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#1 Axl2

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Posted 04 January 2019 - 12:59 AM

Happy New Years!

So I have a little rant about our agency. I emailed our social worker yesterday and got reply that she gone back to school. Like I would think that she would email us to let us know shes gone. I then emailed the receptionist to find out who our new social worker would be and if our profile has been shown no response. Its very frustrating not getting any answers. I cant wait to be placed so we can be done with that agency.

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Posted 02 February 2019 - 09:51 AM

I'm sorry Axl2. That sounds frustrating, I hope you had progress since then.

 

I'm new to this forum, stumbled on it while researching adoption agencies. We have just made the decision to adopt. We are an Indian couple settled in Canada, and wish to adopt from India. At this moment, the whole process seems a bit overwhelming. I would love to have some company along this path, so I'm glad I found this place.



#3 Axl2

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Posted 04 February 2019 - 02:51 PM

Hey have you decided on an agency yet? What part of Canada are from?

I did finally hear back from the agency. Our file is with another social worker. Our profile hasnt been shown Im hoping it will start to be shown now that we #40 on the list.

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Posted 06 February 2019 - 08:02 PM

We have a consultation call with Children's Bridge. We're in Toronto. I hope your profile is being shown now.



#5 Axl2

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Posted 07 February 2019 - 02:52 PM

Thats exciting! Do you know the average wait time to be matched and placed for international adoption?

Im hoping that when we do our 3 year update that it will be shown at least once this year.

#6 JIC

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Posted 21 June 2019 - 04:10 PM

So I am thinking about looking into adoption/ foster to adopt and dont know where to start. I am in the get info phase snd keeping all avenues open private/public international etc. Any assistance in where I should begin? If it matters I would be a smbc
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#7 Daisy.Eriksen

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Posted 22 June 2019 - 08:13 AM

I don't have any answers JIC, but I'm excited to hear you're looking into options!

You might have already found this on Google, but the government of Ontario's webpage on adoption might be a decent place to start. It looks like it explains private, public and international adoption, and what steps are needed.

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#8 Axl2

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Posted 01 July 2019 - 05:36 PM

Hey JIC, Im in Alberta we have to fill out an application, then do a seminar, Homestudy and then go on a waiting list. So the government system its free and agency it costs $15,000 in Alberta. When we first started I looked up adoption agencies in my area and started calling. I emailed the government system to see if thats the route we wanted to go with. Good luck! If you have anymore questions ask away.

#9 Axl2

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Posted 01 July 2019 - 05:36 PM

Hey JIC, Im in Alberta we have to fill out an application, then do a seminar, Homestudy and then go on a waiting list. So the government system its free and agency it costs $15,000 in Alberta. When we first started I looked up adoption agencies in my area and started calling. I emailed the government system to see if thats the route we wanted to go with. Good luck! If you have anymore questions ask away.
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Posted 01 July 2019 - 07:36 PM

We went to an information night put on by AdoptOntario (if I recall correctly). I believe that was shortly after our failed donor cycle in November 2015. Weve been through the process for public adoption, so I can answer any questions related to that. Feel free to ask here or through PM. I dont post much anymore but still check in just in case I can provide any help.
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#11 Axl2

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Posted 03 December 2019 - 12:56 AM

So Im having an issue with my social worker and not responding to my emails. Im not sure how to address this issue. Im starting to get frustrated!

#12 JIC

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Posted 04 January 2020 - 11:16 PM

Axl2. Have you had any luck with your social worker? Doing my Pride training over the next 2 weekends. Then I have to decide on private or public homestudy

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#13 Axl2

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Posted 05 January 2020 - 02:05 PM

Hey JIC, I sent another email and she did respond to that email. Thats exciting! Whats the average wait time in Ontario with private agency? In Alberta the wait time is 3-4 years.

In April we will be on the waiting list 4 years. We are #22 on the waiting list.

#14 JIC

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Posted 05 January 2020 - 02:32 PM

It is strange how private works here. It can be years or right away. The birth parent actually looks through the profiles of those looking to adopt and decides. So I have heard of 6 month adoptions and 6 years to never.
If the birth parents decide on me I am responsible for all their mandatory social work visits which actually encourages the birth parent to NOT give child up for adoption. They can change their mind up to 3 weeks after I have custody. Not only do I lose custody of the child but also get no financial reimbursement. I am told it is rare but...

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#15 Axl2

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Posted 05 January 2020 - 07:01 PM

In Alberta they give the timeline of 3-4 years I know a couple who was on the waiting list for a week and was placed. With the agency here the social workers give the birth families all their options. the birth parents have ten days to change their mind if they do we lose the money for lawyer fees. Our fees for adoption is $15,000 and up depending on how long you have waited. What about with the government system? I know here you have to say yes to so many things. Also if your looking at a child younger then 8 they wont accept your application. Even tho theres a lot of babies that go into the system.

I now have been contacting the agency every month to see where we are and if our profile has been shown. Im hoping that if Im annoying they will start showing our profile.

#16 JIC

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Posted 08 January 2020 - 08:09 AM

Here they say approx $20000.
The government system sounds similar to what you are saying with the 8 and up. Adopt Ready courses and home study go to those wishing to adopt/foster older children (teens) and younger children with moderate to severe medical issues first as less need for those wishing to adopt younger children. I would prefer to adopt publicly (strictly due to cost of private) but going through the system is tough. As of right now I am leaning toward going with private training and a private practitioner who will assist me with a public adoption. I would like to adopt siblings which does thankfully work in my favour.

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#17 Axl2

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Posted 08 January 2020 - 11:09 PM

We went through private agency because there was so many hurdles to jump through the government system. When I emailed the social worker about starting the process with them she said that we were better off going with private agency. Have you done any reading on alcohol exposure and attachment issues in older kids?

#18 JIC

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Posted 08 January 2020 - 11:24 PM

I have not but based on the case studies I just received a couple of days ago that I was told to read prior to attending training I am pretty sure that is going to be one of the first topics covered.

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#19 Axl2

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Posted 09 January 2020 - 11:12 PM

Is your seminar this weekend? Have they said when you will be approved by?

#20 JIC

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Posted 10 January 2020 - 08:06 AM

YEP. My in class training Is taking place over the next 2 weekends. Then I need to decide how I will proceed with home study private or public. I am being told public can be over a year before they can fit you in if not looking for older children so most likely going to be forced into private.
It seems home study takes approx 6-8 months to complete unless need to be completed quicker. Once that is complete I will be Ontario Adopt Ready.
Originally CAS said as long as I am adopt ready good to go. When I called to ask certain questions though they started to mention well if you go the private route to become adopt ready we then need to do another public homestudy which is only 1-2 more meetings. Honestly feel like the whole process is going to have me running in circles over the next year.

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#21 ilovemydogs

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Posted 10 January 2020 - 03:50 PM

We did a private home study and adopted from the CAS. We didnt have any additional meetings beyond the interview for the situation we applied for.
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#22 JIC

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Posted 10 January 2020 - 05:46 PM

Good to know. Couldnt understand why additional visits would be required

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#23 Axl2

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Posted 10 January 2020 - 09:41 PM

Wow thats a long time for the homestudy. Our homestudy was booked a month after all our paper work was sent in, then we met with the social worker, and we had the report 6 weeks after that. Its crazy how each province is so different.

#24 JIC

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Posted 11 January 2020 - 07:29 AM

Axl2 - Yep, definitely dont make it easy for you. 6 weeks would be amazing. Hoping to learn a bit more today about timeline

Ilovemydogs - If you dont mind, may I ask who you used for your homestudy? Ive been meaning to ask

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#25 Axl2

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Posted 13 January 2020 - 10:23 PM

How did your training go JIC?