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Posted by DesignerBug , 11 May 2013 · 1185 views

Nearly 6 years of unexplained infertility, a laundry list of procedures, a second trimester loss, not one, but TWO natural conceptions following a diagnoses of only a 2% chance of ever conceiving naturally, high risk pregnancies and a roller coaster of emotions.... and I'm here, I made it.
On this eve of Mothers Day i sit quietly at my computer after a long day of playing with a toddler, disciplining her constant test of my patience, while reminding myself that I "paid" a lot for this "experience" with a chuckle to try and help break the mounting stress. I bask in her beauty, glowing with pride in her every motion and I think back to this time last year... Mothers Day, the day I conceived my third miracle, thinking that we'd only ever be a family of three.
I'm not exactly sure what happened to the last 10 years. I know that I lived fully in each moment and the emotions and experiences I had were completely in those moments. The passion, the tears, the joys, the sorrows. They all happened, but it does seem a little like a dream that they happened to me.
I'll be honest, it's taken a long time to let go of my journey to parenthood. To forgive it for it's challenges and embrace it for it's rewards. I suppose for a long time I needed it in some way, so I could fall back on it for the strength that it provided in some weird way. But with time, I have continued to move forward, have continued to live each moment as it comes. Trying to maintain my awareness and understanding of myself, others and the world around us; and in doing so I have moved on.
Infertility is no longer part of who I am. It no longer shares my quiet time, my dinner table or my bed. Infertility took many things from me, but in return, somehow, some way it gave me my family. There were many a days where I questioned my faith and my belief, and many more that kept me strong and moving forward.
I am who I am today because of the life I have lead, the challenges I have faced and the dreams I have chased. I have  soared amongst the clouds, rolled in the mud and sunken to the deepest depths of the earth.
Today, in honour of "Mothers Day" I recognize that I became a Mother the moment I chose to sacrifice my body, mind, spirit and wallet in my quest to bring my angels to my arms. It was the hardest journey of my life and the most rewarding. Today, I reflect back not just on my past, but look forward to my future. I say thanks to the guardian angels who carried me through the tough times and I send my blessings and my love to those who continue to follow their dreams and remain empty in their arms, but have so much love in their hearts.
Know, that I don't come around here much anymore, but think of this place often. Moving on, is a good thing. We can acknowledge our past without carrying the burdens of it's baggage. We can forgive, we can love and we can have the most impossible dreams become the most vivid and incredible realities.
Incredibly and finally my journey is complete. I am a Mother, not only in my heart, but in the eyes of strangers. Strangers who will never know what it took to bring an amazing three year old into my womb, the challenges we faced to carry her to term or the fact that this little girl is not a big sister to just one, but two brothers. That our little man, has an older brother who watches over he and his sister or that our journey to parenthood and our "million dollar family" was anything but ordinary.
We dreamt it. We lived it. We believed it and we're here loving it. Miracles really do happen.

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Loved reading it :), happy mothers day to you :)


Beautiful, brought tears to my eyes and hopeful that someday I too will feel this way!

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April 2003... Let the Fun BeginSeptember 2004... First Visit to a SpecialistOctober 2004... Diagnosed with elevated prolactinDec2004 - May2005... Monthly rounds of Fermera, unmonitoredDecember2004... Uterine BiopsyMay2005... Post Coital Exam... diagnosed, hostile mucus (noted 2 years later that the exam was 15 years outdated and ovulation/fertile window was never confirmed, so results were technically inconclusive)June 2005... First IUI with FermeraAugust 2005... 2nd IUI with FermeraOctober 2005... 3rd IUI with FermeraNovember 2005... Uterine BiopsyDecember 2006... 4th IUI with FermeraJanuary 2006... 5th IUI with ClomidFebruary2006... HSG/LAP day surgery... results minor endo maybe... but otherwise nothingFebruary 2006... First Appointment at Hamilton Health Sciences Centre for Reproductive Care.... first internal u/s FIRST proper monitoring of cycle... turns out all those other IUI's were unsuccessful because they were done too early, I O late.April 2006... First monitored IUI with Clomid (6th IUI)May 2006... 7th IUI - First with injectablesJune 2006 - Canceled IUI... over stimulatedAugust 2006... 8th IUI - 2nd with injectablesDecember 2006... 9th IUI - 3rd with injectablesJanuary 2007 - BROKEN!!! Gave up for a year2007 - No Treatments! No drugs!October 2007... First consult for IVFOctober2007... Attended IVF Info SeminarNovermber2007... consult appointment, everything seemed good to go.December 2007.... another appointment... suddenly told I need to complete an EKG, PAP and series of blood tests before moving forward. Then encountered furhter delay due to Christmas holidays.January2008... Following identification of 4cm ovarian cyst on CD3 u/s... pushed for no more delays and got the cycle going.February2008... Retrieved 21 follicles, 11 fertilized, 6 survived to Day3February2008... Transfered 2, Grade4, 8 Cell, above average, high quality embryos. One week later started bleeding. Negative blood work confirmed unsuccessful attempt February 15, 2008.... February 18, 2008, original BETA day, bleeding stopped and the world as I knew it was gone.September 18, 2008 Frozen Embryo Transfer on natural cycleSeptember 26, 2008 8DPT positive HPT. Currently awaiting official betaOctober 1, 2008 Beta 5... stop progesterone... looks like we're back to the drawing board.October 26, 2008 The transfered 2 embryos (Grade4 6 cell and Grade 3 8 cell)November 4 & 5, 2008 BFN on HPT's - physical signs supporting the negative. Things don't look good.BETA NEGATIVEJanuary 2009 A new plate to lick, a new can to kick... Cheers to a New Year and Old dreams IVF#2 here we comeJanuary, 6, 2009 CD1... let the fun begin. Not feeling particularly optimisticJanuary, 7, 2009 CD2... It seems Hope has arrived. We're ready.January, 19, 2009 ER...retrieved 11, 7 mature, 7 fertilized via ICSIJanuary, 22, 2009 ET... transfered 2 Grade 4 8 Cell EmbryosJanuary, 31, 2009 9DP3DT.... firs ++HPTFebruary 2, 2009 11DPT BETA...110February 4, 2009 13DPT BETA...292February 17, 2009 First u/s Scheduled

IVF#2 Cycle Journal

CD1 - 01/06/09 - Called in CD1 mid afternoon after 1.5 days of spotting. Questioned if it was 'red' enough, but went with it.CD2 - 01/07/09 - Found Hope after feeling particularly lost and abandoned.CD3 - 01/08/09 - U/S and B/W, paid bill ($6500 IVF+ICSI, $1085.35 for first round of drugs). AFC: 12R, 15L. 2.7mm Cysts on Lefty, but opted to proceed as last IVF cycle had 4cm cyst on righty that was a non-issue. Next U/S scheduled for CD7, 01/12/09. Start 150units of Puregon tonight between 4:00 -10:00PM... Lesson learned, never inject down the middle of anything, belly or leg. It increases risk of bruising.CD4 - 01/09/09 - Overall feeling good. Accidentally injected blood thinners and puregon too close to each other so, although not visible, I have very uncomfortable bruised belly. Time to switch the blood thinner injections to the legs to avoid further pin cushion issues.CD5 - 01/10/09 - No side effects to report. Injection sites still particularly tender, bleeding a little longer then expected. Almost forgot meds AGAIN!!CD6 - 01/11/09 - Emotions seem to be floating up to the surface a little easier... maybe a result of the Puregon? Some twinges in the ovary regions on right and left sidesCD7 - 01/12/09 - u/s and b/w... Cyst appears to be down 10mm. Both left and right sides have 3 follicles aside all measuring 8mm or 9mm. This is good as they're maturing together. Continue with 150 Puregon every night. Now add Micro dose HCG and Orgalutron ($378) Report back in 2 days. By end of day emotions got the best of me. I was exhausted ALL day and didn't feel awake until 4pm. I then became quite irritable and grumpy and very impatient.CD8 - 01/13/09 - Yesterday moodiness was pretty rotten. Today. No physical discomfort so far. Took orgalutron and HCG this AM... damn forgot the prenatal AGAIN!!! My spirits are much better today and I'm feeling a little more alert and in a better mood.CD9 - 01/14/09 - u/s and b/w... Lefty - 5 Follicles (14x2, 13, 12x2) Righty 5 follicles (13x2, 12,11,10) CD7 estrogen was at 908... up from 519 on the equivalent day last IVF. Moods are still a little irrational. CD10 - 01/15/09 - Feeling significantly more stable and in better spirits. Far less bloating... heck I almost feel like me. I wonder if that's because I exercised just a little last night?CD11 - 01/16/09 - u/s and b/w... We now have 8 follicles on each side (18mmx2, 17mmx3, 15mmx5, 14mmx3, 13mmx2 and one 12mm) E2 levels are coming in at 2632 from Wednesday, so again right on track.CD12 - 01/17/09 - Clinic was a ZOO!!! u/s was surprisingly comfortable. Especially with 12 on the right at 11 on the left. Due to the insanity I didn't take the time to write all the numbers down. We just know there is plenty. Moods remained stable and good. ER scheduled for Monday. Trigger at 9:30PM. No more puregon.CD13 - 01/18/09 - feeling a little more full. Just waiting it out till tomorrow's ER.CD14 - 01/19/09 - ER scheduled for 9:30. ER completed, 14 eggs retrieved. ER was equally as painful as previous ER, just more drugs so it's easier to forget. Went home around 11:30... slept till 4:30, moved to couch for the evening and back to bed by 9:00. Slept through the night. No pain killers required.CD15 - 01/20/09 - Fertility Report: of 14, 7 were mature, of 7, 7 were ICSI'd with 100% fertilization. Back at work, feeling fine. Transfer scheduled for Thursday. Started progesterone today - twice daily. Using Crinone.So much for being diligent and colour coordinated!Transfer was on CD17-01/22/09. We transferred two 8 cell grade 4 embryos and now we're just waiting because that's what the rules dictate.Cracked and tested 9DP3DT... light second line on cheapy no name test... didn't believe it. A little more believable at 10DPT with First Response... even better at 11DPT beta back at 110.... 13DPT... beta 292!!! Holy Cow!!!! This is really happening!!!

IVF#2 Running Tally

IVF: $5000.00ICSI: $1500.00First Pharmacy Visit: $1085.35Second Pharmacy Visit: $648.00Third Pharmacy Visit: $502Progesterone: $522Freezing: $750Assisted Hatching: $400Dostinex: $130Total to Date: $10,537.35POST IVF PREGNANCY MED COSTSProgesterone: $1044Diclectin: $1000Fragmin - 10,000 units: $600/monthPrenatals: $100/2months

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