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#526931 You know you're infertile when (meant to be a funny thread)

Posted by EMJ on 04 April 2013 - 09:23 PM

You see twins in a stroller at the mall and wonder "fresh" or "frosties":)

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#613226 New Forum Ownership

Posted by Rick on 19 December 2013 - 04:56 PM

Dear Valued Members


I originally created this site in 2002 after the birth of our daughter who we had through IVF. Until then I was quite dissatisfied with IVF networks I had been a member at and I felt there was a serious patient networking gap in Canada. Rather than complain about it I took matters and vision in hand and created


The project became a major commitment. I took this on with no web experience whatsoever. Needless to say it has caused many sleepless nights.  Perhaps even a sleepless decade.


Internet related technologies are moving forward at a tremendous clip. At this stage I feel it’s time to hand over the reins to a company who can help manage and grow in the future. Today I am announcing has been acquired by the media company VerticalScope.


VerticalScope is taking over the operational aspects of the website and you may see some changes appear as a result over time, however the forum itself should not be greatly affected. Everyone will continue to use the forum and site as they do now. I will still be involved with the website as much as time permits, in particular assisting with transition issues. The existing moderator team will still maintain their rights and roles in the forum and be an integral part of the website.


I hope that, in some small way, I’ve been able to make a difference in the lives of those who struggle with infertility. I have come to know many people on this site that have made a difference in my life. If I can ever be of assistance to anyone on this website in the future, including VerticalScope and their staff, please feel free to ask. I’ll be hanging around. You probably can’t get rid of me!


Thank you


Rick Bissonette




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#550624 our baby boy is here

Posted by nervus optimist on 29 June 2013 - 02:03 PM

it is with overflowing joy that I'm writing to share the news of the safe arrival of our son!


So extremely grateful to the medical team who helped him come into the world a smidgen earlier than expected and under under some unique and unexpected circumstances, to the midwife team who supported me through my pregnancy, birth and postpartum stuff, family and friends who are sharing in this joyful experience with us, the my clinic for always giving us hope, and treatment options, and for matching us with our donor embryos, to the couple who chose embryo donation making it possible for us to be parents, and to all of my friends at for the support and encouragements along the way - it was a post I read here that got us thinking about embryos donation at a time when we thought TTC was a thing of the past for us.  so glad we gave it some consideration.  it has changed our lives.




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#1184545 My story

Posted by delusion on 19 September 2014 - 11:27 AM

Hi all,


at one point I have promised to myself if I ever have children I will share my story to give hope to others. So here we go...


My husband and I were 28 when we have agreed it's time for a baby. Two years, countless ovulation tests and disappointments later we realized it's not going to be that easy. Then we went to fertility center and after switching few doctors we ended up with Dr Librach. I must say I DO believe he's the best fertility specialist out there and if anyone is able to help in GTA it would be him.


My husband had lower quality semen (on the lower end of the normal range) and I have PCOS and homo MTFHR. Nothing particularly serious that cannot be treated.

I've done 7 IUI cycles - 6 with Clomid, 7th with Gonal F. Got pregnant 3 times and miscarried all 3 (one pregnancy had twins). Then we decided to move on to IVF. Once again, I got pregnant on a fresh cycle, but miscarried at week 9 - this was the longest pregnancy for me, so the disappointment was even higher. Overall, we spent 3 years on treatements.


I was taking Metformin, baby aspirin, dexamethasone, intralipid injections in addition to regular cycle meds like estrogen, progesterone, etc. I was heartbroken. I was barely holding and was considering dropping out of the game. My husband was the only thing that held me strong. He took all the losses very sensitively, but he could not consider the possibility for us not to have children. I promised him we will continue trying until we turn 35 yrs old, after that we may reconsider our views. My biggest fear was to waste my life trying and losing bebies, then realizing at 40s that I haven't had a chance to enjoy my time while remaining childless. We had to accept many restrictions in order to continue with fertility treatements.


Well, last October we went for FET. I got pregnant again. With twins. The only mild difference we have made this time was (a) FET instead of fresh cycle (B) progesterone shots instead of suppositories © 2 dexamethasone pills a day instead of 1. At one point I counted 11 pills/shots I was doing daily for the first 12 weeks. Every single week we went for an u/s was hell: I was shaking with fear to hear about yet another loss. The first 12 weeks were shockingly tough on us mentally. I had 2 big bleeding/sotting incidents, not something that helps to ease your mind. Finally, at 13 weeks we've been told babies look great, Harmony test came back negative, and we can move on to a real obstetrician.


At 19 weeks u/s we've discovered that my cervix is getting shorter and shorter. By week 21 it was only 2 cm long. I was mentally drained. I was crying every minute night and day. I was so afraid to get that far and lose babies for another reason. I left work and stayed home. I literally self-prescribed complete bed rest. I got up only to walk 10 feet to the washroom, took shower once a week (10 min max), and got up once a day to walk to the kitchen in mid day to microwave lunch. That's it. Everyday before going to work, my husband would place pillows/extra things under the mattress, so I end up at an angle with my feet up (to keep pressure off the cervix). I was worried every single second. My husband and I cried when we realized we may not carry babies to life. After 24 weeks I got mentally prepared for an early labour and the possibility of having extremely premature babies. But time went on and on. First I thought I'd feel happier once I reach 28 weeks, then 32 weeks, etc. But weeks were passing by, and I didn't feel less worried. At the end, I manage to carry past 37 weeks and would have lasted longer, but was prescribed labour induction b/c of high blood pressure. My babies came into life healthy and marked as "healthy full term newborns".


These are dry facts, but I cannot explain how much I went through the past 3 years with 5 pregnancies and 4 miscarriages. What we felt during the last 4 months of my pregnancy, how worried we were, how we haven't given ourselves a single second to feel happy for the pregnancy because of the fear to jinx it, to lose it again. I didn't even feel the magic moment when I 've heard babies cry for the first time - the only thought in my mind was if they're healthy and everything is normal.


Right now my twins are almost 3 months old. They are beautiful, amazing, developping well. Every day I thank Lord for giving them to me, even if it means very hard times and many sleepless nights.


Pls, do not lose hope. Things do happen. We never found out the reason for our losses, but we kept going, we kept hitting heads against the wall and we've got what we wanted. I want your hearts to fill with hope. Good luck. Be strong.








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#525688 April Fool's pregnancy jokes...

Posted by Heregoesnothing on 01 April 2013 - 08:53 AM

My Aunt uploaded this on her Facebook Page for April Fools.  
Thought it was pretty kick ass of her...


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#590045 Dempie's Twins are Here

Posted by Dempie on 18 November 2013 - 09:36 AM

Baby Emma weighing 4.5 lbs and Baby Noah weighing 3.5 lbs arrived on November 13th at 32 weeks and 4 days. Both doing very well in the NICU and are expected home by Christmas.
My sincere gratitude to the women on this website for the support during my darkest moments and for rejoicing in our success. It's a cliche but dreams do come true!
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#526910 You know you're infertile when (meant to be a funny thread)

Posted by Red Wine on 04 April 2013 - 08:32 PM

You know you're infertile when....


1) you organize hpt and opk in order of expiration date;

2) you know your clinic success rates by memory; and

3) you get jealous of a pregnant dog.


We all have funny infertile moments in amongst the challenging times and failed cycles, etc.


Add yours...

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#1137730 To the woman I saw crying

Posted by oceanbluesngreens on 26 August 2014 - 11:30 PM

To the woman I saw crying as she walked through the Monitoring section of the new facility on the morning of Friday, August 22:
I can't get your image out of my head - I was so sorry to see you in this state. I have been there myself and I know how terrible it is to walk through a crowded waiting room while you cannot contain your emotions. I hope you are doing OK now. I just wanted to give you a big HUG when I saw you like this on that morning...  Sending you a big virtual hug tonight. th_abighug.gif

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#526981 You know you're infertile when (meant to be a funny thread)

Posted by quandry on 05 April 2013 - 01:56 AM

You know you're infertile when you wake at the crack of dawn to sit in a doctors office with a dozen other women, like cattle being herded, while we are all poked and prodded.  You know you're really an IF vet when you finally start talking to the woman next to you while everyone else gasps at the breaking of the silence.

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#2320785 My journey is over.

Posted by hs4816 on 16 January 2017 - 08:16 AM

Gwinny, not everybody has the resources to continue. Maybe it's money. Maybe it's emotions. It could be anything. I know people so devastated from failure that jas ripped their marriage apart. 2 rounds of ivf is a lot. Considering donors isn't for everyone. Considering adoption isn't for everyone.

The original poster just needs support. If she wants to keep trying she will. If her journey feels over, then that's the truth for her.
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#1990314 Infertility Vets and nearing the end

Posted by gibasgirl on 16 March 2016 - 08:48 PM

This is a thread for infertility veterans. The ones who tried and tried and tried. The ones who have been stuck on the sidelines watching the parade go by.


The experience of infertility changes over time. For many the experience is brief enough that no major harm is done to their hope and sense of self, but the experience may haunt them.


This thread, however, is for the ones infertility left behind.


The ones for whom thinking positively never worked. The ones who were inspired and motivated by the good fortunes of others, but remain childless. The ones who did "one last cycle" five times but still have empty arms. The ones who can't admit to how many cycles they have actually done in secret. The ones who try to forget their due dates. The ones for whom good wishes simply wash over them like a beautiful foreign language they used to speak long ago, but no longer understand.




I was moved by a blog about grief, shattering, and moving on,




For a small segment of us we reach a point where we have to stop and walk away from our dream of parenthood.


It's not easy. There is a mourning period and you have to build a new house for your new normal in a world that has been turned upside down.


ART and adoption is not for the faint of heart. We all enter this place from a perspective of hope: the hope of finding true and lasting love and the hope of building a family. 


When it doesn't happen initially, we turn to our doctors for help and are given the solution IUI/IVF and move forward with hope and a feeling in our hearts that it will work out as planned. 


For many it does work out that way.


For a few it takes several attempts to find the magic.


For a small number, the dream is elusive. 


We have different exit points or emotional and financial limits but our dreams still live inside of us.

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#526960 You know you're infertile when (meant to be a funny thread)

Posted by jenpen on 04 April 2013 - 10:36 PM

Haha. Funny thread. I'm joking on this (kinda) BUT you know you're infertile when you aren't even having sex to conceive!!!!
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#526952 You know you're infertile when (meant to be a funny thread)

Posted by Emily81 on 04 April 2013 - 10:17 PM

You've taken a HPT after trigger just to finally see the 2 lines.


When someone asks you the date, you say "Day 18".


You've taken apart a HPT to check for another line/ taken one out of the trash hrs later to check for a line.


Found this online, some funny answers :)


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#539570 Controversial Topics

Posted by Rick on 16 May 2013 - 01:32 AM

As you know Assisted Reproduction and Reproductive Rights have many controversial issues/topics. It is not our place to censor discussion on everything that might be controversial. In the recent Gender selection discussion, although gender selection is unlawful in many parts of the world, including Canada, using the board to discuss gender selection did not violate a law. On the other hand, IVF.CA is not a clearinghouse for the organization and recruitment of such activities. And if that were the case we would not allow it. Likewise, medication discussions. It is not unlawful to say one is using meds they received from someone else, but it is unlawful to attempt to swap/sell/buy/trade prescription medications. Where peoples lives are at risk (health and legal), including our own, we will draw the line everytime we see it.
There are plenty of minefields that moderators take into consideration. Not only about what is lawful, or unlawful, but what is content-appropriate for the site/members. There are shades of grey everywhere. Our moderators volunteer their time for the love of the community, and every once in awhile they are placed into a difficult situation where just about everyone has an opinion (and rarely the same one). I ask that we don't make their voluntary efforts more stressful than they are already.
Everyone in this community is here for a reason. Usually a stressful one. We're all in this together, one way or another, so lets make the best of it. Be good to each other.

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#588573 Open letter of thanks

Posted by gibasgirl on 13 November 2013 - 08:50 AM

My dear, sweet friends, cheerleaders, and members,


Thank you. 


Especially Butterfli who gave me wings this week in what has been (to put it mildly) a difficult time. 


Here I am fumbling through this world without fully grasping the reach my actions have had on others, but then I get an unexpected, and very welcome, outpouring of love and support.


And I am humbled. And deeply moved. And thankful. 


I marvel at the timing because a few of my broken pieces have fallen out of place and your outpouring of love is like glue.


My deepest and sincere thanks.





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#538338 Status-free weekend

Posted by Rick on 11 May 2013 - 09:52 AM

This weekend is one of the more difficult weekends of the year for those experiencing infertility and are child-free. For the remainder of this weekend the board will operate without the status update sidebar. It should be back after the weekend. Thank you for your understanding.

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#527039 You know you're infertile when (meant to be a funny thread)

Posted by smc on 05 April 2013 - 10:03 AM

...When TTC is no longer a way to see the city

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#1527898 My dream has ended

Posted by gibasgirl on 21 April 2015 - 03:01 AM


I am very sorry this is happening to you. I have been rooting for you since you joined and my heart aches for you.

You are not alone.

Infertility can be a destructive force on its' own and with the overlay of blame it is even more hurtful.

Your husband is not being fair to you, your marriage, or the life you were trying to build together.

It is a very traditionalist position that he has taken by blaming you. Infertility is a medical condition that affects a couple as a unit. This reminds me of the stance Henry VIII took in his pursuit of a male heir: blaming the women.

A loving man, an honest man, an ethical man would not treat you this way. I think there is more to the story than he is telling you. A person can only have a baby "now" if they have made prior arrangements with a willing participant.

I think it is not uncommon for us to think about 'setting our partners free' to pursue parenthood with someone else in the midst of infertility, but it's usually a dialogue (or a thought that we turn over in our heads).

It hurts now. There is confusion now. There is devastation, but in the wake of these broken pieces is freedom.

You may not be able to see it now because it is early and you have to process this, but your freedom awaits.

There are other options when you are ready for them.

Who is to say that he would not find something else to blame you for and be unsupportive about?

If counselling is something that you are open to, then it is well worth it to spend some time with a therapist who specialises in the unique challenges faced by people dealing with infertility. If your husband is willing to join you it could be beneficial for both of you, but I get the sense that he made a unilateral decision.

For now be good to yourself. Be gentle with yourself. Know that you are a wonderful person deserving of love. You are a gem. You are deserving of the best this world has to give and a bright future awaits you.

We are here for you.


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