Family Baby Shower
Posted 27 July 2012 - 07:36 AM
My DH and I have been on this TTC journey or about 4.5 yrs total. After about 3, we were lucky to have conceived our DS through IVF#2. When DS was 1yr, we did 3 FETs back to back, nothing. When he was 1.5 we did IVF #3 - fresh transfer resulted in chemical. FET a couple months later resulted in BFP, only to have a missed miscarriage at about 7.5 wks and went on to D&C at 10.5. Did the last FET last month, BFN. That brings us to now......I have a baby shower to go to this weekend - it is my DH's cousin's wife. I must say that they have been through their own issues and I am so happy for them. Yet, she is due a couple of weeks before I was supposed to have our second. I struggled with what to do....DH said do what you want, which left me with a ton of feelings. Guilt that I didn't want to go, angry that I felt like he wasn't supporting me enough, etc. So I called and said yes after sitting on the invitation for close to 3 wks. Now it is this weekend. I find myself crying at the thought of going. DH said to just call and say I am sick, which also makes me feel guilty. I am in a situation where there is no good solution.
What are your thoughts? What would you do?
Posted 27 July 2012 - 07:40 AM
March 2011 first meeting at Ofc - slight male factor poor morph
June 2011 iui - cancelled lead follicle grew too fast
July 2011 iui2 - 2 follicles - bfn
October 2011 iui3 - 1 lead follicle fee fast - bfn
January 2012 iui4 converted to ivf - 5 eggs retrieved 0 fertilization - no transfer
June 2012 ivf #2 12 eggs retrieved 9 mature 8 fertilized with iCsi - 2 blasts Transfered day 5, 2 frosties - bfn
Nov 2012 FET - thawed our only frosties (2) only one survived. Transfer 1 blast 3BB
BFP nov 20
Posted 27 July 2012 - 07:57 AM
Let yourself be upset, and try not to punish yourself by feeling guilty. You have every right to be sad, angry, disappointed, and every other emotion that gets stirred up in situations like this.
Nov 2009 - laparoscopy, endometriosis removed.
Jan-July 2010 - Clomid. Nuffin.
Nov 2010- IVF attempt 1 - two embryos transferred
Dec 2010 - Positive beta
Jan 2011 - Blighted ovum
Oct 2011 - IVF attempt 2
Nov 2011 - Negative beta. Done.
Winter 2011/12 - published: http://offbeatmama.c...t-not-defective
Spring 2012 - PRIDE training
July 11, 2012 - positive HPT - WTF??!!! Natural pregnancy it seems! Approx 6.5 weeks along
July 20, 2012 - Appointment with doctor. Ultrasound - it's in there!! 7w6d along, due March 1, 2013!
This is really happening! *happydance*
February 25, 2013 - Dakota Rose arrived after a somewhat unexpected c-section. And we are so in love.
Posted 27 July 2012 - 09:52 AM
You should not feel guilty or bring yourself down over this. IF is hard enough physically and emotionally, that the least others can do is respect that not all women are in the same place they are at the time, and for some, showers are a heartwrenching experience so hard to feel in control at. To celebrate others when you are grieving, in other scenarios, is better understood but this qualifies just the same. Put yourself first, reducing stress and additional heartache can only give yourself the best chance to achieve your dreams and protect your fragile feelings.
At this point, you can absolutely say you are sick, and give a heads-up in advance if you feel able to if you're worried about it seeming a last-minute excuse. Take care of yourself - you deserve it. Let us know what you decide!
Posted 27 July 2012 - 11:37 AM
You are not alone in this situation- I think we have all been there and had tough decisions to make.
Posted 27 July 2012 - 01:20 PM
Posted 27 July 2012 - 01:35 PM
TTC 6 years
Diagnosed mf (low counts morphology bad blah, blah, blah) (Dec 2007)
IVF ICSI #1 January 2008 (Genesis)
1st transfer BFN
FET #1 April 2008 BFN
Long break over summer
FET #2 November 2008 BFN
FET #3 Feb 2009 BFN
What to do????
Here we go again...
New Clinic (PCRM)
Lucky IVF/ICSI #2 July 2009
Transfer August 9, 2009
HPT 6dpt BFP!!!
Beta #1 8dpt 90!!!
Beta #2 10dpt 230!!!! It's real! It's real!
Our Baby Girl born May 6, 2010
Jan/Feb 2012..one more time frozen transfer to come
Final FET Transfer March 14, 2012
1 "OK" blast
Very faint BFP 5dp5dt
BFN to follow
Official BETA 8dp5dt BFN
This journey comes to an end...
Follow-up with RE to discuss latest SA
Numbers up!!!! IUI to come...
First IUI Sept 24/2012
Post Wash 2.3 million 97%motile Good quality, low quantity.
BETA Oct 8/2012
HPT 10dpo very faint BFP
HPT 11dpo darker...
HPT 12dpo little darker...
BETA Oct 9/2012
BETA #2 Oct 11/2012
BETA #2: 185 Just doubled...
Nov 1, 2012 U/S all good...
Posted 27 July 2012 - 01:49 PM