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[nervus optimist]

hope - I'm so sorry this cycle was such a disaster.  I'm glad to hear you're ok with where things are at.  I'm sure you little man brings you a ton of joy.

 

[Nitzerette]

Hi ladies!
Just wanted to check in and say hello, see how you all are doing?

Have said it elsewhere, but wanted to post here a HUGE congrats on the arrival of your baby boy, NOpt! How is it all going?

My son turned 3 in July and started "school". My baby girl turns 6 months next week - unbelievable! They are both real water babies.

Please leave an update if you have a few minutes to post.

[hope floats]

Hey girls,

 

Just a quick update, found out I'm pregnant by surprise!!!  What a turn of events, you could have knocked me over with a feather when I saw the test.  Just early days yet so not getting too excited but I need to tell and where is there a better place to get support right!!!

[hope2bamom]

Hey ladies,

 

Nervous ~ congrats on your baby boy!  I hope everything is going well.

 

hope floats ~ amazing news!!  Congratulations! Isn't it crazy, just when you resign yourself that it's over then pow!  Awesome!

 

nitzerette ~ wow time flies huh? glad to hear you and the family are doing well

 

sunrise ~ how are you doing?

 

AFM ~ started another cycle in June, transferred one magic bean on July 3rd and am 10 weeks today!!  I'm scared beyond belief but feeling better and better about this pregnancy as each week goes by.  I've had two ultrasounds and baby is right on track so that's encouraging. It's been an emotional roller coaster with mourning the loss of the triplets especially on the 8th which was my due date but I got through it.  Onward and upward is all a person can do.

 

Nice to see the updates keep em coming

[Nitzerette]

Omg, I am so happy that I checked in again!!! What amazing news to read. Two ladies pregnant, how awesome is that! So thrilled for you both.

H2bam, how did you "celebrate" your babies due date to help you get through it? How have you been feeling with this pregnancy? Congrats.

HF, umm, I just have to say, OMG!!! again. Had you started getting rid of some of your baby stuff? That is a bit of a joke between some of my other ivf-er friends - has seemed to work for a few of us. Please give us some more details? (well, not about the adult snuggling part, lol). But how many weeks are you? Scans? How did you realize? How did you tell hubby? Congrats to you too.

Now if only we could hear of a miracle surprise pregnancy for Heather, I would feel our thread had well and truly surpassed my expectations.

And this thread has yet again made my day

[shellie]

I don't even know where to start....I got the call around 330 @ wrk mind u that my levels are dropping& I'm having what's called a biochemical miscarriage. I'm MORE than devastated MORE than depressed. I can't stop crying. This Is our 4th x. 1st x...didn't wrk, 2nd x wrkd but ended in miscarriage. 3rd x was w blastocyst...didn't wrk. ...but this 4th x, blastocyst frozen. 3 xrd, we're pregnant on fri then 2day, go 4 blood wrk n find out @ wrk that levels have dropped. My faith is running thin.....maybe its just bc of the news I don't know. .....I don't know anything any more

[hope2bamom]

shellie ~ sorry to hear that you're having a rough go ... how many embies did you transfer? It's possible if you transferred more than one that they implanted then one m/c, that could make your levels drop while the other embie is fine.  There's another lady in one of my groups that transferred one and her levels started dropping and the nurses were saying definite m/c.  As it turns out, embie split but twin didn't make it.  She just had a perfect ultrasound.  Will you stay on meds until you can do an ultrasound?  I'm hoping for some good news for you.

 

nitzerette ~ ironically I had a meeting set with the genetics nurse that day and didn't think I would be a wreck but I was.  Spent most of that time crying and reminiscing but I think that was a good thing.  I clearly had some grief to get out of my system.  And I felt much better afterwards and since.  I posted a beautiful poem on my FB page and dedicated a song to my babies ... Carrie Underwood's Till I See You Again.

[hope floats]

Shellie, my heart is breaking for you, it is so hard.  Be kind to yourself, I hope there is an explanation and you can work from there.

 

hope2b, what great news, I'm so happy for you!  Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy.

 

Nitzerette, I'm about 6.5 weeks now, found out at 5 weeks.  I was late so I told DH to get a dollar store pregnancy test- told DH I'm probably in menopause more likely than pregnant.  Well, weren't we both super surprised to look down and see two lines!!!  We had just started selling off stuff- and it happened on vacation!!!  Anyway, we are super cautious because of course it is so early, but to get pregnant naturally is amazing- first time ever!!!  Should have first scan somewhere between 12 and 14 weeks- hard to wait so long....

[nervus optimist]

hope - wow!  wow! wow! floored to read your message.  hope you get some super sore boobs and perhaps a tiny touch of nausea just to put your mind at ease until your first scan.  seriously, I hope you're feeling well and that everything goes amazingly smoothly!

 

hope2bamom - so happy for you.  must have been so difficult to pass the milestone of your triplet's EDD.  so glad to hear things are going well now.  everything will be so different.  how exciting.

 

shellie - I'm so sorry - I hope that as others have said that perhaps there is still some hope, and if the news is truly indisputable, then I hope you are surrounded by all of the love and support that you need.  thinking of you.

 

nizarette - your updates always make me smile from ear to ear.  your little ones are growing up so fast.  so amazing.

 

AFM - thank you to all of your for your kindness and support.  can't believe we have been together through so many years... through so much.  I am absolutely in love with my son.  in love with being a mother... his mother.  I love his cheeky smiles when I change his diaper, and his gummy howls when he's hungry in the middle of the night.  I knew I would love being a mom, and yet I had no idea how amazing every second of every day would be - even the hard stuff - it's awesome.  sorry to be so gushy, I'm just not sure how else to be.

 

[hope floats]

Nervous, gushy is good!!!  I still feel like that most of the time, we are so blessed to be mom's, it is a wonderfully challenging overwhelming responsibility!

[Nitzerette]

Hi Shellie, what is your update? Hope you are doing ok and that there was just some problem with the blood test.

H2bam, that is good that you got to rid yourself of some of your grief that day. I think I am the only one on this thread, but I never remembered my due dates. Sounds like you made a beautiful tribute to them.

HF, 12-14 weeks?!? Good grief! You must have the patience of a saint. We have a heartbeat scan at about 7 weeks then the NT scan at 12 weeks. There is no way I could have waited til 14 weeks. I am truly happy and excited for you. Unfortunately where I live, I couldn't just go get a pregnancy test...I had to go to the health clinic and do a pee test there . Didn't tell hubby til after - walked over to his office and to,d him there. I completely understand your surprise! And your trying to be cautious. But seriously....you just can't help but be thrilled. Where were you on vacation? Were you still away when you did the test? What was your first hcg result?

NOpt, yes it has been many many years we have supported each other - what a fantastic group this is! It makes me SO happy to hear you "gushy" - it is finally your time! He is smiling already? Awwwww.

Finally finished Quinley's bedroom today and she will be moving in there soon I think. Kirkland was in his room at 6 months to the day, but it looks like we will be a bit slower with her. She doesn't sleep nearly as well as he did, and I am not keen to be running to her room. I think the room looks pretty cute, considering how difficult it is sourcing things here. Last weekend my husband booked me flights to go off on my own to Bali, so I could do a bit of shopping to pick up a few bits and bobs. Also got massages, haircut, eyebrow wax and dinner out . Probably spent about $1000. Have never done something like that before! As for Kirkland, his teacher tells me "he is VERY enthusiastic....about EVERYTHING!". He just never stops talking, running commentary on everything he does and sees, questions everything. He is very gentle with his baby sister, kissing her and stroking her head. He loves that she smiles and laughs at him now. It is Australian fathers day tomorrow and the kids are Aussies so we'll celebrate that.

Surprised we haven't heard from JT? Kaci looks pretty happy with her new family on her FB page. (think she is off to New York for holidays)

Take care everyone!

[nervus optimist]

I'm like you nizarette, made it a point not to remember due dates. Its too hard. I don't remember mc dates either but do remember the general time of year that it happened each time because of other things going on in my life at the time.

[hope floats]

Hey girls,

 

Sad news, last night I had another M/C.  I'm feeling pretty down, but know I will get through it.  Sorry I didn't get the miracle, but I felt the joy for a while and that was good.

[hope2bamom]

OH hope, that's so heartbreaking! I'm so sorry to hear this news.  Big cyber hugs to you and DH.

 

I had a terrible scare yesterday, started bleeding bright red as soon as I got out of bed.  It was a lot of blood and it didn't seem to be letting up so I went to emerg but in the end all seems well.  Cervix is closed and baby has a heartbeat.  Ironically I had my first appt with my OB yesterday afternoon and she checked on baby with her ultrasound and he/she was wiggling and waving at me.  Thankfully I have an NT scan booked for Sept 9th so I'll get another peek.  I thought for sure being almost 12 weeks that I wouldn't get any more surprises (the spotting was nerve wracking enough) but I guess that isn't the case.  It's so hard to feel happy and excited when you're just waiting for the shoe to drop.

[Nitzerette]

HF, feeling your disappointment along with you. So wonderful you got pregnant on your own, and now to have to go through this yet again. Blah! I m/c'd (3rd one) in Oct, then got pregnant with Q the following June. So maybe there is still hope for the future . So very sucky and disheartening right now tho. S sorry for your loss, my dear friend.

H2BaM little one, hang in there baby and stop scaring your mommy so much!
Congrats on 12 weeks tomorrow.

[nervus optimist]

hope - I am so sorry.  sending you hugs and support

 

h2b - that is so scary.  so glad you were able to get a peek and see that everything looks good.  I had my worst bleeding with this PG (the only one that stuck) and they said it was a subchorionic hematoma.  because of my history they played it super safe and kept me off work until bleeding was stopped for 2 weeks so with 4 weeks of spotting after the big bleed I was home for a total of 6.  don't know if it made any difference or just helped with the stress.  hope your next check in is perfect!

 

[Nitzerette]

Just wanted to say HI since it has been awhile.

Missing the dancing bananas so thought I should pop in. 

Any updates?

[hope2bamom]

Nitzerette thank you for the PM. I was trying to remember the couple forums that I had posted in to give updates and I missed this one. I am currently holding my son who has now spent almost 12 weeks on the outside! He's not due till March 21 :-0

My last post talked about being 12 weeks along and everything went quite smoothly after my scare. I had an anatomy scan at 18 weeks and found out I was having a boy. They also told me that my cervix was on the shorter side of normal. I didn't know if this was something to worry about or not and I didn't have an appt with my OB for another three or four weeks after that so I happily went along till 22 weeks exactly and then on Nov 15th noticed a different kind of fluid coming out. I thought it might be normal but I was a little worried and phoned a friend to ask her if she'd experienced that, she encouraged me to call Health link who encouraged me to go to the hosp to get it checked out regardless. I probably would have went anyway but I might have waited till the next day as it was Friday at 8 pm. They examined me and discovered I was 3 cms dilated!! They were going to put in an emerg cerclage but 4 hours later when they put me under to do it they found me to be fully dilated!!! I had no idea of the implications but they were treating me like I was going to give birth at any second. I had no contractions and no leakage just fully dilated and water bulging (just I say)
I was told at Red Deer Hosp that in Alberta and I'm sure all over Canada they won't resuscitate a baby born before 24 weeks and they offered options regarding my pregnancy and gave me little hope that it would pan out. I think not knowing how serious the full dilation was helped me but I had a really calm approach to it. I was quite emotional about it of course and fearful but also very hopeful and I stayed positive always sending positive messages to my body to hang In there and to baby to grow big and strong. They advised me to lay in Trendellenburg position and part way thru week 22 they contacted Calgary who agreed to take me at week 23 instead of week 24. I was elated!! That gave me a tangible goal to work towards. So at 22 and 6 I was transferred to Calgary by ambulance and they too kept me in labor and delivery ward expecting baby any minute and also in Trendellenburg. After 11 days of that the Dr changed it up a bit and said I could get out of bed. Boy were my legs wobbly!! I lasted another 8 days and then August Christian had to come out because his water was all gone and his lungs would be affected. I'd had 2 doses of steroids during week 22 and also week 23 to help his lungs. August was born vaginally and footling breach at 24 weeks 5 days. Nothing like making the grandest entrance he could!!

He weighed 1 lb 14 ounces and was the tiniest little thing but was he ever feisty! He had to be intubated three different times for various lengths of time and he finally stayed on SIPAP then went to CPAP then finally to nasal prongs and now he's on room air and doing quite well with breathing. He still forgets to breath occasionally but recovers on his own now rather than having to be bagged. He had to have a blood infusion because his red blood cells weren't multiplying quick enough and he wasn't getting enough oxygen traveling in his bloodstream. He has had a whole pharmacy of medications for various reasons over the last three months but is off all of it. All his brain scans showed him clear of brain bleeds, he gets one tomorrow just to make sure he is still clear. He has mild ROP and will be monitored so hopefully it regresses and he doesn't need eye surgery. He has a hydro seal which may turn to a hernia but that's quite common. All in all he escaped the major preemie issues! He's definitely a true miracle!!

He's been nuzzling and latching since 29 weeks but not getting any volume just practicing and up until last week was partially fed via NG tube but that's been pulled and he's strictly been bottle feeding which is one of the criteria for going home.

So after 19 days hanging on and 83 days between Calgary and Red Deer NICU's August is going to have a car seat study tonight to determine if he's ready to go home!! If he passes he will likely be discharged tomorrow!!! Momma can't wait to get her baby boy home! It's been a long road ...

How's THAT for an update??!! lol

[Nitzerette]

I have just had to google a whole bunch of things while reading your post!
Congratulations on the arrival of your (very) little bundle of joy! What a great name . Is he named after anyone? I was trying to calculate things as I read and wondered if you meant he came at 25w4d rather that 24/5? You said transferred hospitals at 22/6 the lasted 19days? Since you areaway from your home, did you/have you had any support people with you? Sounds like you stayed pretty zen considering the circumstances! Good for you. And well done for him working on the breast feeding since 29 weeks . Hope all goes well and you two are together in your own home very very soon!!! CONGRATS!

(My friend just had a baby early and she had the steroids, and he had the cpap, and he is about to go home on Thur.)

[Nitzerette]

Hi all! Been a long time 😊

[hope2bamom]

Hello!! Yes it has been a long time! I just retread my last post on here and couldn't help but have tears in my eyes. Such an emotional roller coaster! How have you been? Still in Australia?

Just to answer your question from last post ... 19 days from 22 weeks when I went into the hospital to 24 and 5 when I had my son. And I fully believe those 19 days not only saved his life but gave him the perfect health he enjoys today. He'll be 20 months in a few days!! My how time has flown by!

How is your little doing?