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This is my blog and my opinion. I'm not trying to stir things up - just say what's on my mind. Feel free to add you opinions at the bottom (I know you will anyway!) 
I'm feeling very sad that some people here think there are cliques on this site. I don't see that. I just see a bunch of random strangers who have all suffered and who are all trying to reach out for help.
It took me a long time to feel any real connection with anyone here, but I always appreciated people's kindness in answering my questions and sending me hugs when life sucked.
Now after a couple of years of spending way too much time here, yes, I have connections. I'm enjoying all the lovely ladies in the Crankypants section, not because we hate pregnant ladies (where does THAT come from?!!!), but because they understand what it's like when you have more hurdles to jump through and that there are not always happy endings.
I've met some lovely ladies in the Adoption section in the last few weeks and I can't wait to follow everyone's journey there. (BTW, we don't hate pregnant ladies either.)
I've met some wonderful, caring women in the Cycle Buddies section and although sometimes it's a little hard to actually follow their pregnancies in detail because that's where I could have been if my pregnancy had worked out, I think some of them just have the biggest hearts and I know it hurts them too that I can't join them in the Due Dates section.
And last but not least, I met an amazing group of ladies in RL at a Vancouver meet up not so long ago. To see us talking away at a million miles a minute, no one would ever have guessed that we were all random strangers. And the beautiful part was that we are all at completely different stages in our fertility journey and it didn't change a thing!
I'm sad to see people leaving this site for reasons I don't understand. I hope that those of you who are leaving can take pride in all the help and support you have given other people here, and I also hope that part of the reason you're leaving is because it's time for you to move on in your RL and leave some room for new and exciting projects.
Rick has created the most amazing infertility website in the world! Old friends will leave for various reasons, and we will miss them, but new friends who are freshly hurting and in desperate need for help will keep coming too.
I'm feeling very sad that some people here think there are cliques on this site. I don't see that. I just see a bunch of random strangers who have all suffered and who are all trying to reach out for help.
It took me a long time to feel any real connection with anyone here, but I always appreciated people's kindness in answering my questions and sending me hugs when life sucked.
Now after a couple of years of spending way too much time here, yes, I have connections. I'm enjoying all the lovely ladies in the Crankypants section, not because we hate pregnant ladies (where does THAT come from?!!!), but because they understand what it's like when you have more hurdles to jump through and that there are not always happy endings.
I've met some lovely ladies in the Adoption section in the last few weeks and I can't wait to follow everyone's journey there. (BTW, we don't hate pregnant ladies either.)
I've met some wonderful, caring women in the Cycle Buddies section and although sometimes it's a little hard to actually follow their pregnancies in detail because that's where I could have been if my pregnancy had worked out, I think some of them just have the biggest hearts and I know it hurts them too that I can't join them in the Due Dates section.
And last but not least, I met an amazing group of ladies in RL at a Vancouver meet up not so long ago. To see us talking away at a million miles a minute, no one would ever have guessed that we were all random strangers. And the beautiful part was that we are all at completely different stages in our fertility journey and it didn't change a thing!
I'm sad to see people leaving this site for reasons I don't understand. I hope that those of you who are leaving can take pride in all the help and support you have given other people here, and I also hope that part of the reason you're leaving is because it's time for you to move on in your RL and leave some room for new and exciting projects.
Rick has created the most amazing infertility website in the world! Old friends will leave for various reasons, and we will miss them, but new friends who are freshly hurting and in desperate need for help will keep coming too.
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kajira
12 June 2010 - 09:57 AM
I concur with everything you said impatient...
It is a good journal post, and I am glad you are choosing to stick around.
It is a good journal post, and I am glad you are choosing to stick around.
joyfulintent
12 June 2010 - 11:42 AM
I will admit I really don't understand the drama that's gone on recently. I've read some of it but think I must have missed huge chunks because otherwise I just don't get it.
Like you I enjoy the crankypants take on life and sense of humour but I also like to follow the progress of my IVF friends in the blogs, NOTB, due date threads and lots of other places (big congrats to those in the weight loss thread). I have a special place in my heart for the ladies from the April 2010 due date thread who showed me so much support when I had to leave their community and who are cheering me on today.
So, you know what? I refuse to accept the premise of this issue. There is no them. There is no us. We are, as you say, random strangers connecting via the internet and there is much joy and comfort to come from those connections. And because we are all different I'm sure that everyone will not love everything that everyone writes. And that's just fine.
Each of us owe a huge heartfelt thank you to Rick, for creating and maintaining this amazing site and for continuing to develop it with ever-better functionality. Let's not let him down in how we use it.
Like you I enjoy the crankypants take on life and sense of humour but I also like to follow the progress of my IVF friends in the blogs, NOTB, due date threads and lots of other places (big congrats to those in the weight loss thread). I have a special place in my heart for the ladies from the April 2010 due date thread who showed me so much support when I had to leave their community and who are cheering me on today.
So, you know what? I refuse to accept the premise of this issue. There is no them. There is no us. We are, as you say, random strangers connecting via the internet and there is much joy and comfort to come from those connections. And because we are all different I'm sure that everyone will not love everything that everyone writes. And that's just fine.
Each of us owe a huge heartfelt thank you to Rick, for creating and maintaining this amazing site and for continuing to develop it with ever-better functionality. Let's not let him down in how we use it.
ladylazarus
12 June 2010 - 12:25 PM
I still consider you my very first IVF.ca friend! I quietly follow your journey, knowing that whatever your next move will be, I hope to be there to cheer you on! You're a great source of support for lots of folks, just like you were for me. 
babywanted
12 June 2010 - 01:25 PM
"it's a little hard to actually follow their pregnancies in detail because that's where I could have been if my pregnancy had worked out"
I feel the same way it's hard to read "I'm 15 weeks pregnant" and we got pregnant at the same time but I had a miscarriage and every time I read "I'm 15 weeks pregnant" and see your ultrasound pictures... UGH It make me very sad and it make me cry that I lost my baby:(
Pregnant women please be more sensitive because this is an infertility website and many women are still struggling with infertility. We are happy for you that you got pregnant but maybe stop blogging about every ultrasound you had. BE MORE SENSITIVE !!!
I feel the same way it's hard to read "I'm 15 weeks pregnant" and we got pregnant at the same time but I had a miscarriage and every time I read "I'm 15 weeks pregnant" and see your ultrasound pictures... UGH It make me very sad and it make me cry that I lost my baby:(
Pregnant women please be more sensitive because this is an infertility website and many women are still struggling with infertility. We are happy for you that you got pregnant but maybe stop blogging about every ultrasound you had. BE MORE SENSITIVE !!!
Sapphire
12 June 2010 - 11:01 PM
Your post hit the nail on the head for me, impatient.
I've been a bit concerned that I'm not in any of the alleged cliques. Can I be part of whatever clique you are in?
I've been a bit concerned that I'm not in any of the alleged cliques. Can I be part of whatever clique you are in?
silverdollar
13 June 2010 - 08:49 AM
You aren't a random stranger to me anymore after our meet-up. That positive energy is contagious, let's keep going.
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