Posted 22 May 2018 - 06:55 AM
Hi Schlepp - I was in the same situation as you patenting two stepsons half-time while going through infertility and ivf. It was really tough and a mind you know what emotionally. I have come out the other side and now have three of my own ivf babies but step-parenting and infertility was seriously not for the faint of heart. Does your husbands' ex live close by? My husband's ex wife was incredibly domineering and smug which added to frustration. Great idea for a thread.
Great to hear from someone that has been through this and is successfully on the other side.
I don't have a lot of issues with my partner's ex as she doesn't know yet that we are trying. But trying to keep it all a secret is very tough when we have the kids around. I'm paranoid of them digging through the fridge and finding my medication. Having to make excuses to get something from the fridge and then run up to our room to do shots. We had to pretend we went for a very long brunch date the other weekend when we had my egg retrieval. Then you add it my occasional hormonal sadness causing low patience with their teenager behaviour. Not a great mix.
I will add we were looking at buying an investment property (we currently rent) and the ex wife freaked out at my partner. Demanded to know where the money would be coming from (me) and even with that answer somehow was not happy. So my partner feels like if we're successful he is going to say it was some kind of miracle and his vasectomy just reversed itself. Because she would be livid about the money spent on treatments...which again, is actually my money since my partner is paying child support and saving for the kids post-secondary education.
We are planning to move out to the suburbs where the kids live in the fall. Now that my fresh IVF transfer has failed, I'm nervous that we will still be doing treatments by then. The commute into the clinic will be 90+ minutes each way compared to 20 minutes right now. I'm almost thinking of saying we delay until we're at least no longer doing IVF cycles, and only doing transfers.
Yes, this is much more complicated in the blended family. I would love to hear from others! And 0to3, your success gives me hope!
(age 38) June 2016 IVF #1 antagonist, 13 mature eggs, 4 fertilized, 1 blast frozen
October 2016 FET #1 cancelled, thin lining
(age 39) April 2017 FET #1.1 BFN
July 2017 partner has vasectomy reversal
Feb & March 2018 - Medicated IUI x2 - BFN (even with 7 mature follicles on the 2nd IUI)
(age 40) May 2018 IVF#2, lupron flare, 7 mature eggs, 5 fertilized, 1 blast & 1 morula fresh transfer, BFN. 1 low quality blast frozen
June 2018 IVF#3 mini stim, 1 egg, immature
Sept/Oct 2018 IVF#4 antagonist with HGH - CANCELLED due to high estrogen/29mm cyst
Oct 2018 IVF#4.1 antagonist with HGH - 7 eggs, all mature, 6 fertilized, 2 blasts on day 6, PGS tested/euploid
November 2018 FET #2 w/immune protocol and 1 PGS tested - BFN
Locus Medicus testing for virus, bacteria and immune issues. Husband treated.
(age 41) April 2019 IVF#5 converted to IUI#3 due to follicle growth. BFP 12 day post IUI. Di/Di twins.
Dec 17 2019 - Baby boy and girl born at 36 weeks + 2 days. Everyone very healthy.
See my 'about me' page for more detail on my treatment history.