Hoping there might be some encouragement here for me. Here's the story...
My partner and I are very much in love, talking about marriage soon. He has a son from a previous marriage who was conceived via IVF (low count, the mother had no fertility issues). While there were other issues that eventually caused the dissolution of that marriage, he sites the stress of IVF as one of the instigating factors.
I have never had my own children, but I love my partner's son dearly and I work with children on a regular basis. Mentoring and parenting kids who are not my own has always come naturally to me.
The process of IVF flat-out terrifies me, yet it would likely be the only way that my partner and I could ever have a child. I'm 34, and deal with a family history of endometriosis. I've only been on a birth control pill for a short stint many years ago, and it was emotionally the worst several months of my life. Eventually I threw in the towel there. Hormones do NOT agree with me at all. To top it off, years spent in and out of hospitals as a child have created a mild phobia for me of medical procedures in general. I'm terrified that going the IVF route at some point down the road would take a physical and emotional toll on me that I'm not equipped to handle, and could cause irreparable damage to my relationship as a result.
At this stage we have discussed it and decided that, while the final decision is still years away, our preferred option is probably status quo (we love each other and we love his son and maybe we get a dog lol). The second option might be to consider adoption. And in third place is some kind of fertility intervention, like IVF. My partner is the most loving and supportive man I could ever ask for, and genuinely just wants my health and happiness.
And yet, there are these little nagging thoughts in the back of my head... if I don't give this a shot, will I wake up one day when I'm 45 and regret it? Does this mean I'm just not as tough as women who decide to go the IVF route?
Any assurance you might have would be so welcome, friends. All the very best to each of you on this journey! You are strong and beautiful!