Hello to all of you wonderful ladies. I'm hoping we can get personal here for a minute. I'm wondering what ages you did you IVF cycles at and what your outcome was.
We've just had our second BFN since December, and those were the last of the frozen embryos 😢
So now I sit here totally lost and in a daze with nothing to do but chase my own thoughts in circles around my head. It's been 9 years since that cycle, and I'm afraid of doing another one and still ending up where I am right now anyway. I was born without a uterus so I knew young that IVF was my route. I guess this was a "benefit" of the situation - that I was 22 when we did our first cycle.
We got 21 eggs, of which 17 fertilized, and 12 made it to day 3. We transferred 2 to a surrogate, which resulted in an early miscarriage. Thawed 3 (1 didn't survive), transferred 2, had a healthy boy in 2009. Fast forward a few years after surrogate search struggles, and we found another angel. At this point we decided to thaw some embryos and advance them to day 5 at the advice of our RE. 1 didn't survive the thaw, and 1 didn't advance, but this left us with a single embryo to transfer and 2 to put back into the freezer. Transfer took and we had a healthy girl in 2014. This ultimately left us with 2 slow movers at day 6 or 7 and 3 more day 3, so 5 embryos frozen total.
Now we've got another surrogate and have done 2 FET's, both negative I know we were using the last choice embryos ultimately as they were what was left over, but I'm still heartbroken and don't know how I want to proceed from here. I'm 31 now, so definitely not 22, and I guess I'm mostly afraid of going through it all again and not get any further ahead anyway - a struggle I'm sure most people here can relate with.
I know everyone is different, I'm just trying to do what I can to think of how to move forward from here, and part of that is research.