My back story ttc 4 1/2 years
Here goes my second blog entry...it is your lucky dizzay.
So let me start at the beginning ...
I married my man in August of 2010. He was my first and only luva! I was about to be 24. He was 31 and he was recently divorced with a 3 year old son and a 6 year old daughter. He also had had an 11 year old step daughter that was more like a his own being that she was his kids half sister.
My man had had a vasectomy after his last kid. We new before we were married that he would get it reversed so we could have kids. My mom took him by the throat of his shirt and told him that her daughter waited for marriage and he better not jack up her chances for a grand baby! It was actually kind of funny. About a year later in November of 2011 we had the reversal surgery! Yay!! Now we can actually make a baby when we make love...I felt powerful lol. Little did I know it wasn't powerful at all
The vasectomy doctor told us that it could take about two years for pregnancy after. So we waited and waited and nothing happened. I got really into ttc ...the temping and bfns got old after a while. We decided in 2013 to go see a doctor that many of my coworkers had success with. He then told us about antisperm antibodies that can coat sperm after any kind of surgery down there. The doctor also scanned me and tested my mans Sperm. He said I looked young and healthy (I was 26) and my mans Sperm looked great! But he said the antibodies can't be detected but they would make it impossible to break into an egg to fertilize it! So we thought he was being dramatic because this can't even be proven. We decided to just keep trying naturally ...he suggested IVF. We weren't ready for that.
3 YEARS LATER + MORE CRAP WRONG
3 years later brings us up to date...
I am 29 and my man is 36. Never been pregnant and after a lot of heartache and prayer we decided to go back to a different doctor just last month in January. He also said we most likely have antisperm antibodies which makes natural fertilization impossible. BUT He also told us that my freakin egg reserve is low!!!!! I was so surprised and disappointed to hear this. I kept hearing "you are young...you have time girl" apparently NOT! All of my other levels and blood work look pretty good though. My AFC count was a mere 5 on one side and 3-4 on the other. I just can't believe it. It seems so unfair that the first doc didn't even discuss my follicle count. My AMH is 1.11 and FSH is 8.18. It is not terrible but for 29 it really is.
So my doc wants me to bank eggs with a few retrievals and THEN do a FET. I am not made of MONEY! My husband wanted to have a heart attack. He was just getting used to the IVF Idea and then we needed to pay more and our chances of success seem lower but the doc wouldn't say it.
NEW HOPE & A PLAN
As soon as we left the doc we got in an argument and I started crying so hard. It was all just so much and so real. I immediately started searching IVF studies and cheap options. Then I found IVF in Mexico. We had our honeymoon in Cancun and we loved it. Low and behold there are 2 wonderful clinics there to choose from! It only costs 5,900 and meds are 1500-2500. My man immediately said he would go to Mexico because if it fails then we at least get a vaycay out of it. I will write about comparing and choosing my clinic in my next post in a few days peeps! Thanks for reading...I need to write about this stuff as I am totally getting on my close friends and families nerves talking about it all of the time! All of you can truly appreciate what all of this is and just how draining and emotional this can be! Thanks for your support! Prayers for you and your journey!
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