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Potty Training

Posted by kookacola , 08 October 2012 · 1640 views

So dh and I decided this would be a good weekend to start potty training dd. We thought this weekend was a good start because we weren't planning on going anywhere. We haven't been as dilagient as yesterday and Saturday:( I've talked to a few customers and they tell me it's easy. I know dd is smart and catches on quickly to things. She'll come up to dh or I and say "Change my bum" so I know she's got the jift or yesterday she told me she "pooped" I just don't know how to get her more comfortable with the idea. I tried a small potty, she cried, I hae ring and put that on the big toilet and that's helped a bit but still there's crying. Is the fact that she's crying when we put her on, a sign that maybe she's not ready? Everything so far I've been on board with doing but the potty training I haven't. I see other friends posting their sucess with their kids and dd just won't. I also have heard that if they know or can tell you they need their butts changed, that's a good sign and she can now talk and tell us things. I even bought her underwear but she doesn't seem to care. I wonder if a potty training movie or show or book could help. Dh and I have said "so and so goes on the potty" Don't you want to go on the potty like so and so?" If there is one thing as a parent I could not be bothered to do, it's potty training.

Yearning

Oct 08 2012 10:26 PM

We are where you are. DD tells me every time she pees/poops as she is doing it. She is extremely interested in the potty and yet if you sit her on it she cries. She also cries if she pees on the floor even though she has never, ever been in trouble for that.

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Maralee

Oct 08 2012 10:30 PM

Hehe, I hear you both! Bought DS a potty last spring, he was soo excited, I told him after holiday's he could use it. Came home, he sat on it day one-pee'd. Day two-pooped. All I could think was-what is everyone talking about, this is easy! Well, I jinxed it. He has refused (screaming, crying, etc) to sit on it since. This was 6 months ago! A Dr I work for said 3 is the magic number, not before...it's 7 weeks till his third birthday. Here's hoping!

tannikka

Oct 08 2012 11:11 PM

Give it time, don't rush it. Trust me on this. Try again in a month or two. If it is too hard or you feel like you are pushing, back off and try again. We started trying in February, and it was a diaster. We tried again in April, diaster. June, same thing. Every time we tried, it was a three day period. If it was still rough after three days, fourth day was back into diapers. Well, lo and behold, we tried again in August and tada. It was so easy, very few accidents. They started asking to go themselves. I repeat, it was so easy, compared to the other tries. That is the secret. If you think it is going badly, it is. If you think it is very hard, it is. When it is right, it will just be easy. Trust me.

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_journey

Oct 09 2012 10:35 AM

I've decided to take a very laid back approach to potty training our trio. As Tannikka said, if your LO is not ready it won't work. Mine are 2, and have told me reliably when they have dirty diapers for at least 4 months. They love their froggy potty, which sits beside our bathtub. Some nights, they really want to sit on it after their bath (especially DD), and they'll occasionally pee/poo, but that's by complete coincidence. Other nights, they have zero interest. That to me is a cue that they're not ready for potty training "immersion".

I'm worried that if I force it, it will become a control issue and then we'll have problems with getting trained later on. A friend of mine's nephew was 4 before he was fully trained, and that was after a lot of tears, doctor visits for constipation, and begging and pleading. He basically fought against being told to sit on the potty.

I have the opportunity to wait a while, because I'm at home with my kids. I know some parents feel rushed to train because some preschools/daycares require training to be started before they'll admit a child. I hope your LO is ready soon, and that you can enjoy being diaper free!

jaan

Oct 09 2012 12:44 PM

A potty book is a great idea, we had one for the boys, also we kept the bathroom door open when we went pee so they could see what we were doing(kids copy what they see, we all know that) plus we had a potty in the living room, so it was close by if they decided to use it. Some kids take longer than others, both my boys were about 3 when they trained, however Erik was all night and all day, but Matthew was just daytime, he wore pullups at night until he was 5. G/L to you

jojo10

Oct 09 2012 01:37 PM

I do not want to push my girls either, their Dr said if they are not ready and you push it, it may take longer to train, so far they will pee on the toilet every nite before bath, sometimes while pooping they will run to the toilet, but it has been very inconsistent.
Phew, you mean its not mandatory to have them trained by 2? LOL!

smc

Oct 09 2012 05:29 PM

DS is nearly three and is only successful when he is naked. If he has underwear or anything else on he will pee/poo in them. If he is naked he will tell me when he has to go or just go on his own. I am starting to feel like it is just never going to happen! I don't want to push or shame him though so I am trying to be supportive and not upset when he has an accident. We are home a lot so he is naked a lot!

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kookacola

Oct 09 2012 06:17 PM

Thanks everyone for the insight. I run a dayhome ou tof my house and unfortuantly, letting dd run around naked is out of the question. But I do wonder if a book will help. Dh and I tell her Do you want to pee on the potty like so and so?" don't you want to be like so and so? just to see if the triggers anything. As for the bathroom, I already let her come in when I'm busy. She's into Dora, is there anything for potty training that has Dora in it? Just a thought. I just don't get it. she tells us but won't go on. I guess we should try after her third birthday I suppose. We do want her potty trained before we attempt our fet though and that and the potty training seems to be indifinate:(

sharlene

Oct 10 2012 01:29 PM

From everything I've read, rushing doesn't help - and kids do things at different rates - some just aren't trained by 3. I definitely wouldn't be putting a kid on the potty if they are crying about it - to me that would just make the potty associated with crying and that can't be good. My son (almost 22 months) has asked to go on a few times but has done nothing once seated. He has watched me over and over - so he knows the process really well - and wants to wipe and flush - but he hasn't got the idea about really leaving a deposit. I know he won't go to college in diapers so I'm not worried about it - eventually it will happen, he's just not ready yet. I suggest checking out a few books on training and see if any have any good ideas that could work for your daughter. Good luck!

kookacola

Oct 10 2012 04:03 PM

Thanks, I did think about this for awhile today and I had a child in my care 10 years ago and I spent 2 years trying to potty train him. I tried everything, letting him take toys or books with him to the bathroom, I tried the weard system, everything as his mom wanted him trained at 2 years. He moved away and another friend of ours babysat him and vola, he was potty trained when they moved back and came back to my dayhome. Honestly, I can't be bothered with the whole potty training thing. To add to this, mil knows about dd not going on the potty that's toggen me even more frustrated. I was ticked that dh told him mom:( We've struggled to get pg with dd, when dd was younger, she wasn't meeting the "milestones" that she "should" have been according to a professional who tracks kids' development. So we worked on the cralwing and rolling. She went to therapy, then there was the walking, and now.... potty training.......When it comes to this, I wonder if dh should take over.....

Maralee

Oct 10 2012 08:53 PM

SMC-love the picture you drew! Glad there are other mamas who do what's right for them! I'm letting DS go naked tomorrow (we live infront of a school-watch out!)

hazypeanut

Oct 12 2012 08:12 AM

My daughter is 17 months and I got her a froggy potty about a month ago, and have it in our bathroom, and she follows me everytime i go to the bathroom and i always ask her if she wants to sit.. and put her on it, with her clothes and diaper on, just to get her used to the idea, i now can sit her on there diaper off, she has never fought me, and i hand her toilet paper and she wipes like mommy lol even though she hasnt peed... i never make a big deal, and never make her sit on it.. i think getting them used to the seat is half the battle..

kookacola

Oct 14 2012 01:11 AM

Funny you should share this. A few nights ago, dh went to check on dd. She'd been put to bed and her potty was put in her room just to keep it out of the way as our bathroom is very small. She was sitting on the potty with her pants down but the diaper still on. I am still dissappointed the first try never went off with a hitch but I am thinking that she's not as ready as i'd hoped she was.