Hi Ladies...I've been off for a while, trying to re-group and make some tough decisions. Alleycat, your message inspired me to send out a quick update.
We have decided to move forward with DE. We were going to try going abroad to Greece (clinic there was SO helpful...), but my husband works overseas and I didn't want to have to schedule chunks of time off - it just seemed very complicated. So, I got a referral to Create and met with a doctor there. We have also checked a few donor clinics out and have decided to move forward with Little Miracles. After searching and searching, we think we have found a donor. She doesn't look quite as much like me as I would have hoped - but there is some resemblance and she is healthy, which is most important at this stage, I think (and hope!). My doctor believes in doing exclusive DE so that we can give ourselves the best possible chance - we've had too much heartache already and lost so much financially...it's our very last chance to try. So, that is how we have come to accept an exclusive cycle.
I'm still nervous about what people will say if this works - pregnant at my age! Geez. But, I have also been noticing A LOT of older moms around and can only assume that there are a lot more women in our position these days for whatever reason.
Anyway, we estimate that the total cost will be around $20K - $22K. I don't know...maybe a bit less, I hope. I hate that it cost this much - but I also feel much more comfortable doing this here, where I live...although Sami's trip to Mexico certainly does sound lovely!!!!
Good luck Sweets!! It's a very tough decision emotionally and financially. We are lucky to have family that can help us out but it's still hard. Thanks for sharing, and you can count on us for support.