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Aaaahhh ... family.

Posted by impatient , 28 July 2011 · 1998 views

Thank you all for your support over the last few days. It was very upsetting to have a blow out with my Mom. We're very close and her inappropriate comments really cut into me.

I realized that infertility is so much a part of my daily life that I just take it forgranted that everyone else in this world should just have a common sense understanding of what it's like too. I had a good conversation with my brother and he told me that my parents often confide in him that they don't know what to say to me or how to act around me.

I emailed them the link to the video at www.tearsandhope.com (thanks laura1976!), and I also found a really, really good article at http://www.resolve.o...y-strikes.html. The article discusses how infertility affects the entire extended family - I highly recommend that anyone who is having problems with parents or siblings read it.

I'm happy to say that the article helped my parents to understand their actions and my actions, and both of them have apologized to me.




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ladylazarus
Jul 28 2011 01:43 PM
Being misunderstood on top of everything else is just too much to bear. I'm SO glad they not only apologized, but can now be supportive in the way that you deserve. I thought your way of explaining it through the empty arms movie was a great choice. Good for you for insisting your feelings be respected!
its really nice to hear you've gotten an apology and some understanding. Hoping you are all able to move forward together.
i loved the resolve link. excellent articles for family and friends to read!!!
I guess I should add that I also apologized to them - especially to my Mom for telling her 'F you!' :pardon:
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That's really great to hear, it's one less frustration to deal with. I had a break through with my mom too today so I can relate to how good it feels to have some positive communication and understanding. Hope they are able to support you the way you need them to.
I am happy that you were able to resolve this in a healthy way for everyone involved. It sounds like you not only made peace, but progress too. Nicely done!
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silverdollar
Jul 28 2011 10:13 PM
Glad you had some mutual understanding and resolution. I hope smoother relationships are the result.
I am glad that things got resolved and that you are feeling a bit better about the relationship with your family. It is so true that IF affects the extended family. I sometimes expect the whole family to understand and yet they just don't because they haven't gone through it.
One very inspiring woman on this site (who doesn't visit as often as she used to) was ceska_holkacz. She has 2 beautiful daughters, but has also coped with alot of loss - but in a very moving and spiritual way. I hope you can get some inspiration from her blog....

http://myjourneyonth...ls.blogspot.com

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