginning of second semester and the turnaround schedule is exhausting.

#61 prarie_faerie

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Posted 25 January 2020 - 11:50 AM

tsm37 - The grade "B" could stand for blastocyst, or potentially be the grade of the embryo. my clinic uses a grading system of a, b, c, etc. Mine were B+ which they said was very good as having a perfect 'A' is rare i'm told. as for the "5 days, 6 days" that probably means the age of the embryo. So when the sperm and egg meet and fertilize, and then they've been healthily dividing in the lab for 5 days (now a blastocyst). This is good and means they are strong! mine were all frozen at day 5, 1 at day 6. For example, the one they transferred for me was a grade B, Day 5 HB( hatching blastocyst).

 

My clinic recommended "taking it easy" after transfer. I pressed for specifics of what this meant and they said it meant take the day off work if your job is active, no exercise, have a stay at home movie day if possible and then by next day go back to all regular activity. I was skeptical about this and looked into it, no research i could find supports the theory that laying down after transfer increases odds (contrary to popular belief) and i'm a really active person so i didn't really bother. I did take the day off work, but spent it with my husband and took our dogs to the park, made supper together and had an early night. The next morning i was back at my active job at a sports centre and it seemed to work out alright for me. However, your partner should definitely use her own judgement on this and listen to her body and doctor. If she feels better laying down afterwards for a day or two i can't see it doing any harm! It seems like you have a lot of questions, i think you should really have a sit down with your doctor to help clear things up for you and provide more information so that you feel more comfortable/confident in things. Hope this helps you and best of luck!!

 

Rabbitblue: great news - good luck on the transfer and with school, so happy for you that its going ahead smile.png I got back my blood results from 5 weeks pregnant and the hcg levels have raised from 350 to 1300 within a few days so things are looking good! I am so relieved as we've been trying for over 3 years. It's very hard to accept that it is "real" this time finally. My fingers are crossed for you to have success too!!

 

BCmom: I've had a D&C as well and found it to be very traumatic, it took me a long time to get over. So sorry you had to go through this - you are so strong! Hopefully the rest of your embies are healthy and that you and your doctor can come up with a plan to help reach success. 

 

ktown: Hey, so sorry that it was a BFN for you, i know the disappointment well. Remember that you did absolutely everything you could and that sometimes life is just a crapshoot. Will you be trying again? Sending lots of love you way girl x


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  • Started TTC: Jan. 2017
  • First medicated IUI: July 2019= BFN
  • Second medicated IUI: August 2019 = BFN
  • IVF/ICSI: Dec 2019 = 4 conventional IVF blastocysts + 3 ICSI blastocysts,  frozen at 5 days. No fresh transfer due to OHSS
  • First FET: Jan. 2020 = BFP resulting in a pregnancy loss at 7 weeks

#62 tsm37

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Posted 25 January 2020 - 10:04 PM

praie: thank you for the responses

 

BCMom & Ktowngirl: I hope things will work out the way you want the next time! Stay positive! Out of curiosity, did your doctor offer any advise to help improving the success rate?  



#63 Emon1008

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Posted 26 January 2020 - 08:51 PM

Hi
Im new to this forum. Ill be having my first FET in February as long as everything progresses the way it should. Ive been through so much on this journey and Im so nervous for more failure. Any positive thoughts are appreciated!

In the past 3 years Ive gone through
3 failed IUIs
4 egg retrievals- plenty of eggs retrieved and fertilizer however they never make it to day 5 :( if they make it to day 5 then they usually test abnormal
3 failed fresh transfers

My husband and I took a break after all of that failure and ended up conceiving on our own! Unfortunately it ended in a miscarriage at 8 weeks.

This will be my first frozen transfer. We have 2 embryos that have been PGS tested normal. I am praying 1 of these work. My doctor has me on estradiol and once my lining looks good I will start the PIO.

Positive thoughts to you all!
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