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So crushed... only 1 donor embryo made to freezing

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#1 wishbone70

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Posted 03 January 2017 - 09:30 PM

Where do I start... I guess I just have trouble believing my luck.  We have 1 DD after a very lucky cycle when I was 37.  Since then I have done 5 failed OE cycles before 42.  Took me a few years to accept the idea of donor egg.  I was 45 when I finally convinced myself into donor egg, then the process of hunting down a donor meeting our requirements took a while.  The first one we are interested is a proven donor - 4 times successful resulting in live birth for the recipients.  But she was disqualified by my clinic due to poor AFC test.  Moving on to the 2nd donor this past summer who looked perfect on paper, but only after the screening she told us that she can't cycle till end of the year (Dec 2016).  So we waited per clinic's recommendation because her numbers are great and she had a successful donor cycle before that resulted in pregnancy and frosties.


Now fast forward to Dec 2016, just my luck that I had a breast cancer scare.  All the stress plus that I had to have a uterine polyp removed makes Dec not possible for me receive the embryo.  Since the donor has such limited schedule, we decided to do a freeze all cycle and transfer later at my clinic's recommendation.  Everyone was telling me that the donor will generate so many embies and FETs are as successful as fresh.  So on we go with the revised plan.


The donor  started off great, but only yielded 7 eggs on retrieval day - only 4 mature, 3 fertilized via ICSI, and only 1 made to freezing.  How could this happen after 40K+ spent plus bending backwards waiting for this donor?!  I know it's not anyone's fault, but I am just can't help feeling angry and upset, and I can't help but wonder if the cycle was not done right.  


This is end of the line for us, I am turning 47 in a few months and we can't keep throwing money into more cycles.  All our hope now lies on this 1 frozen embie assuming that it will survive thaw and is genetically viable and will stick.  But that just feels so unthinkable right now.  I can't muster up energy to feel optimistic at the moment.  I just feel so sad for where we are and so sad for my DD who dreams about having a sibling.  I know I should be grateful for what I have but it's just hard to be positive at the moment.  


Well I just really need to get this off of my chest.  Thanks for listening.  If anyone have a miracle success story with a lone frozen embryo, please do share!

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#2 ilovemydogs

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Posted 03 January 2017 - 10:34 PM

I'm so sorry. We found ourselves in a similar position with donor eggs from a proven donor. One was transferred (negative) and only one to freeze after consistently hearing comments about how many embryos most get. This was our only shot as well. It was such a bad experience that we have put off the final transfer, since if it doesn't work i won't be giving birth. At least now we still have a sliver of hope.
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#3 nervus optimist

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Posted 03 January 2017 - 11:40 PM

My son was a one and only twice frozen, twice thawed embryo. Miracles do happen. You never know.


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I am 37, DH - 38
Genetic - IVF&PGD to prevent Genetic Disorder
IVF #1 - Nov/08 - MC @ 6 weeks, no embryos frozen
IVF #2 - Aug/09 - bfn
IUI #1 - Feb/10 - ectopic
PRIDE - Apr/10
Homestudy - July/10
Given the gift of donor embryos - Jan/12
Donor FET Jun/12 - 9 weeks - no heartbeat... MC
Donor FET Oct/12 - we're PG biggrin.png

===> Beautiful baby boy born 2013 babyboy.gif

Donor FET Oct/16 - chemical

April 2017 - surprise PG

#4 amp77

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Posted 04 January 2017 - 07:59 AM

I am sorry that you have had such a difficult and frustrating journey and had such a disappointment from your donor egg cycle.  It is impossible to not be disappointed and worry that it won't work and is your one and only chance.  I know several people with babies from a first donor cycle and a friend is just pregnant from her first OE IVF where she just ended up with one 3 day embryo which was transferred.  It really does take just one and donor eggs typically yield higher success rates.  I will be thinking of you and I hope that this one sticks!

Age 39, DH 43 in Oct.

TTC on and off since 2007 before our second IVF, in 2014, brought us our beautiful son.


FET #1 -  Sept 2016

Day 1 - Sept. 9

Monitoring - Sept. 18-22

Lining Check - Sept. 22 (11.3 mm)

Transferred 5B-BB Sept. 25 - BFP!!!  HCG 890 @ 12dp5dt and Progesterone 95.
Midwife appointment Sept. 19 and first ultrasound Nov. 4
3 Frosties left


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Seems like forever ago...


Age 37, DH 40.

TTC on and off since 2007

Unexplained Infertility


IVF #1 - April 2014 - BFN - no frosties


IVF #2 - July 2014 - BFP - 5B-AB and 4 frosties (5B-BB, 2x4B-BB and 3B-BB)

Apr. 13, 2015 - Daniel Erik was born at 5:05 am, weight 8 lbs, 13 oz, and 22" long.  He is perfect in every way.



#5 wishbone70

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Posted 04 January 2017 - 11:57 AM

Thank you all who took the time to read it and responded.  I appreciate it.  "ILoveMyDogs" - I hear you.  hope 2017 is a magical year for both of us.  I am praying for strength.  "nervus optimist" and "amp77" - thank you for pumping me up.



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#6 Victoria

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Posted 05 January 2017 - 06:24 PM

Hugs. My first donor eggs cycle was not how I expected it to be, too. Praying for the one to be your shining star.

1st Clomid Cycle - Summer 2005, BFN/ 1st Monitored Natural Cyle - 2008, BFN/ 1st IVF - September 2008, BFN/ 2nd IVF - January 2009, BFN/ 1st IUI (medicated) - October 2009, BFN/; 1st Donor Egg Cycle Jan 2011, low beta - BFN; 1st FET - February 2011, BFN; Second DE cycle - July 2011, BFN. ON ROAD TO ADOPTION or SURROGACY - 2012 OR 2013
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Posted 05 January 2017 - 08:57 PM

Hugs hugs hugs.

For our cycle we had none to freeze. Transferred two and had one successful pregnancy. Similar numbers start to finish.

I can only hope and pray that this works out for you. Sending love and luck and a wish for a lottery win to erase that price tag shock!

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#8 Kayte

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Posted 06 January 2017 - 11:39 AM

I'm so sorry - this is all so stressful. But I believe in miracles!! We have done 12 cycles of varying types over a decade and the "worst" on paper cycle, where the doctor even had us scheduled for a WTF? appointment on what was supposed to be beta day, gave us our child. Other cycles that we had so much more confidence and hope in, didn't work out for us. So I believe in "you never know" and long shots!


Hope this year brings you great health and happiness, too!

#9 RebeccaG

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Posted 10 January 2017 - 07:45 PM

Thinking of you- I can only imagine how disappointed you must be! Hoping that your single embryo is perfect and that everything goes well from now on!!

Sep 15, 2016 First IVF 1 embryo - 2 frozen

Sep 30, 2016 - Positive HCG preganancy test

Oct 5, 2016 -  HCG dropped embryo will not last

Oct 19, 2016 - Request to see endocrinologist

Oct 24, 2016 - Beginning Hashimoto Thyroiditis diet 

Nov 30, 2016 - Blood test to determine if diet helped

Nov 2016 - RE visit

Dec 5, 2016 - RESULTS Hashimotos Diet - for the first time in 10 years I need to lower my Thyroid medicine!!  The diet is working!

Jan 4, 2017 - Meeting with Conceptia - getting ready for FET.  Apparently we have 3 embryos left 2 - 4BB and 1 - 5BB.  Preparing to put one in (hopefully in March) waiting on thyroid testing.

Jan 31, 2017 Started BC - FET scheduled for March 14 
March 14, 2017 - FET!! put in a 5bb
March 24, 2017 - blood work for pregnancy test

March 24, 2017 - BFN

March 27, 2017 - Bloodwork - genetic testing for me and Josh

April 19, 2017 Blood test results show nothing

April 25, 2017 - Starting my Hashimoto diet again

May 15, 2017 - 2 Polyps removed sent for biopsy and lining biopsy


#10 gwinnyblack

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Posted 16 January 2017 - 04:28 AM

i am really sorry and i hope this one embryo sticks when it is time!! but this is incredibly surprising that it was donor's embryo, and that they have retrieved only that amount of egg cells. as in my clinic they have collected 15 eggs from the donor after her stimulation. and 3 was transferred although only 1 stuck.

#11 Brat66

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Posted 17 February 2017 - 11:52 AM

Wishbone 70,
Although a year older than you our stories are very similar. I feel your anxiety and wish you every success.
Hang in there.
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