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I am a mom!

Posted by tigerlady , 09 April 2010 · 871 views

I have had almost 7 months to reflect on my new role in life. I am a Mother. I never thought I would be a mother. I often used to fantasize about what it would be like to have another human refer to me as Mother, their caregiver, the person whom their whole world revolves around. But it always seemed like such a fantasy from a far away place.


Wikipedia says this:A mother is a woman who has, conceives, gives birth to, or raises a child.[1] Because of the complexity and differences of a mothers' social, cultural, and religious definitions and roles, it is challenging to define a mother to suit a universally accepted definition.

Concieves? check. Gives birth..check... raising a child...check!! I am a Mom!! Wow,, it has taken a long time to sink in. Sometimes I am so afraid I will wake up and it will all have been a dream.

My whole perception on life has changed. I used to be known as that wild carefree life of the party girl. No real perception of consequence. Now every little thing I do, I carefully think out rationale and consequence. I am responsible for another persons life. I need to do everything in my power to keep her safe and me safe. I look at my husband differently now, he is a Dad! He is a wonderful Dad, he loves his daughter soo much. I see his face light up when he comes home and see her smile!! That for me is priceless, that is very satifying. All those voids I used to try and fill with different things are now all filled in one little smile. Amazing!

I see the world differently now. Every thing I see, is a memory, a reflection or an opportunity. I find myself more and more reflecting on my family and an increasing desire to have that white picket fence family we all long for.

I find I try and connect more to my own mother. I see her in a whole new light. She raised us. We were no saints..beleive me! She is a strong woman! I use to think woman that just wanted to be a mom, no career aspirations were just weird or lazy. Boy was I wrong, this is the HARDEST job you will ever have, its the most rewarding job you will ever have with life lasting benefits. I would love to be a SAHM, unfortunately I have my own business that I also love. The great multi-tasker that I am, I will run my business and be a great mom!

Once you join the Mommy Club, you are drawn to anyone that is a mommy. New connections, new relationships. There is a special bond already formed because we are moms.

I guess what I am trying to say,, the news has sunk, I am a Mom, a very proud Mom and I wouldn't change a thing!!!

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awww what a cute post!!
Shelbey is a beautiful baby!
Aww Anne! What a wonderful entry.

Hugs.
awwww I'm crying lol :)
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hoping_it_will
Apr 09 2010 10:41 AM
Love it!!! :dance:
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HeartlandWpg
Apr 09 2010 12:32 PM
You are a wonderful mom, Anne :dance:

K
xo
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valentine0214
Apr 09 2010 02:01 PM
what a beautiful baby. So happy that you are enjoying motherhood. It is the most beautiful experience ever. I can totally relate to the whole job thing too...I used to be so career oriented..nothing else mattered to me except getting ahead. Now I am getting laid off and I am HAPPY! I am going to stay home for as long as I can and take care of Jasmin and I feel like the luciest person in the world! Loved your entry, brought tears to my eyes!! :dance:
Thanks Ladies!!! I think I am always crying lol
KL- There lots of room in the club for you!!! For everyone :-)
I am the same way val, career just doesnt seem important anymore :-)
Your post maid me cry. It is my dream to be mom.
You're doing GREAT Mom! I left my career in the dust the moment I became pregnant with twins and I have never regretted the decision. Our children are the most important things in the world.

Thanks for the post, beautiful!

XOXOX
hugs love2bemom!! You will be a mom!!

HugsAlot- I think if I am successful and have a second, I will leave my career in the dust too :-)
tigerlady you made me cry and feel happy too. Oh wow it looks so incredible being a MOM. I can't wait. I just CAN'T WAIT. Then I tell myself that I already am a mom, to my baby inside. Eeeeeeeekkkkkkk too excited. Too scared to let myself be this happy. Eeeeeeeeeekkkkk! Thanks for your post, it was great xxx
:)

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Me 35 DH 52 TTC #1 3 Years2 Ectopic, one tube removed one blocked.. many miscariages and grief later1 Laparotomy, 1 LaprascopyIVF#1Dec 9, 2008 start BCP Dec 20,2008 Start Suprefact Jan 2, 2009 start Puregon.... 23 Follicles, 20 growingER: Jan 14 Thank god that's over with!!!!!! 11 Eggs retrieved - 9 Fertilized YAYAYAYAYAY!!!!!!!ET - Jan 17 930 am - transferred 2 8cell grade 3.5 embryos,,, 2 to Freeze :-)) 2ww ----longest wait of my life!!!!!!! BFP on HPTS!!!!Beta Jan 28- 113 Beta Jan 30- 339 Beta Feb 2- 1570DUE DATE Oct 8, 2009First OB- March 30 - HB 150! So amazing1st u/s- Feb 9 One baby!2nd u/s Feb 20 143 HB! All is well, no more trips to OFC!3rd u/s MAY 12 -------> Whats it gonna be? boy or girl??

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