My DH saw some stripy toe socks on a free giveaway pile a couple of days ago and insisted that I take them. Do you think he's on to something?
Haha...Your DH is cutting edge...
Favorite advice to IF couples
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Posted 10 September 2008 - 01:20 PM
Haha...Your DH is cutting edge...
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Posted 11 February 2009 - 08:33 AM
Digging up an old thread here...
My favourite advice was from a woman who told me "You know, there's such a thing as trying too hard". Yep, thanks.
And since we got back from our vacation in Florida, I've been asked by pretty much everyone if I think we got pregnant while we were away. I've told some of them - that's not possible because before we left, I started taking a drug to shut down my ovaries to give them a rest before IVF. Others, I just shake my head. Love it when they follow up with - "you never know!". Ummm, yeah I do, and I'm not pregnant.
My favourite advice was from a woman who told me "You know, there's such a thing as trying too hard". Yep, thanks.
And since we got back from our vacation in Florida, I've been asked by pretty much everyone if I think we got pregnant while we were away. I've told some of them - that's not possible because before we left, I started taking a drug to shut down my ovaries to give them a rest before IVF. Others, I just shake my head. Love it when they follow up with - "you never know!". Ummm, yeah I do, and I'm not pregnant.
After 3+ years, my cycle history is quite long. For details on each cycle, please visit my "About Me" page
Trying since fall 2007
All tests show normal (we're "unexplained")
COH+IUI in Nov 08 = BFN
IVF # 1 Feb 09 - BFN
IVF #2 June 2009 - BFP
13 week u/s showed a missed m/c. Baby stopped developing around 8 weeks. Damn.
Moving on to adoption
March 22, 2010 - finished PRIDE classes
waiting to begin homestudy sometime in the next two years. That's not a typo - TWO YEARS
Feb 2012 - got a call that they are ready to start our home study...putting off all adoption decisions for at least 6 months because I am 2 weeks from my due date (see below)
Feb 2011 - we've been offered donor embryos! FET in a few months after preliminary tests are done...
FET June 2011:
May 7 - start suprefact and low dose aspirin (on CD21)
May 14 - AF started - super heavy and I'm super cranky. Headaches from the suprefact too
May 21 - starting Estrace and both of us start antibiotics
June 3 - u/s to check lining
June 8 - FET
June 21 - Beta is 564. June 24 Beta is 2286
July 12 - first u/s at 7w1d
Aug 18 - second u/s at 12w4d - everything looks great
Aug 30 - first prenatal appt
Oct 6 - 20w anatomy scan, could find out the sex!
It's a BOY!!
EDD is Feb 26, 2012
beautiful healthy baby boy born March 1, 2012 <3
My friend ButterflyKiss provided this quote from Laura Bush's book and I think it captures how many of us feel:"The English language lacks the words to mourn an absence... for someone who was never there at all, we are wordless to capture that particular emptiness. For those who deeply want children and are denied them, those missing babies hover like silent, ephemeral shadows over their lives. Who can describe the feel of a tiny hand that is never held?"
Trying since fall 2007
All tests show normal (we're "unexplained")
COH+IUI in Nov 08 = BFN
IVF # 1 Feb 09 - BFN
IVF #2 June 2009 - BFP
13 week u/s showed a missed m/c. Baby stopped developing around 8 weeks. Damn.
Moving on to adoption
March 22, 2010 - finished PRIDE classes
waiting to begin homestudy sometime in the next two years. That's not a typo - TWO YEARS
Feb 2012 - got a call that they are ready to start our home study...putting off all adoption decisions for at least 6 months because I am 2 weeks from my due date (see below)
Feb 2011 - we've been offered donor embryos! FET in a few months after preliminary tests are done...
FET June 2011:
May 7 - start suprefact and low dose aspirin (on CD21)
May 14 - AF started - super heavy and I'm super cranky. Headaches from the suprefact too
May 21 - starting Estrace and both of us start antibiotics
June 3 - u/s to check lining
June 8 - FET
June 21 - Beta is 564. June 24 Beta is 2286
July 12 - first u/s at 7w1d
Aug 18 - second u/s at 12w4d - everything looks great
Aug 30 - first prenatal appt
Oct 6 - 20w anatomy scan, could find out the sex!
It's a BOY!!
EDD is Feb 26, 2012
beautiful healthy baby boy born March 1, 2012 <3
My friend ButterflyKiss provided this quote from Laura Bush's book and I think it captures how many of us feel:"The English language lacks the words to mourn an absence... for someone who was never there at all, we are wordless to capture that particular emptiness. For those who deeply want children and are denied them, those missing babies hover like silent, ephemeral shadows over their lives. Who can describe the feel of a tiny hand that is never held?"
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Posted 16 February 2009 - 02:12 PM
Yeah, I heard the "fertility monitor" one and the "just relax" one, get this ... from a friend who has struggled with infertility!!
How quickly people forget! I was like, "Yeah, with the male factor AND the blocked fallopian tubes, I don't think that's going to work."
Now ... wearing socks while drunk ... that might do the trick. Maybe we should put on funny hats too.
How quickly people forget! I was like, "Yeah, with the male factor AND the blocked fallopian tubes, I don't think that's going to work."
Now ... wearing socks while drunk ... that might do the trick. Maybe we should put on funny hats too.
Me: 41, DH: 44
TTC: since Jan, 2008 (age 34)
DH: Low morphology, low count. Me: Stage 2-3 endometriosis, non-functional fallopian tubes, small fibroids, low AFC,low poor responder ... anything else?
Jun 2008-Sep 2011 in a nutshell: One HSG, one very traumatic office hysteroscopy, one operative laparoscopy, three fresh IVF/ICSI cycles, one chemical, one early miscarriage, two tubal recanalizations, five IUIs (3 with Clomid).
May 2010 - Aug 2011 Attempted adoption application process through the BC MCFD. Aug 2011 Signed up with a private agency. On both waiting lists as of Apr 2012. Proposal through MCFD Jul 2012. Aug 2012 - Finally ... she's home and we're a family! : )
Adoption application #2 started Aug 2013. DD2 placed May 2014, finalized Feb 2015!
"I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."
Thomas Edison
TTC: since Jan, 2008 (age 34)
DH: Low morphology, low count. Me: Stage 2-3 endometriosis, non-functional fallopian tubes, small fibroids, low AFC,
Jun 2008-Sep 2011 in a nutshell: One HSG, one very traumatic office hysteroscopy, one operative laparoscopy, three fresh IVF/ICSI cycles, one chemical, one early miscarriage, two tubal recanalizations, five IUIs (3 with Clomid).
May 2010 - Aug 2011 Attempted adoption application process through the BC MCFD. Aug 2011 Signed up with a private agency. On both waiting lists as of Apr 2012. Proposal through MCFD Jul 2012. Aug 2012 - Finally ... she's home and we're a family! : )
Adoption application #2 started Aug 2013. DD2 placed May 2014, finalized Feb 2015!
"I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."
Thomas Edison
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Posted 16 February 2009 - 02:46 PM
I don't know if I should laugh or cry... I've heard them all with the exception of the socks - yikes. Thanks for bringing back this thread!
I wish I had the nerve to send the Aunt Jane u-tube song to some of the clueless people around me. I guess that would make me just as insensitive as they are, so I just hope that someday they stumble on it and feel really, really foolish... still not exactly sensitive of me, but oh well!
I wish I had the nerve to send the Aunt Jane u-tube song to some of the clueless people around me. I guess that would make me just as insensitive as they are, so I just hope that someday they stumble on it and feel really, really foolish... still not exactly sensitive of me, but oh well!
Me-35, DH - 41
TTC since 2005 - high FSH/low ovarian reserve and endo
Ectopic pregnancy Dec 2006
3 cycles clomid (Ob Gyn) - BFN
TCART
2 IUIs (Letrosol) - BFN
3 IUIS (Menopur & Letrosol) - 1 chemical pg
OFC
IVF#1/ICSI Feb./Mar. 2009 (Puregon & Repronex) 6 retrieved, 5 fertilized, 2 embies 3dt - BFN
July 20 - Laparoscopy & laser for stage 2 endometriosis, tubes clear
Sept. 2009 - Approved for CAS adoption!!
Create
IVF#2/ICSI Dec. 2009 - natural cycle - BFN
IVF#3 planned for Feb. 2010, but life had better plans:
Jan. 2010 Nicholas is our CAS miracle! Our son is home and we are ecstatic!
April 2010 surprise natural BFP - Allyson was born December 31st 2010!
What a year - we are truly happy and beyond grateful!
TTC since 2005 - high FSH/low ovarian reserve and endo
Ectopic pregnancy Dec 2006
3 cycles clomid (Ob Gyn) - BFN
TCART
2 IUIs (Letrosol) - BFN
3 IUIS (Menopur & Letrosol) - 1 chemical pg
OFC
IVF#1/ICSI Feb./Mar. 2009 (Puregon & Repronex) 6 retrieved, 5 fertilized, 2 embies 3dt - BFN
July 20 - Laparoscopy & laser for stage 2 endometriosis, tubes clear
Sept. 2009 - Approved for CAS adoption!!
Create
IVF#2/ICSI Dec. 2009 - natural cycle - BFN
IVF#3 planned for Feb. 2010, but life had better plans:
Jan. 2010 Nicholas is our CAS miracle! Our son is home and we are ecstatic!
April 2010 surprise natural BFP - Allyson was born December 31st 2010!
What a year - we are truly happy and beyond grateful!
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Posted 17 February 2009 - 01:41 PM
#1) Go off all meds and treatments, just relax and it will happen. How I wish!!
#2) Had a freind ask me "are you having sex every other day starting on day 10 of your cycle?". I responded by telling her I have an ultrasound tech stick a wand up my vajayjay every day starting on day 10 of my cycle to tell me EXACTLY WHEN to have sex, and it's still not working, then I asked her if she had any more brilliant ideas? LOL!
For my next IUI I'm going to wear knee socks and a funny hat, stand on my head afterwards and have multiple orgasms, which should ultimately relax me!! I'll let you all know how it turns out!!!
#2) Had a freind ask me "are you having sex every other day starting on day 10 of your cycle?". I responded by telling her I have an ultrasound tech stick a wand up my vajayjay every day starting on day 10 of my cycle to tell me EXACTLY WHEN to have sex, and it's still not working, then I asked her if she had any more brilliant ideas? LOL!
For my next IUI I'm going to wear knee socks and a funny hat, stand on my head afterwards and have multiple orgasms, which should ultimately relax me!! I'll let you all know how it turns out!!!
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Me (Kerri-Lyn) 41, DH (Steve) 37, TTC since April 2007Unexplained IF (possibly crappy eggs, AMH 10.4 = poor responder) - HSG, SHGx3, Lap, Cycle Monitoring, Recurrent loss bloods, EMB, Karyotyping, DNA Frag - all normal! 7 IUI's, 2 cancelled IVF's, 3 complete IVF's, 1 FET, 2 clinics, 1 early miscarriage, lots of debt, lots of heartache, lots of tears. We rolled the dice and got lucky on our last ditch "close the door" cycle and have a beautiful little girl. April 2014 - Had the crazy notion to try for another. Shocked with a BFP, miscarried @ 8W6D. See my "about me" page for more cycle details.
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Posted 17 February 2009 - 01:52 PM
LOL this thread is great!
Me 25...DH 30....DS 3 ( concieved naturally born dec/05 )
IVF #1 - ER(07/04/08) 6 follies, 1 egg, 3dt of 4 cell grade 3.5 embie = BFN 07/19/09......DISASTER
IVF #2 - ER (09/25/08) 13 follies, 8 eggs 100% fertilization, 5dt 2 cavitating morulas = BFN 10/06/08......Getting Better
IVF #3 - ER (03/01/09) 7 follies, 5 egss, 4 fertilized, transfered 3 embryos 9 cell 3.0, 8 cell 2.5 and 7 cell 2.5 = BFP
Early Beta -13dp3dt 500 Second Beta - 15dp3dt 1649 Third beta -21dp3dt 12,300
G/G/B triplets!!!!
Babies born on due date Oct 14th
Baby A - Alanna Chelsea 5lbs 6oz
Baby B - Benjamin Albert 5lbs
Baby C - Lauren Summer 5lbs
Visit my blog: http://4under4.wordpress.com/
IVF #1 - ER(07/04/08) 6 follies, 1 egg, 3dt of 4 cell grade 3.5 embie = BFN 07/19/09......DISASTER
IVF #2 - ER (09/25/08) 13 follies, 8 eggs 100% fertilization, 5dt 2 cavitating morulas = BFN 10/06/08......Getting Better
IVF #3 - ER (03/01/09) 7 follies, 5 egss, 4 fertilized, transfered 3 embryos 9 cell 3.0, 8 cell 2.5 and 7 cell 2.5 = BFP
Early Beta -13dp3dt 500 Second Beta - 15dp3dt 1649 Third beta -21dp3dt 12,300
G/G/B triplets!!!!
Babies born on due date Oct 14th
Baby A - Alanna Chelsea 5lbs 6oz
Baby B - Benjamin Albert 5lbs
Baby C - Lauren Summer 5lbs
Visit my blog: http://4under4.wordpress.com/
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Posted 03 March 2009 - 05:32 PM
For me -
Relax !! it will happen.
Go on vacation - it will happen
Adopt - it will happen
Get drunk before you know .......
don't eat/drink diary
And another one
It will happen - when it is least expected.
Hmm, I don't know how to not expect it, as I chart/time and do IVfs and all ..........
Relax !! it will happen.
Go on vacation - it will happen
Adopt - it will happen
Get drunk before you know .......
don't eat/drink diary
And another one
It will happen - when it is least expected.
Hmm, I don't know how to not expect it, as I chart/time and do IVfs and all ..........
“By seeing the seed of failure in every success, we remain humble. By seeing the seed of success in every failure we remain hopeful.”
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Posted 12 March 2009 - 12:21 PM
i get "you just NEVER KNOW!" from those that KNOW we've had to do IVF.
Um, unless the drs are COMPLETELY OFF BASE... WE DO KNOW -- and there is NO ROOM FOR POSSIBILITY in OUR case. You're right, that's NOT the same as so-and-so and the other so-and-sos you know that got pregnant through IVF and THEN got pregnant on their own (cause according to THOSE stories, it simply happens for EVERYBODY?!?!) arh. And it bugs me the most when the chose to live in their dream world and answer "well, you just NEVER know" as in "it might still" --- it bugs me that THEY need to hold on to that "all is good in the world" when they haven't delt with anything really bad, you know?
We know.
Before we did get pregnant -- we moved from city to country and a few people said "just wait - it's all you needed..." REALLY? WTF?
Or we were told "you just have to rearrange your bedroom furniture - apparently that works for many people" REALLY? what??
Um, unless the drs are COMPLETELY OFF BASE... WE DO KNOW -- and there is NO ROOM FOR POSSIBILITY in OUR case. You're right, that's NOT the same as so-and-so and the other so-and-sos you know that got pregnant through IVF and THEN got pregnant on their own (cause according to THOSE stories, it simply happens for EVERYBODY?!?!) arh. And it bugs me the most when the chose to live in their dream world and answer "well, you just NEVER know" as in "it might still" --- it bugs me that THEY need to hold on to that "all is good in the world" when they haven't delt with anything really bad, you know?
We know.
Before we did get pregnant -- we moved from city to country and a few people said "just wait - it's all you needed..." REALLY? WTF?
Or we were told "you just have to rearrange your bedroom furniture - apparently that works for many people" REALLY? what??
dh & I - 30. dealing with severe MFI (azoospermia)...
IVF/ICSI/TESA #1 @ McGill Feb. 2006 (successful;twins b/g oct06)
FET Nov 2008 - BFN
IVF/ICSI/TESA #2 @ McGill May/June 2009 - BFN: 2 embryos transfered of 12 (3dt) and none made it to freezing.
IVF/ICSI/TESA #3 @ McGill April 2009 -- short portocol. ER: April 24th. 8 eggs. 5 mature. 4 fertilized. ET::April 26th (2dt;3embryos). BETA::May 10th[174]. HPT::BFP::Mother's Day! (best mother's day EVER!) --> Viability U/S on May 25th: we're expecting ONE baby. Crazy happy.
IVF/ICSI/TESA #1 @ McGill Feb. 2006 (successful;twins b/g oct06)
FET Nov 2008 - BFN
IVF/ICSI/TESA #2 @ McGill May/June 2009 - BFN: 2 embryos transfered of 12 (3dt) and none made it to freezing.
IVF/ICSI/TESA #3 @ McGill April 2009 -- short portocol. ER: April 24th. 8 eggs. 5 mature. 4 fertilized. ET::April 26th (2dt;3embryos). BETA::May 10th[174]. HPT::BFP::Mother's Day! (best mother's day EVER!) --> Viability U/S on May 25th: we're expecting ONE baby. Crazy happy.
#34
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Posted 25 March 2009 - 05:19 PM
Mine was from DH's grandma. "You'll get pregnant if you stop wearing high heels?" Maybe it has something to do with blood flow 
Me 30
DH 34
TTC for about 3 yrs
Me Endo and PCOS
DH Normal
1 Failed IUI and 1st IVF Cycle (Keeping my fingers crossed)
ER on MArch 12 2009
Discovered that DH has low sperm motility Had to do ICSI
6 Eggs Retrieved 5 Matured
Waiting for the Embryologist to let me know if we are doing Day 3 or 5 transfer
Embryologist called all 5 embies are grade A
5 day transfer on March 17 ( I'm very excited!)
Transferred 2 embies 8 cell grade 4 BFN
Hospitalized Stage 4 ENDO. Me and DH decided to wait for a year before trying again to allow my mind and body to heal.
03/01/10 FET 2 embies
03/08/10 Beta 1 7dp5dt 104.4 BFP!!!Thank you GOD!
03/10/10 Beta 2 9dp5dt 219 Yeah! My baby is getting stronger!!!
03/16/10 Beta 3 15dp5dt 5196!!!! Holy cow!!!
03/22/10 Beta 4 21dp5dt 54000!!!! LET'S GO BABY!!!OR BABIES????
03/30/10 First U/S 7 weeks!!! Twins!!! Baby A 127 HB!!!Baby B 125 HB!!!Thank you GOD!!!
04/15/10 2nd U/S 9 weeks!!!Finally heard the heartbeats!!!Both at 170..Both babies measuring right on track. I'm so inlove..
05/10/10 12 week u/s both babies measuring at 13w3d with HB's of 163...
07/13/10 21w6d 4d scan confirmed boy/girl..wooohooo!!!!
11/02/10 38 weeks..my babies are here..Gabriel at 7.2 lbs and Angeline at 5.8 lbs
http://stylishbumpsandtots.blogspot.com/
DH 34
TTC for about 3 yrs
Me Endo and PCOS
DH Normal
1 Failed IUI and 1st IVF Cycle (Keeping my fingers crossed)
ER on MArch 12 2009
Discovered that DH has low sperm motility Had to do ICSI
6 Eggs Retrieved 5 Matured
Waiting for the Embryologist to let me know if we are doing Day 3 or 5 transfer
Embryologist called all 5 embies are grade A
5 day transfer on March 17 ( I'm very excited!)
Transferred 2 embies 8 cell grade 4 BFN
Hospitalized Stage 4 ENDO. Me and DH decided to wait for a year before trying again to allow my mind and body to heal.
03/01/10 FET 2 embies
03/08/10 Beta 1 7dp5dt 104.4 BFP!!!Thank you GOD!
03/10/10 Beta 2 9dp5dt 219 Yeah! My baby is getting stronger!!!
03/16/10 Beta 3 15dp5dt 5196!!!! Holy cow!!!
03/22/10 Beta 4 21dp5dt 54000!!!! LET'S GO BABY!!!OR BABIES????
03/30/10 First U/S 7 weeks!!! Twins!!! Baby A 127 HB!!!Baby B 125 HB!!!Thank you GOD!!!
04/15/10 2nd U/S 9 weeks!!!Finally heard the heartbeats!!!Both at 170..Both babies measuring right on track. I'm so inlove..
05/10/10 12 week u/s both babies measuring at 13w3d with HB's of 163...
07/13/10 21w6d 4d scan confirmed boy/girl..wooohooo!!!!
11/02/10 38 weeks..my babies are here..Gabriel at 7.2 lbs and Angeline at 5.8 lbs
http://stylishbumpsandtots.blogspot.com/
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Posted 26 March 2009 - 08:26 AM
I love this thread!!
Again we've gotten the "RELAX" assvice too many times to count.
And "Just adopt - you know sooo many people got pregnant after they adopted!" -----I'm sure it has happened a couple of times in the history of infertility and the same story has been circulated throughout the world for an eternity afterwards. Everybody seems to know "that couple" who got pg after adopting. Ohh how I wish it were that simple!!
Again we've gotten the "RELAX" assvice too many times to count.
And "Just adopt - you know sooo many people got pregnant after they adopted!" -----I'm sure it has happened a couple of times in the history of infertility and the same story has been circulated throughout the world for an eternity afterwards. Everybody seems to know "that couple" who got pg after adopting. Ohh how I wish it were that simple!!
Me-32 DH - 34
DX - Unexplained
TTC - 7 years
IUI(COH) #1 with Serophene and Bravelle injections and HCG trigger - June 22/08 - BFP!!
Beta - 15 dpiui - 40
very low
2nd Beta - 19 dpiui - 345 BFP
U/S July 28th/08 - heartrate 60 bpm I'm not ready to let you go....
3rd beta - 37 dpIUI - 31, 690
4th beta - 39 dpIUI - 40, 000 - still rising
U/S Aug 19th/08 - no heartbeat at 10 weeks (baby stopped growing at 8.5 weeks)
D&C Aug 22/08
We're done for a little while. I can't imagine going through this again.
IUI #2 March 19/09 (unmedicated) - BFN
IUI #3 April 16th/09 (unmedicated).....BFN
IVF #1
Called in Day 1 Dec 16th/09
ER - Feb 4/10 Retrieved 23 eggs, 13 fertilized with a bit of fragmentation
ET - Feb 9/10 Transferred 2 blasts (20/20 and 16/20) 2 Kidsicles
BETA - Feb.22nd BFN
I really thought this was the one. Devastated.
Sept 2010 - Started PRIDE
Nov 16 2010 - Last PRIDE session - Awaiting Home study.
FET #1
Nov. 9, 2010 - Transferred 2 blasts. One looked "excellent" and the other was "very good too".
Nov. 19, 2010 - hpt FRER BFP!!!!
Beta - 4w4d or 18dpo - 97 Hoping this one sticks around but I'm not optimistic...
Beta # 2 (5 weeks or 21 dpo)- 320 - going in the right direction at least...
Beta # 3 (5 weeks 4 days) - 1778.5
Went to ER at 6w6d weeks for spotting, BETA #4 15,217
Beta #5 7w4d 20,000ish
U/S 7w5d - no heartbeat
IVF #2 - Scheduled for April 2012
****SURPRISE NATURAL PREGNANCY THE MONTH WE WERE SUPPOSED TO CALL IN DAY 1 FOR IVF!!! ********
Beta #1 19dpo - 838
Beta #2 29dpo - 32,468
Beta #3 31 dpo - 44, 420
DX - Unexplained
TTC - 7 years
IUI(COH) #1 with Serophene and Bravelle injections and HCG trigger - June 22/08 - BFP!!
Beta - 15 dpiui - 40
very low2nd Beta - 19 dpiui - 345 BFP
U/S July 28th/08 - heartrate 60 bpm
I'm not ready to let you go....3rd beta - 37 dpIUI - 31, 690
4th beta - 39 dpIUI - 40, 000 - still rising
U/S Aug 19th/08 - no heartbeat at 10 weeks (baby stopped growing at 8.5 weeks)
D&C Aug 22/08
We're done for a little while. I can't imagine going through this again.
IUI #2 March 19/09 (unmedicated) - BFN
IUI #3 April 16th/09 (unmedicated).....BFN
IVF #1
Called in Day 1 Dec 16th/09
ER - Feb 4/10 Retrieved 23 eggs, 13 fertilized with a bit of fragmentation
ET - Feb 9/10 Transferred 2 blasts (20/20 and 16/20) 2 Kidsicles
BETA - Feb.22nd BFN
I really thought this was the one. Devastated.
Sept 2010 - Started PRIDE
Nov 16 2010 - Last PRIDE session - Awaiting Home study.
FET #1
Nov. 9, 2010 - Transferred 2 blasts. One looked "excellent" and the other was "very good too".
Nov. 19, 2010 - hpt FRER BFP!!!!
Beta - 4w4d or 18dpo - 97
Hoping this one sticks around but I'm not optimistic...Beta # 2 (5 weeks or 21 dpo)- 320 - going in the right direction at least...
Beta # 3 (5 weeks 4 days) - 1778.5
Went to ER at 6w6d weeks for spotting, BETA #4 15,217
Beta #5 7w4d 20,000ish
U/S 7w5d - no heartbeat
IVF #2 - Scheduled for April 2012
****SURPRISE NATURAL PREGNANCY THE MONTH WE WERE SUPPOSED TO CALL IN DAY 1 FOR IVF!!! ********
Beta #1 19dpo - 838
Beta #2 29dpo - 32,468
Beta #3 31 dpo - 44, 420
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Posted 27 April 2010 - 09:39 PM
I love this thread!!
Again we've gotten the "RELAX" assvice too many times to count.
And "Just adopt - you know sooo many people got pregnant after they adopted!" -----I'm sure it has happened a couple of times in the history of infertility and the same story has been circulated throughout the world for an eternity afterwards. Everybody seems to know "that couple" who got pg after adopting. Ohh how I wish it were that simple!!
Hey... I just had that very conversation with my friend. She went into a long story about her friends who adopted and then got pregnent. ....
Ok, I should adopt....yes, because TTC a great reason to adopt.....Maybe afterwards we could give the adopted child back.
I really wanted to slap her - but I think that would have been rude.
Me 36 Hubby 38
Dog 12
One empty bedroom
............. Looking for the crystal ball to see how this will turn out...............
Misscarried Nov 08, Jan 09 & July 09
Then nothing.
3 months clomid Summer of 2010.
IVF March 2011 - 16 days of stimming - 3dt on March 31.
Pregnant
4th time a charm? Here's hoping this one stays.<a href="http://pregnancy.bab...gaga.com/"><img src="http://tickers.baby-...ev351prs__.png" alt="pregnancy" border="0" /></a>
Dog 12
One empty bedroom
............. Looking for the crystal ball to see how this will turn out...............
Misscarried Nov 08, Jan 09 & July 09
Then nothing.
3 months clomid Summer of 2010.
IVF March 2011 - 16 days of stimming - 3dt on March 31.
Pregnant
4th time a charm? Here's hoping this one stays.<a href="http://pregnancy.bab...gaga.com/"><img src="http://tickers.baby-...ev351prs__.png" alt="pregnancy" border="0" /></a>
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feydruss
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Posted 27 April 2010 - 11:26 PM
Re: the old adoption then get pregnant myth... capo might want to disagree that this is a myth, now that she's experienced it! 
3rd cycle was the charm (despite everything going wrong)!
History and details in my profile
Twin boys Milan and Duncan born at 32w4d on 15 November 2010
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Yvonne
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Posted 28 April 2010 - 08:09 AM
One of the annoying ones I got was from a family doctor that I went to see when I was suspecting I may have pcos. So when I told her I hadn't gotten my period for MONTHS she said "that may be normal for you and it's ok you can still get pregnant..my mother was like that and she had children" OK so I may or may not even be ovulating and if I am it is totally unpredictable and only a few times a year but that's no problem I'll still get pregnant!!!! From a DOCTOR??
Started ttc in fall 04
m/c@7 weeks in April 2005
2006 found out about pcos and male factor
Decided to adopt.....approved and waiting until agency closed in Nov. 2009
:(IVF#1 July/August 2010 No transfer due to OHSS 10 frozen embryos
FET#1 Oct 14 2010 beta #1 was 7, beta#2 was negative
FET#2-Jan. 27 2011-BFNFET #3-July 1, 2011.-BFP! looked okay for a while then ended "pregnancy of unknown location"Four embryos left.
FET#4-Feb. 17, 2012 two embryos transferred-grow embies grow! beta #1 44, #2 51 #3 207, #4 375...Found out it was ectopic lost the embies and both tubes-
I'm single now FET #5 in November 2014 BFN
FET #6 in February 2015.
m/c@7 weeks in April 2005
2006 found out about pcos and male factor
Decided to adopt.....approved and waiting until agency closed in Nov. 2009
:(IVF#1 July/August 2010 No transfer due to OHSS 10 frozen embryos
FET#1 Oct 14 2010 beta #1 was 7, beta#2 was negative
FET#2-Jan. 27 2011-BFNFET #3-July 1, 2011.-BFP! looked okay for a while then ended "pregnancy of unknown location"Four embryos left.
FET#4-Feb. 17, 2012 two embryos transferred-grow embies grow! beta #1 44, #2 51 #3 207, #4 375...Found out it was ectopic lost the embies and both tubes-
I'm single now FET #5 in November 2014 BFN
FET #6 in February 2015.
#39
papoose76
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Posted 12 November 2010 - 04:27 PM
"You have to have lots of sex" Pfffffft!!!!!
Me (Nona): 36 DH (Greg):36 2 stepkids (age 12 & 14)
I have been a teacher since 2002.
TTC my first since 1999 (through 2 marriages)
One natural pregnancy (ectopic) May 21, 2009 :'(
IVF #1 (October 2010)
long protocol: 3 eggs retrieved, 2 fertilized and transferred. BFN.
IVF #2 (October 2011)
short flare protocol: 10 eggs retrieved, 9 fertilized, 2 transferred, 7 frosties.
BFP (beta- 112, then 133, then 31) lost the pregnancy :'(
HSG- December 20/11 (right side blocked w/ hydro at end, left side open)...
FET #1 (March 2012)
u/s on March 16th, transferred 3 embies March 23rd
beta on April 5th- BFN (less than 1.2)
4 frosties left.... need further implantation testing...
Lap on April 13th: removed what was left of right tube, freed up left tube. Hysteroscopy and lysis of adhesions.
Breakup of marriage, December/12... I am giving up on TTC.
#40
gibasgirl
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Posted 03 January 2011 - 08:36 PM
- "Do what teenagers do and make out in the back of your car." (they even told us to wear white t-shirts & jeans.)
- Relax!
- "A friend told me about a mystic healer, I can get her name for you."
- "You never know, my grandmother got pg naturally at 51." (DH's aunt to his sister)
Of couse all of the above was unsolicited.
#41
Zeukko
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Posted 03 January 2011 - 09:25 PM
I think all the sex advice (or assvice) we get is hilarious. These are recent comments I've received:
1. A friend of mine told me to get sloppy drunk. Perhaps it worked for her. She started TTC about 7 months after me and gave birth to an adorable girl in August 2010.
2. Have sex every day in your cycle.
3. Have sex every other day.
4. Do it doggy style and make sure you O.
Seriously? How inappropriate is this conversation?
1. A friend of mine told me to get sloppy drunk. Perhaps it worked for her. She started TTC about 7 months after me and gave birth to an adorable girl in August 2010.
2. Have sex every day in your cycle.
3. Have sex every other day.
4. Do it doggy style and make sure you O.
Seriously? How inappropriate is this conversation?
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Me:42 and DH: 44
Married since 2004
Two amazing furbabies
TTC since Feb 2009
Sept-Dec 2010: Clomid + 5 IUIs = BFN
March 2011- IVF/ICSI#1: antagonist - BCP, Puregon, Orgalutron, Ovidrel, Crinone = BFN
22 follicles; 14 eggs; 11 fertilized; 2 transferred; 1 snowbaby
FET #1 May 2011- 1 grade 2 blastocyst = BFN
August 2011 - IVF #2:antagonist - BCP, Puregon, Orgalutron, Ovidrel, Crinone = BFN
21 follicles; 12 eggs; 10 fertilized; 3 transferred; 5 3d embryos frozen
FET #2 Oct 2011 = BFN FET#3 July 2012 = BFP @ Genesis Fertility Clinic Beta #1= 41 (gulp); Beta #2= 47 (ugh) = Chemical pregnancy
February 2013 - IVF #3 = BFP - Estrace, Menopur, Puregon, Orgalutron, Endometrin - Retrieved 14 egg, 11 mature, 9 fertilized. Transferred 2 blastocysts. 1 blastocyst snow babyBeta#1: 45 (uh oh)Beta#2: 555 (what?! Wow!)
Beta #3000+.
U/S shows not viable pregnancy. Stopped growing at 5w5days.
July 1st: Natural BFP on HPT - First Beta in the 400s; Second Beta dropped to 200s
April 2014: Single embryo transfer = BFN
Looking into adoption.
Married since 2004
Two amazing furbabies
TTC since Feb 2009
Sept-Dec 2010: Clomid + 5 IUIs = BFN
March 2011- IVF/ICSI#1: antagonist - BCP, Puregon, Orgalutron, Ovidrel, Crinone = BFN
22 follicles; 14 eggs; 11 fertilized; 2 transferred; 1 snowbaby
FET #1 May 2011- 1 grade 2 blastocyst = BFN
August 2011 - IVF #2:antagonist - BCP, Puregon, Orgalutron, Ovidrel, Crinone = BFN
21 follicles; 12 eggs; 10 fertilized; 3 transferred; 5 3d embryos frozen
FET #2 Oct 2011 = BFN FET#3 July 2012 = BFP @ Genesis Fertility Clinic Beta #1= 41 (gulp); Beta #2= 47 (ugh) = Chemical pregnancy
February 2013 - IVF #3 = BFP - Estrace, Menopur, Puregon, Orgalutron, Endometrin - Retrieved 14 egg, 11 mature, 9 fertilized. Transferred 2 blastocysts. 1 blastocyst snow babyBeta#1: 45 (uh oh)Beta#2: 555 (what?! Wow!)
Beta #3000+.
U/S shows not viable pregnancy. Stopped growing at 5w5days.
July 1st: Natural BFP on HPT - First Beta in the 400s; Second Beta dropped to 200s
April 2014: Single embryo transfer = BFN
Looking into adoption.
#42
thorned rose
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Posted 06 March 2011 - 06:45 PM
It's not the comments sometimes, but who gives them.
From the pharmasist handing me clomid perscription:
"we get so worked up about these things, RELAX... it will happen"
I was speachless.
What I should have said was:
Yes lady...thanks... Wow. What great advice I'll give that a try.... Here, have the clomid back. I don't think I will need it now that you have solved my fertility problem.
From the pharmasist handing me clomid perscription:
"we get so worked up about these things, RELAX... it will happen"
I was speachless.
What I should have said was:
Yes lady...thanks... Wow. What great advice I'll give that a try.... Here, have the clomid back. I don't think I will need it now that you have solved my fertility problem.
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Me 36 Hubby 38
Dog 12
One empty bedroom
............. Looking for the crystal ball to see how this will turn out...............
Misscarried Nov 08, Jan 09 & July 09
Then nothing.
3 months clomid Summer of 2010.
IVF March 2011 - 16 days of stimming - 3dt on March 31.
Pregnant
4th time a charm? Here's hoping this one stays.<a href="http://pregnancy.bab...gaga.com/"><img src="http://tickers.baby-...ev351prs__.png" alt="pregnancy" border="0" /></a>
Dog 12
One empty bedroom
............. Looking for the crystal ball to see how this will turn out...............
Misscarried Nov 08, Jan 09 & July 09
Then nothing.
3 months clomid Summer of 2010.
IVF March 2011 - 16 days of stimming - 3dt on March 31.
Pregnant
4th time a charm? Here's hoping this one stays.<a href="http://pregnancy.bab...gaga.com/"><img src="http://tickers.baby-...ev351prs__.png" alt="pregnancy" border="0" /></a>
#43
papoose76
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Posted 07 March 2011 - 10:07 AM
It's not the comments sometimes, but who gives them.
From the pharmasist handing me clomid perscription:
"we get so worked up about these things, RELAX... it will happen"
I was speachless.
What I should have said was:
Yes lady...thanks... Wow. What great advice I'll give that a try.... Here, have the clomid back. I don't think I will need it now that you have solved my fertility problem.
That would be hilarious to see the look on the pharmacist's face. I fricken HATE that comment. "You're trying too hard"... what the hell do they picture? Us BD'ing scrunching our faces and squeezing our eyes shut grunting???
Me (Nona): 36 DH (Greg):36 2 stepkids (age 12 & 14)
I have been a teacher since 2002.
TTC my first since 1999 (through 2 marriages)
One natural pregnancy (ectopic) May 21, 2009 :'(
IVF #1 (October 2010)
long protocol: 3 eggs retrieved, 2 fertilized and transferred. BFN.
IVF #2 (October 2011)
short flare protocol: 10 eggs retrieved, 9 fertilized, 2 transferred, 7 frosties.
BFP (beta- 112, then 133, then 31) lost the pregnancy :'(
HSG- December 20/11 (right side blocked w/ hydro at end, left side open)...
FET #1 (March 2012)
u/s on March 16th, transferred 3 embies March 23rd
beta on April 5th- BFN (less than 1.2)
4 frosties left.... need further implantation testing...
Lap on April 13th: removed what was left of right tube, freed up left tube. Hysteroscopy and lysis of adhesions.
Breakup of marriage, December/12... I am giving up on TTC.
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Baby 4 Millers
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Posted 08 June 2012 - 07:41 PM
I love this thread!!
Again we've gotten the "RELAX" assvice too many times to count.
And "Just adopt - you know sooo many people got pregnant after they adopted!" -----I'm sure it has happened a couple of times in the history of infertility and the same story has been circulated throughout the world for an eternity afterwards. Everybody seems to know "that couple" who got pg after adopting. Ohh how I wish it were that simple!!
I'd forgotten about that one. Like adopting is any easier. We have people in our community who have been on the waitlist for adoption for 7 years and still haven't had the homestudy!
Me 43 DH 45. 2ww post day 3 transfer
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Saffy
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Posted 08 June 2012 - 08:11 PM
Being someone who has experienced IF for 4 years, I've heard all of these. The funny thing was I actually got a surprise unassisted BFP and when I went into the clinic for my 7 week u/s, one of the nurses who I really like actually said to me " See what happens when you relax". Uhm - I actually haven't been that relaxed but whatever. I think anyone could say anything insensitive to me right now and I would still be grinning like loon.
I guess for me it hasn't been so much what people have said, it is more when they have said it and who the advice is coming from. If it is right after a failed cycle anything could have set me off and if I felt the person was being a real "know-it-all" when they had no experience with IF, I would just be hopping mad. I guess what I try to think is that other people have their shit to deal with other than IF and that I've likely unknowly been insensitive to whatever they are dealing with.
I guess for me it hasn't been so much what people have said, it is more when they have said it and who the advice is coming from. If it is right after a failed cycle anything could have set me off and if I felt the person was being a real "know-it-all" when they had no experience with IF, I would just be hopping mad. I guess what I try to think is that other people have their shit to deal with other than IF and that I've likely unknowly been insensitive to whatever they are dealing with.
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Red Wine
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Posted 08 June 2012 - 08:19 PM
We've received the "just relax" comment.
However, it was funny when I was picking up my birth control to prepare for ivf and my pregvit prescription at the pharmacy at the same time. The pharmacist was baffled as to why i needed birth control and pregvit. LOL!!! The expression on her face...priceless.
However, it was funny when I was picking up my birth control to prepare for ivf and my pregvit prescription at the pharmacy at the same time. The pharmacist was baffled as to why i needed birth control and pregvit. LOL!!! The expression on her face...priceless.
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#47
gibasgirl
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Posted 10 January 2014 - 08:57 PM
"Just adopt. There are THOUSANDS of babies who need parents."
Stop IVF because it is too stressful.
Stop IVF because it is too stressful.
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lumnay
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Posted 22 May 2015 - 11:54 PM
"Sponsor a mass (donate to the church) regularly" - With all due respect, I can see how this is considered a good practice for some christians but I kind of need to save my money for IVF and meds
"Maybe you're not praying enough...Offer your sacrifices [to God]... and accept whatever you're given"
"Travel and see the world instead of spending your time on money on something that will not work"
"Just relax and you'll be pregnant before you know it"
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Who stole ambushed my stork? So many failed cycles with nothing to show but bills, receipts, and empty bottles of medications/herbs/supplements. See my profile for details...
UPDATE: I'm counting the days and hours waiting for this miracle to unfold. Christina Perri's A Thousand Years pretty much sums up my experience.
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Sweet_Insanity
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Posted 18 August 2015 - 10:40 AM
I have heard so much..lol
Eat more meat,
Drink black tea,
"You got to put your legs up after sex"
Do you exercise? To get the blood flowing...
Do you have passionate sex?
Your thinking about it too much
Go to a hotel,
Watch romantic movies before...
Watch XXx movies,
Get drunk,
Do it on the floor,
I could ask my husband/boyfriend for his sperm to help you...
Doctors are really good at helping you chart,
Have sex on your period, maybe you O is weird
Have you tried losing weight
Eat more celery
Eat more meat,
Drink black tea,
"You got to put your legs up after sex"
Do you exercise? To get the blood flowing...
Do you have passionate sex?
Your thinking about it too much
Go to a hotel,
Watch romantic movies before...
Watch XXx movies,
Get drunk,
Do it on the floor,
I could ask my husband/boyfriend for his sperm to help you...
Doctors are really good at helping you chart,
Have sex on your period, maybe you O is weird
Have you tried losing weight
Eat more celery
February FET
Meds estradiol and progesterone
Transferred two February 25th
First beta: 61 BFP!!!
Second beta: 145
Third beta: 305
Ultrasound: 7we3d March 29th twins!
2nd ultrasound: 9w3d April 12
3rd ultrasound: 11w3d April 26
4th ultrasound: 16w3d May 31
1st OB appointment: May 2
Meds estradiol and progesterone
Transferred two February 25th
First beta: 61 BFP!!!
Second beta: 145
Third beta: 305
Ultrasound: 7we3d March 29th twins!
2nd ultrasound: 9w3d April 12
3rd ultrasound: 11w3d April 26
4th ultrasound: 16w3d May 31
1st OB appointment: May 2
#50
CdnHockeyGal
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Posted 18 August 2015 - 01:40 PM
Celery? That's a new one for me...
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It was long, awful & hard. We got very lucky and didn't run out of both emotional and financial resources. We saw some of the most beautiful of people in our lowest moments. Baby Girl arrived Apr 10/2018
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