Jump to content

* * * * * 1 votes

How much have you spent on infertility to date?

  • Please log in to reply
41 replies to this topic

Poll: How much have you spent on infertility to date? (192 member(s) have cast votes)

How much have you spent on infertility to date?

  1. <$10,000 (23 votes [11.98%])

    Percentage of vote: 11.98%

  2. $10,000 - $20,000 (45 votes [23.44%])

    Percentage of vote: 23.44%

  3. $20,001 - $30,000 (41 votes [21.35%])

    Percentage of vote: 21.35%

  4. $30,001 - $40,000 (29 votes [15.10%])

    Percentage of vote: 15.10%

  5. $40,001 - $50,000 (16 votes [8.33%])

    Percentage of vote: 8.33%

  6. $50,000 - $75,000 (25 votes [13.02%])

    Percentage of vote: 13.02%

  7. $75,000 - $100,000 (2 votes [1.04%])

    Percentage of vote: 1.04%

  8. >$100,000 (11 votes [5.73%])

    Percentage of vote: 5.73%

Vote Login to vote

#1 Red Wine

Red Wine
  • Cyclebase
  • 2,625 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Dx:Unexplained

Posted 10 December 2013 - 09:18 PM

The article in in the Fertility News section about the Real World Estimates of Out of Pocket Costs for Infertility Treatment (link below) got me to thinking about how much I've spent on infertility.  I don't think the article really represents how much actual infertile couples pay for this service.  


How much have you paid for infertility treatment to date?  


As a discussion, how much more do you think you would be willing to pay if you aren't done your journey?



See about me page.

#2 Red Wine

Red Wine
  • Cyclebase
  • 2,625 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Dx:Unexplained

Posted 10 December 2013 - 09:38 PM

Wowza...some of you have spent so much on treatment, but I'm not totally surprised.  Infertility is expensive.


We have spent between $10,000 to $20,000 so far.  How much we plan to spend on treatment depends on how long our situation goes on for.

  • gibasgirl likes this

See about me page.

#3 ilovemydogs

  • Cyclebase
  • 4,517 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Dx:Other

Posted 10 December 2013 - 10:08 PM

We've spent closer to $10,000. I'm sure we would have cycled more, but I've been sidelined by surgeries and bad decisions, etc. Since there haven't been many opportunities thus far, I don't foresee there will be much more than that in front of us. Just depends on whether my body cooperates quickly or we use a surrogate.

  • Red Wine likes this
Finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.

See "About Me" for details.

#4 Clairey

  • Global 100+
  • 249 posts
  • Dx:N/A

Posted 10 December 2013 - 10:13 PM

I read the article. I was kinda wishing it would explicitly state that for many it's some combination of a daily, weekly, monthly, yearly ongoing struggle and that there are varying treatment cycles that can precede or go in between IVF cycles. Also, in different areas across Canada, the availability of clinics and specialists.


Sometimes I wish I could forward these articles to specific people in my life, but when I read them, I always feel like they never really capture the authentic toll and toil of it.


We have done 2 IVFs, 6 IUIs, and multiple Clomid cycles. We were very blessed to have a child 5 years into things with the second IVF. The damage to all other aspects of life has been significant, but the worth it. And I know if we hadn't succeeded last time, we would have tried a third IVF, then begin to consider other paths.

  • Red Wine likes this

#5 Red Wine

Red Wine
  • Cyclebase
  • 2,625 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Dx:Unexplained

Posted 10 December 2013 - 10:22 PM


Sometimes I wish I could forward these articles to specific people in my life, but when I read them, I always feel like they never really capture the authentic toll and toil of it.

 I understand and this is just the financial toll, which I don't feel was accurately represented in the article.  It would take a very talented writer to capture the experience of infertility and the turmoil it causes in people's lives.

  • nervus optimist, impatient and gibasgirl like this

See about me page.

#6 nervus optimist

nervus optimist
  • Super Moderator
  • 2,601 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Dx:Genetic
  • My Clinic:newlife

Posted 10 December 2013 - 10:52 PM

the article actually made me kind of angry because it looked at a per cycle cost and said that is the cost - it's not the cost - it's only the cost if the cycle work, and we all know the odds of any one cycle working are pretty low, so most couples need multiple cycles - total cost would be a much better indicator.  Also, obviously the costs vary based on treatment.  that statement is just stupid... sorry - just had to get that off my chest.  for us - our first cycle of ART was $20,000+ because we did IVF/ICSI/PGD out of the gate to prevent a genetic condition and I'm a low responder so needed maximum dosages of stims and had no coverage.  And as others have said - the financial impact is huge, but still minimal compared to the other impacts, many of which I'm sure we don't even know yet since there isn't really any research on long term impact of these meds.  this also makes me wonder if the point of the article is to ad fuel to the fire of discussion on whether or not governments should pay for IF treatments.  maybe I'm being jaded to think that's where it's going but it does kind of seem that would be the main reason to open this door.  And seriously - why do they even need a study for this?  the price list at any IF clinic would answer the same question.  


wow - I'm really grouchy today!

sorry for the vent.

if I had to do it over again I would... I'd spend every single cent and more for the hope that one day it would work.  No matter how low I ever felt, and how hopeless our situation seemed - I never regretted doing a cycle.  


  • Red Wine and CdnHockeyGal like this

I am 37, DH - 38
Genetic - IVF&PGD to prevent Genetic Disorder
IVF #1 - Nov/08 - MC @ 6 weeks, no embryos frozen
IVF #2 - Aug/09 - bfn
IUI #1 - Feb/10 - ectopic
PRIDE - Apr/10
Homestudy - July/10
Given the gift of donor embryos - Jan/12
Donor FET Jun/12 - 9 weeks - no heartbeat... MC
Donor FET Oct/12 - we're PG biggrin.png

===> Beautiful baby boy born 2013 babyboy.gif

Donor FET Oct/16 - chemical

April 2017 - surprise PG

#7 Red Wine

Red Wine
  • Cyclebase
  • 2,625 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Dx:Unexplained

Posted 10 December 2013 - 10:57 PM

I suppose a question that naturally flows from this question, especially for the couples that spent more than $50,000, where did you get the money?  Working and saving, line of credit, family, other source(s).


We've paid for all our expenses out-of-pocket and any ongoing treatment would be money out of our own pocket.

See about me page.

#8 nettibug

  • Cyclebase
  • 1,074 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Dx:DOR
  • My Clinic:N/A

Posted 10 December 2013 - 11:41 PM

Only two people have spent more than me?!

Single with secondary infertility, AMA, DOR, RPL.  TTC started with four failed IUI's.

IVF #1: converted to another IUI after 2 of 10 follies went rogue during stims --> BFN

IVF #2: 6 eggs retrieved, 5 fertilized with ICSI --> 3dt of 4 high grade embryos with AH --> BFN

IVF #3: 6 eggs retrieved, 4 fertilized with ICSI --> vitrified at 2PN (had to put TTC on hold)

IVF #4: 11 eggs retrieved, 9 fertilized with ICSI --> 5dt of 3 blasts  --> th_abfp.gif --> lost HB at 8w4d 8388.gif

IVF #5: 7 eggs retrieved, 6 fertilized with ICSI --> 5dt of 2 blasts --> th_abfp.gif --> missed m/c at 7w3d 8388.gif 

IVF #6: cancelled due to poor response --> IUI --> totally unexpected th_abfp.gif --> chemical 8388.gif

Getting off the IVF train and happily moving on to international adoption

Dossier approved & registered!  Waiting for a referral...  kaffeetrinker_2.gif

Nine months later, still waiting...



#9 CdnHockeyGal

  • Super Moderator
  • 6,255 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Location:Winnipeg
  • Interests:Hockey, baseball, travel & starting a family
  • Dx:Other
  • My Clinic:Heartland, Sanford, SIRM

Posted 10 December 2013 - 11:42 PM

Do you count all the complimentary therapies too? The article just seemed to reference ART...but if you add in accupuncture, supplements...every book you've ever downloaded telling you how to increase your fertility...I think the cost escalates significantly...
  • Red Wine, #3@44, nettibug and 3 others like this

We've tried lots of things for a long time. None of them have resulted in a viable pregnancy.

#10 impatient

  • Cyclebase
  • 2,816 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Location:Vancouver
  • Dx:Tubal
  • My Clinic:public adoption

Posted 10 December 2013 - 11:55 PM

We spent over $50,000, not including travel expenses and time off work.  To answer your question, it was mostly from our savings, but my parents also helped.  (It was really hard to take their money and I felt terrible that we had nothing to show for it.)  I think the wasted money was one of the hardest aspects of infertility treatments.  I know it's not true ... but I feel like we were the victims of a giant scam.


My heart goes out to people who cannot afford IVF or adoption.  It's not fair.

  • amandaTTC#2, Maralee, SummerRain and 5 others like this
Me: 41, DH: 44
TTC: since Jan, 2008 (age 34)

DH: Low morphology, low count. Me: Stage 2-3 endometriosis, non-functional fallopian tubes, small fibroids, low AFC, low poor responder ... anything else?

Jun 2008-Sep 2011 in a nutshell: One HSG, one very traumatic office hysteroscopy, one operative laparoscopy, three fresh IVF/ICSI cycles, one chemical, one early miscarriage, two tubal recanalizations, five IUIs (3 with Clomid).

May 2010 - Aug 2011 Attempted adoption application process through the BC MCFD. Aug 2011 Signed up with a private agency. On both waiting lists as of Apr 2012. Proposal through MCFD Jul 2012. Aug 2012 - Finally ... she's home and we're a family! : )

Adoption application #2 started Aug 2013. DD2 placed May 2014, finalized Feb 2015!

"I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."
Thomas Edison

#11 Duck

  • Cyclebase
  • 1,851 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Location:Toronto
  • Dx:Endometriosis
  • My Clinic:Repromed

Posted 10 December 2013 - 11:58 PM

Over 100 here. Honestly physically adding it all up is hard. Worth it, but hard.
Surrogacy is expensive. Really expensive. Especially if you end up having more than one surrogate.

How we afforded it is we sold our home, downgraded to smaller place with smaller mortgage and lived cheap, no frills, no vacations, cars, new clothes, cable tv. I worked ajob i hated and put my entire cheque to treatments every month for over two years. We lived like poor students and put everything into treatments. And we put it all on a line of credit. We decided that we would rather have a debt we can pay off our whole life and have a family.
  • ---, nervus optimist, Red Wine and 6 others like this

Diagnosed with endometrosis at age 19

5 pelvic surgeries

2 IVF, numerous FETs

2 different gestational carriers

Now mother of 2 year old twins.

#12 Meary

  • 1000+
  • 1,156 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Location:Cattletown, AB
  • Interests:Animals, Crochet/Knitting/Sewing, Vespas, Horror Movies, My Job, Camping, Music
  • Dx:Unexplained
  • My Clinic:Foothills RFP

Posted 11 December 2013 - 08:44 AM

We decided that we would rather have a debt we can pay off our whole life and have a family.

This simple line got me, right in the feelings. I think I realize what my husband has been trying to communicate to me.  I'm the financial 'controller', so I see in black and white where we are at, and I always just assumed that he was more willing to pay any amount for this because he didn't truly understand the financial implications of it.  I think maybe I had to see HIS viewpoint in black and white to understand HIS emotional implications. Thanks for that!


As for us, we spent the current ruling majority (so far).  I anticipate that if our first IVF round, including (if necessary) FETs, were unsuccessful, we'd probably be willing to do another cycle.

  • Red Wine likes this

See Profile / About me page.

#13 Duck

  • Cyclebase
  • 1,851 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Location:Toronto
  • Dx:Endometriosis
  • My Clinic:Repromed

Posted 11 December 2013 - 09:53 AM

I'm glad I could help Meary! It took a long time and a lot of pain to get to that point. But once we made the decision it got easier. And we made back up plans so we could keep moving forward.

Good luck and keep at it.
  • Maralee and Red Wine like this

Diagnosed with endometrosis at age 19

5 pelvic surgeries

2 IVF, numerous FETs

2 different gestational carriers

Now mother of 2 year old twins.

#14 SGD

  • 1000+
  • 1,005 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Location:Oakville, Ontario
  • Dx:PCOS
  • My Clinic:First Dr. Hannam and now Dr. Auyeung

Posted 11 December 2013 - 10:02 AM

We've spent about $34,000 so far.

If this FET that I just did doesn't work, we will be moving on to surrogacy. It's a huge expense but one we are willing take on in hopes of starting our family. And God forbid the surrogacy doesn't work, we will move on to our last option of adoption.


I guess we are willing to spend as much as it takes but we will eventually have to cap it.


We've used our line of credit to pay for treatments. I'm lucky enough to get decent bonuses at the end of the year so we are able to pay off a nice chunk annually, plus when we add all our treatments into our income taxes, we get some money back and that also goes to pay off the line of credit.

Thankfully, we are able to afford it all and still go on vacations adn maintain our lifestyle, but if we do have to go through surrogacy then we will have to curb some of our expenses...vacations will be the first to go.


I agree with impatient, I feel so bad for couples that can't afford treatments at all.

See About Me page 

#15 Maralee

  • Cyclebase
  • 2,291 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Location:Calgary
  • Dx:Unexplained
  • My Clinic:Foothills, Now Victoria

Posted 11 December 2013 - 10:27 AM

We're at about $25 000.  That was supplements and alternative therapies, although those were minimal.  That also included travel for IVF 2, but we were very frugal on it too.  Worth it?  Yup.  We're pregnant.  Even if we weren't pregnant, I needed to check off these boxes to move forward towards other plans (either donor embryo's or adoption).  Money came from our pockets, my family isn't well off enough to help us with treatments.  We put our last cycle on our mortgage as 'home improvements'... sucked when I realized I'd pay off my IVF cycle in 20 years!  We've cut a lot of expenses just so I can be a SAHM as much as possible.  Couldn't really cut much more for IVF.

Me 30, 31, 32 Hubs 35, 36, 37

See about me for past history
Jan 2013-awaiting consult at VFC...
Feb 2013-Consult a success, off to victoria we go!  Looking at April.  Meanwhile, started gluten/dairy reduced diet with a ton of supplements.  Feeling great!
Day 1...Mar13/13
LH surge Mar 24 Start estrace Mar 27
Day 1, April 8
Fly to VFC April 9-u/s and blood work-all OK
April 10-start stims Gonal 225, saizen 1.66mg, repronex 75
April 15-u/s and bw, all good, 6 follies, all same size, continue and next u/s and bw apr 17
April 17-u/s and bw-all good, 7 follies, similar size, continue and next u/s apr 18.  ER on april 20 or 21
April 18-bw good, u/s now 10 follies but starting to separate in size.  Back tomorrow, ER april 21/22?
April 19-bw good, 1/2 of follies ready...trigger tonight, ER on April 21
April 21-9 retrieved.  Awaiting fertilization reports... fingers crossed!
April 22-Amazing news, 8 out of 9 are mature and all 8 fertilize, 1/2 by ICSI, 1/2 by regular.  How could that happen?
April 23-All 8 still going, mix of 15-19/20
April 24-6 still going, 2 transferred-an 19/20 and 18/20, 2 frozen a 18/20, 17/20, and 2 in culture to day 5-wait and see
May 8-OMG, positive beta!!  517, wow! 14dp3dt
May 10-beta 1060.  Yay!!
May 27-viability u/s...both took, it's twins!  Heartbeats around 140, 1 measures a couple days behind.  CRAZY!
June 16-10 wk u/s, both still growing, hb's 172 and 165. 
July 2-Nuchal-excellent.  Fell in love with them.  hb's 168 and 160, both measure a couple days ahead now.
Aug 16- 18 week detailed, both are amazing.  Team green! Cord insertion issue with baby A discovered.
Oct 10-27wk 4 day, A is 2 lbs, B is 2.2 lbs...may have seen a penis and sac on one of them.
Nov 7-30wk 4 day, A is 3lbs 13 oz, B is 4lbs 2 oz, this is going to hurt.
Nov 21-32wk 4 day, A is 4lbs, B is 4 lbs 8 oz, starting to slow down a bit, and both head down.
Dec 4-34 wk 3 day, A is 5 lbs 2 oz, B is 5 lbs 5 oz, A head down and engaged, B now breech.
Dec 17-after falling down the stairs, our baby boy and girl arrived at 36 weeks, small but healthy
Welcome Abigael and Colin.


#16 amazing grace

amazing grace
  • Global 100+
  • 531 posts
  • Dx:Unexplained

Posted 11 December 2013 - 10:34 AM

To date, we have spent 35, 000 American since we are in the shared risk program. This is not including all the immune testing not covered by OHIP and all the medication. I am almost afraid to think that if our next cycle results in a miscarriage again, that my clinic may begin talking about surrogacy. I don't think we will be able to afford that so Duck I am right there with you! We are planning to sell our home this spring and move further out of the city. That way, we can pay our loan and if we need to go the surrogacy route, then we will have some funds available. Of course, like Duck stated, no going out to dinner or designer labels for us. Hopefully, it will be all worth it since you can't put a price on a child!

#17 Clairey

  • Global 100+
  • 249 posts
  • Dx:N/A

Posted 11 December 2013 - 12:48 PM

It sounds irresponsible but I don't know exactly how much we've spent. We know the costs of the IUIs, the IVFs, the meds, etc. over the years but as others mentioned, so many other things have factored in. We didn't keep a tally as it became our life. Just like paying a mortgage, bills, getting groceries, etc. this seemed even more major a part of our life every day for so long. Travel to clinic, hotels, acupuncture, supplements, it became our whole life.


We paid for everything ourselves, except for some drugs that were covered through the IUIs and first IVF, but we ran out of the drug allowance after those years so paid the rest of the meds out of pocket.


We didn't have savings. We were doing a good job paying off other things and my husband's continuing education when we realized we weren't going to be able to have a baby easily, or perhaps at all. We felt and still feel that the quest to have children is one of the few things worth all the sacrifice, and couldn't be regretted.


Admittedly it is hard to deal with everything else that happened to us through this journey, but it was our choice to try everything we could for a family and we were willing to do it and face it. My parents offered us a loan but we did not accept it, since we didn't feel comfortable with one being retired and the other parent still working beyond retirement age for their own futures. It really meant a lot, especially since DH's family could easily have helped with any sort of contribution to helping us (a meal, paying for us at a restaurant for a special event, etc.) through the years of struggle, my unemployment and other bad luck we had, all the while complaining they had no grandkids and expecting us to keep up financially with the rest of the family. But I digress ;)


Everything about IF sucks. It hits hard but then there's the guilt because you can always tell yourself "I shouldn't complain, other people have it worse" or "I should be grateful for what I have and other people have less", and then you go insane with the feelings of suppressing grief and stress because you don't deserve to have those feelings. I struggle with this every day! And the worst is when fertile, financially-comfortable people tell me things could be worse or that I should count my blessings. I know! But all is relative and it is very hard to speak to this journey, which varies for each person in immeasurable ways.

  • Red Wine, jenpen, Mom2BNot2L8 and 1 other like this

#18 me'n'B

  • Global 100+
  • 481 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Location:Hamilton
  • Interests:Traveling, cake decorating, crochet, movies, spending as much time as possible with DH and our furbaby.
  • Dx:DOR
  • My Clinic:One Fertility

Posted 11 December 2013 - 12:52 PM

We are definitely in the lucky group. Although it was a horrible and devastating experience each unsuccessful cycle, our time with fertility assistance ended at exactly one year. We spent close to $25000 on treatment, meds and supplements from our savings. But we are blessed to be expecting a perfectly healthy baby in a few months. Truly priceless.
<span style="font-size:18px;"><span style="font-family:georgia, serif;"><span style="color:#ee82ee;">TTC with Hypothyroid, AMH 11.9, FSH 6-8 </span>
Me: 34 DH: 31 First Consult: May 3, 2012</span></span><span style="font-size:18px;"><span style="font-family:georgia, serif;"></span></span><span style="font-size:18px;"><span style="font-family:georgia, serif;">
Clomid 25mg: July 2012 - Cancelled cycle, no response :(
Clomid 50mg: August 2012 - two good follies, 19 and 15 when surging naturally. BFN
Clomid 50mg: September 2012 - no monitoring, started acupuncture. BFN
Clomid 75mg: October 2012 with acupuncture. Ovidrel trigger. BFP but sadly early loss.
Clomid 75mg: November and December 2012 with acupuncture. Both BFN
Natural cycle: January 2013 BFN Puregon 58-75mg: February 2013 with iui. BFN
Natural cycle BFN Round 2-5 of Puregon with iui: March to May 2013 all BFN
Hello IVF. Starting bcp June 2013, Suprefact, Puregon 150mg and Menopur 75.
Retrieved 9 eggs after 10 days of stims. 8 Mature and 7 fertilized. 6 divided normally.
Day 3 transfer of two embabies.
Positive beta!

#19 natti

  • Cyclebase
  • 377 posts
  • Gender:Not Telling
  • Dx:N/A
  • My Clinic:VFC, Genesis (past)

Posted 11 December 2013 - 01:07 PM

around 75 K :(

4 IVFs, multiple FETs, 2 Clinics (Genesis and VFC), over 60 eggs collected, 2 chemicals, 1 blighted ovum, 1 miscarriage at 8 weeks, 1 miscarrage at 12w5d with twins, severe adenomyosis ... First IVF at 35... Took two years break at 40 after devastating twins loss. Finally at 43 our miracle son Gabriel Marcus is born.. Long painful road...

#20 JacMac

  • Cyclebase
  • 1,937 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Location:Fort McMurray
  • Dx:PCOS
  • My Clinic:RFP/Adoption By Choice

Posted 11 December 2013 - 01:23 PM

We're only at $14,000 for our first IVF plus what I've spent on acupuncture and supplements that I haven't even added up, but at least $200-500/ month for the past year and a half.
No we're struggling with deciding to do an FET at our current clinic or choosing to do a fresh cycle at a news clinic. I'll admit that the financial aspect is a factor in us making the decision.
Me - now 36 Him - 37
Trying to conceive since our wedding day May 25, 2008.
Started Clomid Jan-April 2012.
Referred to RFP June 2012.
First consult at RFP November 2012.
First IVF cycle on antagonist protocol (GonalF, Luveris) January 2013.
Transferred two day-3 embryos, had severe OHSS, lost one twin between 7-13 weeks but was expecting one little one October 2013.
Found out at 6 mos that our little one had died weeks earlier and had to induce and deliver stillborn, July 25, 2013.
Something found on adrenal gland at follow up ultrasound, MRI showed what seems to be a benign tumor. Meeting with specialist Jan 8, 2014 - all fertility treatments on hold. :/
Tumour is definitely producing Aldosterone (causes high blood pressure) and Cortisol. Lucky me, only 34 similar cases recorded in the world! Tumour removed May 2014.
Approached about a possible adoption March 2014. Rush through all the paperwork and process.
Charlotte Evangeline born June 27, 2014. We brought her home on July 7 and held our breath for 10 days until she officially became ours.
Surprise BFP October 2014. Due to wonky cycles, ultrasounds convince Doctors I have a blighted ovum but detailed ultrasound reveals heartbeat at 6w3d. On progesterone support and waiting to see if pregnancy is still viable. Holding our breath again.
Adalyn Marie born on June 9, 2014 after a roller coaster pregnancy.

#21 Rstein

  • Global 100+
  • 711 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Location:Lethbridge, Alberta
  • Dx:Unexplained
  • My Clinic:RFP/VFC

Posted 11 December 2013 - 02:58 PM

We spent around $50,000 before we finally conceived our DD. That includes hotel stays, gas, meals, etc., though.

#22 L_in_Calgary

  • Cyclebase
  • 355 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Location:Calgary
  • Dx:Unexplained
  • My Clinic:Foothills

Posted 11 December 2013 - 04:15 PM

We checked both our work health coverage and were lucky to discover that some accupuncture and all the meds or ivf were covered on husbands health insurance. Seems someone forgot to exclude them from the package...there was some complaints for HR on the cost of staff's health coverage after our two ivf cycles in one year (DH just kept quiet on that!). This saved us a lot but did make for a scary moment when there were layoffs days before our first ivf cycle started. Thankfully DH was kept on. They have since downgraded the health coverage. All that to say probably close to 40k with about half covered by health plans.

me 37 dh 38 ttc since May 2010 (high FSH, mild MF) Aug - Sept 2011- 2 cycles with Clomid and TI - 2xBFN Sept - Nov 2011 - 3 IUIs with clomid - 3xBFN IVF #1 Jan/Feb 2012 - 300 Gonal F eSET - 3 day - BFP (3x day 3 frozen) April m/c at 8 weeks DHEA, Q10 and continue acupuncture in prep for next cycle July - chemical IVF #2 - Aug/Sept 2012 -225 Gonalf & 225 menopur Sept 17th - eSET 1 blast (5 basts frozen) Sept 30 - BFP First u/s Oct 18 - measuring on track, hb 150 NT scan - measuring on track and low risk DD arrived June 2013 FET #1 - March 2015 - BFN FET #2 - July 2015 - eSET Chemical (1 transfered 3 didn't survive thaw) Aug 2015 Natural BFP - Chemical FET #3 - Oct 2015 - two transfered (1 didn't survive thaw - no more frozen) - Chemical. All frozen used & no success. On DHEA and Q10 in prep for next treatment. Dec 2015 BFP - Chemical, Jan 2016 Chemical. IVF #3 (with ICSI) Feb 2016

#23 Red Wine

Red Wine
  • Cyclebase
  • 2,625 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Dx:Unexplained

Posted 12 December 2013 - 09:34 AM

Thanks for all the responses. 

See about me page.

#24 KittyKat

  • Global 100+
  • 556 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Dx:DOR
  • My Clinic:VFC

Posted 12 December 2013 - 12:17 PM

I was one of the 50grand answers and besides a very limited amount of drug coverage the rest was paid out of our own pockets. I have stayed working full time which is incredibly difficult during this fight. I often have to prioritize work over treatments and finding the balance is very difficult. I don't want to suffer in my career in case we don't end up winning this battle and then my job is one of the few things I do have. I don't love my work but it is decent money and I know if we end up childless it will be important for me to have a career. DH and I often wonder how different our lives would be if we could have used that money for something else or actually had a good savings or a retirement plan. Instead we have thousands spent in drugs, treatments and associated costs and no baby. When we really think about it, it just adds to the hurt.

I haven't read the article yet but like some of you other ladies said I hate when hey put a definite cost to treatments. The news often says ivf costs 7-10 thousand dollars and we always laugh because drugs alone have cost that much per cycle. Oh the joys of having no response ovaries!
Me - diagnosis RPL/DOR/Egg Quality issue
DH - all good

4+ years TTC - about me page for details

#25 Merry33

  • 1000+
  • 1,208 posts
  • Gender:Female
  • Dx:Other

Posted 12 December 2013 - 01:41 PM

It sounds irresponsible but I don't know exactly how much we've spent. We know the costs of the IUIs, the IVFs, the meds, etc. over the years but as others mentioned, so many other things have factored in. We didn't keep a tally as it became our life.


I belong into that group too, so you're not alone. I'm also horrible with organizing all the receipts, submitting things to insurance etc. (and I'm way behind on the claims)


I'd say right now we're in the 10-20k group if I add the costs of acupuncture, supplements, consults go get more opinions, and counseling to the IVF cost. But I also know that we're likely be beyond 20 early next year since our next IVF cycle will be out of province.

Not sure how much I'd be willing to pay. As far as I can tell DH would put no limits on finances, and to be perfectly honest I'd probably stop treatment because of the psychological toll before finances would be a reason.


All our meds were covered through health insurance (but I also have to say that we pay a fortune the insurance - it's a personal and not a group/employer one). All the rest is out of pocket and comes out of a line of credit.


I also feel horrible when I read stories of couples who don't have the means to do IVF, or who have to pursue other options because of finances (eg donor sperm IUI vs IVF with TESE or ICSI due to the lower costs). Not saying that other options can't be great too, but if somebody is literally forced into it and has no choice, I find that extremely sad and unjust. I often feel I shouldn't be complaining at all since we at least can somehow afford to take advantage of all the medical options.