It is so dear to my heart and just sharing thoughts. I like science, just my thing, did it with my first child and she was biologically mine...she is a veterinarian now. Guess all my view of the world impacted her a bit.
Nature has so many ways of reproduction and yes, we humans feel oh so special, (;-)..we are not.
So it all becomes a true ethical question and so tainted by culture and expectations and perceptions. Why?
A baby ...most think they have to look like us and feel that if they compliment us and point out similarities, it flatters us, like the same hair color will tell more about the child. Social pressures and assumptions.
So here I am, by some bizarre fluke of nature my toddler has the same slanted eyes like me, same thick hair and same green eyes. I gave birth to her and most, distant from me told me that's he looks like me...I chuckled and it never mattered. Truly did not.
Who cares....I do care that her and I are so in sink, so connected and I will be honest and adore my first child, but she was not like me, different personality and temperament. This one? Oh my!!!
Look, at the end of the day, and perhaps of my advanced age.........should we embrace our choices, or live to please others and their expectations of how life and families should be.
My little girl? No big deal...she will know that some have offspring by just splitting cells, some adopt, some use donor eggs or sperm and other creatures morph from boy to girl upon demand (yup happens in nature)
She will know that no matter what, once a little one is created and has parents, one or two...or who knows...they are loved, cared for and very special and she is.
No need for me to tell the whole world, as with most things as we choose to share with others depending on our level of relationship with them.
I swear that the donor egg in our case was just a technicality to get to what matters, parents with a desire to love and cherish and teach and embrace.
Not trying to minimize, but at the end of the day? Happy and modern family here and all good.