Posted 22 November 2017 - 02:11 PM
I read a This is Us board and some of the women on the board were a little upset at it - not because of their personal experiences, but because the miscarriage itself seemed...fake and too "television." The emotional part was there, but the rest was too...cliché. Not much about blood or anything in that area. Or that it was taking time for the loss to end.
I don't feel like I can comment much more about this because the only "experience" I've had was a chemical through my surrogate. It's a loss, yes, but because we didn't reach the u/s stage, I don't feel comfortable saying it was a "real" loss.
What I WOULD like to see about Kate and Toby's storyline is the difficulty it could be for "older" women (and Kate is "older" at 37) to get pregnant. I can't tell you how many women - well-educated women, at that - who don't realize that they, too are "old."
Advised Not to Get Pregnant: Circa 1994 or 1995 (I was FIFTEEN!!!)
Married: August 2010
Started Adoption Process: January 2013
Started Researching Surrogacy: August 2016
Found Embryos: November 2016
Matched with Surrogate: April 2017, all adoption put on hold (never matched with a child)
Surrogate's First Transfer: July 2017 (one FET) - BFP, but m/c or chemical (unsure, since second beta rose more than 60%, but third beta dropped)
Surrogate's Second Transfer: October 2017 (one FET) - BFN
Surrogate's Third Transfer: December 2017 (double transfer) - BFN
Moving on to donor eggs...
New donor embryos available!!! Trying with them
Surrogate's Fourth Transfer: February 2018 - was to be a double transfer, but one did not survive thawing, so single transfer; First beta - 685!!!!!; Beta #2 - 1594!!!
First ultrasound (at 7 weeks, 2 days): Heart rate of 154 bpm, measuring slightly behind (just under 7 weeks)
Second ultrasound (9 weeks, 1 day): Heart rate of 170 bpm, measuring small (again) at a little under 9 weeks. Basically, it is growing at a good pace, just small - UPDATE: heart rate is 175 bpm according to an email from the clinic!
Harmony tests show that we are low risk and we're Team