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[ChristineNY]

hello ladies....hope everyone is ok today. I am not as nauseous as I have been and it's concerning me that something is wrong. I have been doing too much reading on missed miscarriages and I am making myself a little crazy. I feel like next week when I go back to the doctor...the heartbeat will be gone. I wish I could stop this insane thinking...I just can't help myself. I am not as tired today either. And I definitely didn't get any extra sleep. Another thing too...and this might be TMI...but I am so horny lately. I am finding myself having to take matters into my own hands in the shower or right after! Is this bad? Will this harm the pregnancy? I don't know...I rinse in that area...and I get all turned on that I can't control myself.. I have not felt like this in years. LOL! Anyway...I just hope everything is ok inside there and my little one is still cookin.

[rcttc2011]

ChristineNY: I wish we could stop worrying too!!!! I dont think this is going to happen for me, definitly not until I hit 13 weeks. And now I have reason to be like this!

I called my family dr. today to see if they have an ob/gyn for me. They still dont. I called the clinic ( which is in another provinice and a plane ride away) where I had the ivf done and asked them if a pregnancy from ivf would normally be followed by their family dr. Because my family dr. clinic told me that I will be followed by them until I"m 5 or 6 months along. This didnt seem right to me because the fertility clinic said I should go to an ob/gyn when I spoke to them last week.
I didnt get to talk to a nurse yet at the fertility clinic but I did speak to the admin person. And she said that normally you would be followed by an ob/gyn for your whole pregnancy. And they usually order an u/s when your 8 weeks and then again 13 weeks to make sure everything is ok. She said after 13 weeks they consider everything to be pretty safe........

So now I"m going to toture myself. First of all, I"m pissed with all of the services here, everything take so long. That is why we went elsewhere for our entire cycle. Then, I'm worried that I wlll have to be followed by my family dr. and she wont know how it is for an ivf pregnancy. And I"m worried how I will keep this a secret for 7 more weeks!!!!!! We dont want to tell anyone, until we feel safe. My parents knew we had this done, which I really regret. Along with some co-workers. No one was really that supportive and we regret saying anything. And now we want to wait and tell people when we are ready, but I dont know how long I can dodge that question!!!!

And I'm worried how I will get through the next 7 weeks sane....because I know I will be full of fear.


I'm sorry for always being like this. I reallly wish I could enjoy this more.

[ChristineNY]

Rctcc: I totally understand! That must have been so frustrating!! Ugh! My fertility doc told me that I need to see an OB/GYN by November 21 (I will be 9 weeks and 2 days - - - God willing!). I have already made the appointment and pray to God that they will know what they are doing. I wish I could enjoy it too but I am so filled with worry myself. I am getting a little nauseous today finally so maybe everything in there is fine. I dunno. This is a very nerve-wracking experience. I guess once we get past week 13, we might settle down a bit? I hope? LOL. I don't know. I hope so!!! . We are both nervous nellies! We should be happy and doing the dance of joy.... ....but instead we are driving ourselves nuts. LOL. Oh well. It is what it is. We are just going to have to buckle down and take one day at a time. That's all we can do at this point. One day at a time and take very good care of ourselves....and most of all..be patient!

Try and stay as calm as possible.....otherwise you and I will have head explosions from all the stress LOL! You and I are going to be ok and we will get through this. Promise. We just try and not analyze every little feeling...etc...because it's too stressful. I am not going to have an easy time waiting the 13 weeks either....which I plan on telling everyone else (God willing I make it)...and it falls around Christmas...so hopefully it will be a nice Christmas gift for everyone.

Try and hang in there.....and I am here if you need me.

[evian]

Christine - I wish I had that issue (or I should say I bet my DH wishes). I'm feeling the complete opposite.

Rcttc - hang in there. I can totally appreciate your frustration!

AFM - I'm actually having a good day today! I felt a lot sick just before lunch - but I know it's because I waited too long to eat. For snack this afternoon I had the most delicious chocolate eclair in the world. Seriously, it was to die for. I feel like a million bucks right now. I hear you all on waiting to tell people. I have one friend that knows, as well as my boss. I'm going to have a hard time hiding it from everyone else though... my tummy is already starting to protrude quite a bit. I'd like to blame the twins, but I think the chocolate eclair might have had a little more to do with it. I bought a pregnancy journal today, so that I can start documenting all this stuff that is going on.... I just know it will all be a distance memory in a short little while, and I don't want to forget a thing. We're working at a really creative way of telling of telling our parents @ Christmas time. They've been waiting a loooong time for this, and we want the "reveal" to be a BIG deal. First (and second) grand child for both of our parents. It's going to be huge news! I will admit, I like knowing that I have this precious secret right now that nearly no one else knows. It's fun.

[evian]

Btw - I know my due date changed when we discovered we're having twins. I hope you all don't mind I'm going to stick around in the June group.

[ChristineNY]

STICK AROUND ALL YOU LIKE EVIAN! WE LOVE HEARING FROM YOU!

[bepatient]

Surprisingly I'm not that worried. I was more worried for the ultrasound and now I feel much better. My fertility dr. referred me to an OB but in the mean time while waiting for the call she told me to see my family dr. asap and she will fill out all the requisitions for bloodwork and ultrasound for IPS screening. Then my OB will interpret the results. Are you girls doing the screening. I'm actually most nervous about that. The screening is around 11 weeks my dr. said. So many things to think about! I have told quite a few close friends and my immediate family. They have been very supportive through the ivf process and I know that if anything happened they would be the ones I would turn to for support. I'm pretty much an open book.

[ChristineNY]

bepatient: What is IPS screening? I am only 6 weeks and 6 days....so not time for it yet for me. I, too, told my parents, and inlaws. Had to tell some people at work too (boss..etc)....so that they would understand by doc appointments all the time. I too, like you, have had a lot of support during the IVF process....so that's why these people in my life are the ones who know so far. It is very exciting. I plan on telling everyone else, God willing, at Christmas time.

[Mihoshi]

OHSS Ladies - Thanks for your support. I called the clinic today and am like usual waiting for them to call me back to book for the ultrasound. If I do have to go back to work, I will be working 7 days straight and will be putting in long hours on the floor, ugh.

Morning sickness - I getting minor morning sickness; yesterday whenever I brush my teeth and last night's dinner wouldn't allow me to eat much. This morning again with brushing my teeth (so far)... I hope it doesn't get worse than this.

Hormones - ummm... no? Sorry, my hormones are fine for now... Although I was thinking of the JLo movie, "The Back-up Plan" because her character went through IVF as well and was very active =P

[evian]

Mihoshi - that movie was on TMN the other day. My hubby walked in when she was searching the dumpster for her body pillow. He looked at me and said "so that's why you're so possessive of your body pillow!". He also had a few comments about the hormonal craziness, but wisely stopped before drawing parallels with me.

That early screening testing is a current thorn in my side. We cleared a cruise vacation at the end of November with our doc before we started the ivf process. Now his receptionist is telling me that I'll have to cancel the cruise b/c the test needs to be completed between 11.5 and 12.5 weeks. (right in the middle of the cruise). My DH booked the cruise, but didn't put cancellation insurance on it (but don't get me started), so I've been going over every scenario in my head. As I haven't received the results from my dating scan, maybe the babies will be measuring a little ahead. Then I would hit 11.5 weeks before I leave, and could do the test then. Or flip it, have them measuring a little behind, and do it when I'm back. I also checked in to flights to the first island stop...thinking I could stay behind at home, do the test then then meet up with the cruise ship at the first island and enjoy the rest of the cruise with my DH and friends. It'll cost an extra thousand dollars, will be a 12 hour flight with a zillion stop overs, and I'd have to get a hotel room on the island for one night. Oy vay. Or, don't do the test and risk making my doc mad at me. from what I understand, this test doesn't give you definitive results, it just gives you the odds (ie: 1 in 43000 chance of downs, etc). I think I might just be acting like my normal selfish self....anyone want to give me a reality check? I meet the doc next week to review everything to date. Fingers crossed he'll push the test back.

[bepatient]

I'm looking at a booklet that my dr. gave me and it says Integrated Prenatal Screening can be done anywhere from 11 to 14 weeks. You shouldn't have to change your trip! We are also going on a cruise but not until Christmas. The test can definitely give false positives...my friend had it with both pregnancies and opted for the amnio and those results indicated a true negative. How stressful.

[evian]

Thanks for that bepatient... that's what I like to hear!

[ChristineNY]

Hey Ladies! Hope all is well today! Just saying hi! I am today 7 weeks and 2 days. Very tired!!! Very nauseous!!! Weird thing is that I get EVENING sickness. Not really morning. I get slightly queasy in the morning....but I really start up late afternoon and into the evening and night. Bleck. Not fun. Anyone else having this issue? Oy. Evian I would not worry about the testing. You can probably do it after your trip.

Let me know how we are doing today girls!

[rcttc2011]

Hi girls!

Sorry I haven't posted in a few days. I am dying with a cold, and since last night I have lost my voice. I am home from work today, trying not to talk and take it easy. I feel miserable. But not pregnancy wise. I am pretty emotional, I can cry over anything! And I'm craving carbs like anything. I dont want fruit at all, which is really strange, but this could be due to me being sick, I'm not sure, but I hope my taste buds start to change soon because I"m getting worried that my baby isnt getting enough nutrition!

I found out that I will be followed by my family dr until March!!! My appointment with my ob/gyn is not until March 26th. I will be about 25 weeks along or so. I'm concerned that my family dr. will not be aware of the proper test that I will need to have done along the way, and also if I am carrying twins. I always thought I would have twins, me and my husband feel that way, but now I'm not so sure because I'm having such little symptoms. I do find myself getting more tired. I need naps now. I also dont think I will be able to wait until Christmas to tell everyone. I did call my fertitily clinic and expressed my concerns and they sent me another requistion to have another blood work done. She did say that my first beta was a good high number and I should not worry. But I'm going to get it done tomorrow anyways so I will feel better. I have my u/s next week, I might announce our news soon after that based on the results...but I could change my mind again about this!!! Maybe I'll wait until the first week of December, to do it!

I hope your all feeling good.

Evian: I hope you can do the test after your trip, I would think that should be possible.

ChristineNY: I hope your morning sickness ( or should I say evening sickness!) doesn't last too long! Keep lots of plain crackers around!

Enjoy your day everyone!!!!

[ChristineNY]

This is just plain weird. I know there were several other posts after my last one but for some reason, I don't see them.

Whatsa goin on?

[evian]

Had my first appointment post-positive-pregnancy test w/ my OB today. He gave us the official: it's twins, and they're healthy! Heart rates were 150-something and 140-something (I have it written down, but I'm too lazy to get up to get it). More good news - he signed off my papers for the cruise! No need to cancel, I'll do the testing before I leave. Do you know why they told me to bring something w/ sugar to that test? They said chocolate milk or juice.... and I'll have it as soon as I get to the clinic. Do they take a lot of blood or something?

I also asked him about the flu shot. I've never gotten one before. He said it's recommended, but completely up to me. What are you guys thinking re: yourselves getting the flu shot?

I also got to go for another scan (he wanted to check my ovaries b/c they are still extremely large, and I've grown some cysts) - but on the bright side, I got to see the kidlets today!

[hopeful81]

Hi everyone! I haven't been posting much as I wanted to wait until we saw the heartbeat (strange, I know!). Anyhow, first US today and everything looks to be good! We saw the heartbeat (134 bpm). Our baby is measuring 6 weeks 5 days, so 2 days behind but my Dr. said that's completely normal and in her mind everything is right on track. Only downside was that my ovaries are still the size of grapefruits (OHSS). Ouch! She said my ovaries may actually be squishing my uterus/baby a bit Poor baby.

Evian - I see that you mentioned the flu shot. I asked my RE today and she said absolutely NOT during the first trimester....and that by the time I reach second trimester it will be rather pointless as flu season will be well underway. I was really surprised - I thought I had read that it was safe during pregnancy but I'll listen to her. Scary, as I'm a nurse - I guess I'll be wearing a LOT of masks over the winter! What did you end up deciding to do?

Rcttc - Hope you're feeling better! I also hope your first u/s will hurry up and get here already (although I'm still very nervous even after mine....I have a feeling this is going to last a long time). That's REALLY frustrating about the crummy services available to you. I'm sure your family doctor is capable, though....as far as I know, there's really nothing different about an IVF pregnancy verses a natural pregnancy. Have you heard otherwise?

ChristineNY - I'm right with you on the "morning" sickness that actually lasts all day. Mine is pretty out of control, but I find it gets much worse as soon as I start to get hungry. Saltine crackers definitely help, I have a row in my car at all times....lol. The one positive side of m/s is that it's a constant reminder that we're pregnant which is a pretty happy thing Hope yours is manageable!

[rcttc2011]

Hi,

Sorry I'm not posting much, but for some reason this forum is acting all werid to me. The words are going right over to the right hand side and I can barely read what anyone is posting. I"m not even sure if what I'm writing now will post. All the other forums are fine, there is no problem with those, just this one. I"m disappointed because I did like staying in touch with you all. Maybe it will just fix itself.

I hope your all doing well! Thinking of you!

[bepatient]

I'm having the same problem! I can't see the posts anymore and they are moving to the side of the page. I'm going to have to stop posting because I can't read it anymore. Should we start a new forum? Is anyone else having this issue?

[ChristineNY]

Helloooo girls! Well it looks like they FINALLY fixed the problem as I am NOW FINALLY able to see the posts!!! YAY! Hope everyone else can!!!!

How are you girls doing? Funny...but my RE said I should DEFINITELY get the flu shot..ASAP!!! I am 7 weeks 6 days today. I might go to my pharmacy and try to get it. There is a special one for pregnant women....so if you decide to get it...ask for that one.

Morning sickness is still pretty much the same....well, all day and worse in the evening sickness I should call it. LOL. I have been wearing Sea Bands and they seem to help me a bit. They take the edge off but by the end of the day they are itchy and drive me nuts. I find that sucking on tart hard candy like jolly ranchers helps a lot.

I had my third sonogram the other day....and saw my little one. The heartbeat was 150bpm!! It was so loud and strong! Amazing!!! Doc said he/she is growing right on target and that all looked perfect. I have a fibroid in my uterus which worries me but so far, it's not harming the pregnancy. I hope it stays that way.

I am feeling more and more tired. It's an effort to walk from my office to the bus stop which is three LONG city blocks away. Going up stairs is also VERY tiring. Every part of me feels fatigued. Sometimes even my arms get fatigued when I type. Imagine? That's how exhausted I am.

How are you all doing? Congrats again Evian on the healthy twins so far! YAY!! AND about the cruise! YAY!!!! Rctcc, I hope you are feeling better with that dang cold!!! Hopeful...nice to hear from you and wish you the best too. I hear you on the saltines but I am soooo sick of them. LOL.

Anyway ladies...hope to see some more posts today now that we seem to be back on track here!

[bepatient]

Hi Girls,

I too have had the worst cold ever. I took two days off work and have been coughing like a maniac. I'm afraid I'm doing harm to the little bean I cough so hard. With this cold my nausea/insane hunger disappeared which made me kind of nervous. I went to my family doctor to get all my requisitions for IPS screening and she ordered bloodwork to ease my mind. She called with the results and my beta levels were 96 000 at 7weeks4days and she said that is just right. So I feel some relief. As it turns out my cold is almost gone and I have regained the nausea that is now affecting me in the afternoon and in the evening (not in the morning at all!) I am so exhausted I can barely get through the days. I'm a grade 4/5 teacher so it's exhausting already but this is just insane! I'm also eating like a horse and craving all sorts of random foods. My husband can't believe how full our pantry is! Is anyone starting to get a little belly yet? Are your clothes getting tight? My first OB appt is Nov 23rd and 12 week ultrasound is Dec. 9th. Anyone else having a 12 week u/s?

[rcttc2011]

yay the forum is fixed!! I missed you guys!

Hope you all have been having a nice weekend!

bepatient: I was also sick, my dr. put me off work last week for the whole week. I had a cold and a sore throat and I lost my voice. I was miersable. And like you I am starting to feel so tired now. I am 7 weeks and 4 days. I just want to sleep all day. And I"m eating too much, and not the best stuff. I have no idea what happened, I"ve always been a pretty healthy eater. And to make matters worse ( cause I feel huge) my sister in law was over ( for my birthday) and poked my belly and said 'is there something your not telling me'....not mind you, she is 5'7 and weighs about 85lbs.....so anyone would look big to her. We have not told anyone our good news....she put a damper on my whole birthday because I thought, well, people think I"m gaining weight. Which really is all it is at this point because at 7 weeks I should not be showing. So I'm gaining weight too quickly and I have to put a stop to this. I dont want to have a ton of weight to lose after the baby is born.

I also went and had another beta test done last wednesday. I'm still waiting on the results. And next Thursday I will be having my first u/s.....can't wait!!!!!!

I'm so happy to be able to post again! Hope everyone is going good!!!!

[andstillwaiting]

Congrats on the ultrasound Hopeful81!! I was waiting to see how yours went. I have mine tomorrow! I lost the 17 lbs of fluid I gained but I still have some in my tummy as I still look pregnant. What about you? I can feel my ovaries still and get cramping everyday. What about you? You are the only one I know that went through the same thing so I hope you don't mind me wanting to compare. I haven't had nausea again, I only had it for a few days when my OHSS was bad and was put on diclectin then I took it for about 2.5 days and then I went off them and the nausea didn't come back. Here's to hoping my scan goes well tomorrow afternoon. Hope you are doing well!!

Hi everyone! I haven't been posting much as I wanted to wait until we saw the heartbeat (strange, I know!). Anyhow, first US today and everything looks to be good! We saw the heartbeat (134 bpm). Our baby is measuring 6 weeks 5 days, so 2 days behind but my Dr. said that's completely normal and in her mind everything is right on track. Only downside was that my ovaries are still the size of grapefruits (OHSS). Ouch! She said my ovaries may actually be squishing my uterus/baby a bit Poor baby.

Evian - I see that you mentioned the flu shot. I asked my RE today and she said absolutely NOT during the first trimester....and that by the time I reach second trimester it will be rather pointless as flu season will be well underway. I was really surprised - I thought I had read that it was safe during pregnancy but I'll listen to her. Scary, as I'm a nurse - I guess I'll be wearing a LOT of masks over the winter! What did you end up deciding to do?

Rcttc - Hope you're feeling better! I also hope your first u/s will hurry up and get here already (although I'm still very nervous even after mine....I have a feeling this is going to last a long time). That's REALLY frustrating about the crummy services available to you. I'm sure your family doctor is capable, though....as far as I know, there's really nothing different about an IVF pregnancy verses a natural pregnancy. Have you heard otherwise?

ChristineNY - I'm right with you on the "morning" sickness that actually lasts all day. Mine is pretty out of control, but I find it gets much worse as soon as I start to get hungry. Saltine crackers definitely help, I have a row in my car at all times....lol. The one positive side of m/s is that it's a constant reminder that we're pregnant which is a pretty happy thing Hope yours is manageable!

[ChristineNY]

Good morning Girls! Hope everything is going well for everyone. Hope you are feeling better Bepatient! Yeah...I too get morning sickness at night. Ugh. Actually I get it on and off all day but it's most prominent in late afternoon and into the night. Bleh. Just nauseous and find I gag at some strange things. I cannot go into a public restroom without gagging. It's awful. I also gag when I have to clean my toilet bowl at home...LOL. It's horrible. Certain smells really set me off too. I am currently 8 weeks and 2 days and have been fortunate enough to hear my little one's heartbeat twice :-). I am scheduled to see my OB/GYN on Monday, November 21...I will be 9 weeks and 2 days. I hope to hear the heartbeat then too and see my little one a little bit better. It's been hard with the internal sonograms to really see him/her. I would just see the heartbeat flash on the screen which was great...and I definitely heard it....which was wonderful.

I am already overweight to begin with so I have a slightly fuller belly but not too much difference yet. My breasts are a bigger too...which were big to begin with ....LOL. Just what I need. DH is happy though! LOL!. I have been very very tired....and cranky like you would not believe. I wake up every hour at night to pee....and have been having vivid dreams the last few nights. Usually I can't remember what I dream....but the last few nights have been very vivid. Weird.

Anyway....what else is everyone feeling? This journey is amazing....and worth all the annoying symptoms. Though the nausea can be hard to take sometimes.

Ok well big hugs to all you girls! Hope to hear how you are all doing.

[rcttc2011]

I'm back to work today, after a week off....gee I really wish I did not have to work! ha, can't happen!

It's so hard not telling anyone our news. I can't wait to tell my son, but I'm a little scared too on how he will handle it, I'm hoping he will be delighted.

ChristineNY: I"m very cranky also, but more so around my husband ( I have no idea why)....I just dont feel that great. I'm so tired, I can't make it through the day without a nap, and my face is horribly broke out with acne. I still get flare ups, but with being pregnant it seems to have increased and I can't take my perscription cream now..sucks! I also get up to pee about 5x a night, drives me crazy!!!! But I would take all of this to have this baby. I dont have m/s, but I'm so tired, I sometimes feel dizzy.

Just a couple more days and we'll have our u/s and see how many sacs there are.....can't wait....and sooooo nervous!!!!!!!!!

I hope your all doing well!!!!!