So we are pursuing IVF with TESA because df had a vasectomy over 10 years ago. We both have children from prior relationships but have now decided we want a baby together. We have been told we aren't candidates for reversal and he has said he isn't interested in reversal. I think the problem I'm having is that I have been researching the heck out of everything so that I know as much as I possibly can going into our consult as you can only cover so much in a short amount of time and if you don't even know the basics I feel like you're wasting your time/money.
Df? Not so much. Until I had a mini melt down tonight he hadn't even looked into any part of the procedure and even when he did look into it tonight he only looked at the TESA portion, didn't bother to look into what IVF actually entails. His logic is that this is what we have decided we are doing so we will do what we have to do and he doesn't want to know all of the possible risks and side effects because it will make him hesitant.
I'm probably being unreasonable but this is making me feel like he isn't invested in this process nor in my health in general. I know that over research everything but the childish side of me is irritated. Add to that the recommendation came from the urologist here (not the one at our clinic) today that we should just consider DS because it's less invasive, less money, less risky, etc. I simply relayed what the email said and he lost it about us deciding to have a baby "together" and using DS isn't "together"...first, in mind head it totally is because DNA doesn't make a parent and second, we are a blended family, my ex husband has no interest in our children and my df has stepped in 100% and is dad to them...I'm trying not to be hurt by the comment but it makes me question how he feels towards the kids we are currently raising "together".
Sorry just needed to vent and didn't know where else to turn.