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I don't think it's a coincidence that the acronym for follow-up is FU.
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Rachel T.
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24 February 2012
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IVF negative infertility same-sex
It's been a week since my follow-up after the failed cycle. It's taken me this long to think it over and realize I don't have much to say about it. Not much was said. I "should be pregnant". Thanks.
He didn't tell me anything I didn't already know and while I really like him and I appreciated that he spends to much time talking to me I left feeling pretty frustrated. My egg quality is fantastic, all but one of the 21 eggs looked great before fertilization.
My wife says I have one more cycle with an egg retrieval. Period. I supposed this leaves me with a few options.
1) Save up for the cycle and try again. This time with ICSI and waiting until day 5 for the transfer.
Pro: I would have a good number of eggs with a higher fertilization rate
Con: of it doesn't work for me then I've put a ton of money into this and have nothing to show.
2) Doing a shared cycle with someone who is looking for donor eggs.
Pro: This would save me money, would save them money.
Con: We'd be working with less eggs although probably still about 10-12. Shared cycle would also have some emotional issues if the recipient were to get a BFP and I did not or vice-versa.
3) Doing one last donor cycle and using the money to just try IUI with donor sperm more times.
Pro: IUI is a lot less stress on my body.
Con: IUI is less effective and after 5 attempts with nothing I'm not too hopeful.
4) Stop trying and either have my wife try IUI or apply for adoption.
Pro: It might take the first time, we can stop wasting money and time.
Con: My wife doesn't want to be pregnant, we don't know if she will have fertlity issues, she doesn't want to consider adoption yet and I really WANT to be pregnant.
Right now I think I'm leaning to number 2 but I don't know. I think I'd want to know the recipient and I know that is complicated. I guess I'm thinking that if this doesn't work out for me (or even if it does) I may want to know any potential child. I don't know if I really truly want this, but it's something I might want to at least consider. I think it would be far more complicated to find a couple looking for an egg donor that is willing to do a shared cycle like this.
He didn't tell me anything I didn't already know and while I really like him and I appreciated that he spends to much time talking to me I left feeling pretty frustrated. My egg quality is fantastic, all but one of the 21 eggs looked great before fertilization.
My wife says I have one more cycle with an egg retrieval. Period. I supposed this leaves me with a few options.
1) Save up for the cycle and try again. This time with ICSI and waiting until day 5 for the transfer.
Pro: I would have a good number of eggs with a higher fertilization rate
Con: of it doesn't work for me then I've put a ton of money into this and have nothing to show.
2) Doing a shared cycle with someone who is looking for donor eggs.
Pro: This would save me money, would save them money.
Con: We'd be working with less eggs although probably still about 10-12. Shared cycle would also have some emotional issues if the recipient were to get a BFP and I did not or vice-versa.
3) Doing one last donor cycle and using the money to just try IUI with donor sperm more times.
Pro: IUI is a lot less stress on my body.
Con: IUI is less effective and after 5 attempts with nothing I'm not too hopeful.
4) Stop trying and either have my wife try IUI or apply for adoption.
Pro: It might take the first time, we can stop wasting money and time.
Con: My wife doesn't want to be pregnant, we don't know if she will have fertlity issues, she doesn't want to consider adoption yet and I really WANT to be pregnant.
Right now I think I'm leaning to number 2 but I don't know. I think I'd want to know the recipient and I know that is complicated. I guess I'm thinking that if this doesn't work out for me (or even if it does) I may want to know any potential child. I don't know if I really truly want this, but it's something I might want to at least consider. I think it would be far more complicated to find a couple looking for an egg donor that is willing to do a shared cycle like this.
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Anyway, good luck.