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End of IVFs for us.

Posted by Myrtle , 18 December 2013 · 3072 views

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We finished our 3rd fresh ivf with another BFN last week.  We barely had it in us to do this 3rd one, but we agreed to do it and then that would be it and we would be done.  So now we are done.  I got acupuncture, took steroids, was pretty relaxed, and even quit coffee for this one.  I pulled out all the stops.  I have no regrets in terms of anything that could have been done differently.
It's strange though, cause I still don't feel like I have given up hope for maybe getting pregnant naturally.  Maybe that is crazy thinking or part of the denial part of my grieving steps.  I don't feel as sad as I thought I would.  I am actually glad the holidays are coming up, as I will be surrounded by people and I don't really want to be alone.
I am so thankful we have my son.  Throughout all of this, it has made me more and more grateful for the one child I DO already have.  We have toyed with the idea of adoption, but no serious decisions have been made.  My husband decided a long time ago to just be happy with only one child.  I might be on board with that, but I'm still hanging on to the idea that maybe, just maybe, we might have another somehow.  

I'm so sorry to hear your last cycle didn't work. Wishing you better tomorrows!
Dec 18 2013 07:51 PM

Good luck Myrtle... it never hurts to hold out hope for the future, anything is possible.  All the best.

Dec 19 2013 06:37 PM
Sorry to hear, I wish you the best of luck!
I'm sorry it didn't work out for this final attempt with IVF. I'm glad you seem so at peace with your decision of where to stop with treatments. I don't think it is crazy at all to not have given up on a natural conception. With my treatment, we did two rounds of donor eggs that turned out BFN. I was seeing a counsellor throughout my treatment and after my last BFN, during a session, I said "I still haven't given up on us getting pregnant on our own". She looked at me like I was a bit nuts but we were out of time so didn't really talk about delusional thinking. The next time I saw her 4 months later I was 5.5 weeks pregnant with my daughter after having conceived naturally at 41.5 years old. So I can relate to not giving up hope but not putting your life on hold in order to conceive like undergoing treatment does. Good luck and I hope to hear that another child has found his/her way to you in the future.
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All the best to you in whatever the future holds for you.

Dec 28 2013 02:33 PM

I am glad to hear you are at peace with moving on from IVF and that you have no regrets. I believe that is really important. Best of luck with everything and keep hope that miracles can happen.

Thank you for posting this, all the best to you in the future

What a powerful post. I know if I had listened to other's I would have stopped after 3 years of ttc naturally. I really do believe that internally we know when enough is enough. I was blessed to get pregnant naturally at 41 and 42. There was a 15 year age gap between the my oldest. I just internally knew that it was going to happen. Now I am attempting my last child and feel the same way. It will happen especially using DE. And I also know internally that I do not want to have any more children after this last one. I've already visualized my "burning of the womb" ceremony. Wishing you the best in what ever comes your way.

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