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But we were told by a close friend of ours that having a crib set up in a room will help when the social worker comes to visit on our home study. So of course I was over the moon at the thought of being able to go back into my "happy place" and thinking of buying anything baby related for us, and not for a shower gift...and I got on facebook and a friend is giving us his crib from his daughters and the matching rocking chair.
Aaron and I discussed this at length and we do not want to jinx our chances, but why turn down this crib and rocking chair, it is a beautiful set. I find it gives us hope and something to look forward to.
27 days until PRIDE WOOHOO
Aaron and I discussed this at length and we do not want to jinx our chances, but why turn down this crib and rocking chair, it is a beautiful set. I find it gives us hope and something to look forward to.
27 days until PRIDE WOOHOO
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lescherie
23 February 2010 - 03:38 PM
I dont think ur nuts at all!! I say go for it!!! I think its a lovely idea!!Cherie
Ginger Megs
23 February 2010 - 04:30 PM
you arent nuts. It is all very exciting and another step towards your dream. I still remember how exciting it was when I had my son's room set up before he was born....and how sad it was to take it down last month when he graduated to the big bed (OK, he is 3 and well overdue), and not sure if I will ever get to set it up again. Dream BIG girl!
nervus optmist
23 February 2010 - 05:12 PM
what a kind gift to have been offered. it's completely up to you. for the record - I don't think you need a nursery set up when you have your homestudy - they just want to see that you have space in your house to have a nursery. it's actually against jewish tradition to prepare a nursery before a baby arrives, so most jewish couples who are expecting (through adoption or pregnancy) do not prepare a nursery at all until after babe is born (or referral is made). Social workers know this, and know that all families have different levels of comfort of what they would like to prepare - some want a nursery that is 100% ready to go, others won't start it at all until they know 100% that it's happening, and most are somewhere in the middle. do what's right for you - your social worker will understand.
enjoy the journey
enjoy the journey
LesleyM
23 February 2010 - 06:09 PM
Not nuts at all. I have had baby stuff for years now, I can't wait to use it!
Dreaming
23 February 2010 - 06:18 PM
Perhaps it'll be a good luck charm; do whatever works, and don't feel one bit crazy!
BabyHope2010
23 February 2010 - 09:03 PM
Not nutts at all. Take them, less for you to buy on your own.
I want to start clearing out my babies room and I haven't even gotten the call to start treatment ; - )
Go for it!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I want to start clearing out my babies room and I haven't even gotten the call to start treatment ; - )
Go for it!!!!!!!!!!!!!
DiXie
24 February 2010 - 09:09 AM
I will just say this:
"If you build it they will come"
Remember that from Nerd movies
"If you build it they will come"
Remember that from Nerd movies
supermom
24 February 2010 - 12:30 PM
We had our room set up during our homestudy, it was helpful to go in and see what my dedication and hard work was working towards.
Just be sure that you can still look at the crib should something go wrong.
For example: We were called and matched with a little girl, the worker was just finalizing things on her part and would call us back shortly.
A week went by and I heard nothing so I called back only to discover that her foster family had decided at the last moment that they wanted to adopt her and the agency had agreed ... they didnt even call us.
The room was quite hard to look at after that for a while.
Just be sure that you can still look at the crib should something go wrong.
For example: We were called and matched with a little girl, the worker was just finalizing things on her part and would call us back shortly.
A week went by and I heard nothing so I called back only to discover that her foster family had decided at the last moment that they wanted to adopt her and the agency had agreed ... they didnt even call us.
The room was quite hard to look at after that for a while.
~*Megan*~
24 February 2010 - 03:07 PM
Awww I am sorry to hear that supermom 
That must have been heartbreaking. We will just have the crib in the room, nothing else until we find out if we are going to be parents.
Thank you for all your input everyone!
That must have been heartbreaking. We will just have the crib in the room, nothing else until we find out if we are going to be parents.Thank you for all your input everyone!
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I will be a mother...
There are women that become mothers without effort, without thought, without patience or loss
and though they are good mothers and love their children, I know that I will be better.
I will be better not because of genetics, or money or because I have read more books but because I have struggled and toiled for this child.
I have longed and waited.
I have cried and prayed.
I have endured and planned over and over again.
Like most things in life, the people who truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their dreams.
I will notice everything about my child.
I will take time to watch my child sleep, explore and discover.
I will marvel at this miracle every day for the rest of my life.
I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold and feed him and that I am not waking to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another shot or cry tears of a broken dream.
My dream will be crying for me.
I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight, this special vision with which I will look upon my child that my friends will not see. Whether I parent a child I actually give birth to or a child that God leads me to, I will not be careless with my love.
I will be a better mother for all that I have endured.
I am a better wife, a better aunt, a better daughter, neighbor, friend and sister because I have known pain.
I know disillusionment as I have been betrayed by my own body.
I have been tried by fire and hell many never face, yet given time, I stood tall.
I have prevailed. I have succeeded. I have won. So now, when others hurt around me, I do not run from their pain in order to save myself discomfort.
I see it, mourn it, and join them in theirs.
I listen.
And even though I cannot make it better, I can make it less lonely.
I have learned the immense power of another hand holding tight to mine, of other eyes that moisten as they learn to accept the harsh truth and when life is beyond hard.
I have learned a compassion that only comes with walking in those shoes.
I have learned to appreciate life.
Yes, I will be a wonderful mother.
~Unknown
and though they are good mothers and love their children, I know that I will be better.
I will be better not because of genetics, or money or because I have read more books but because I have struggled and toiled for this child.
I have longed and waited.
I have cried and prayed.
I have endured and planned over and over again.
Like most things in life, the people who truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their dreams.
I will notice everything about my child.
I will take time to watch my child sleep, explore and discover.
I will marvel at this miracle every day for the rest of my life.
I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold and feed him and that I am not waking to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another shot or cry tears of a broken dream.
My dream will be crying for me.
I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight, this special vision with which I will look upon my child that my friends will not see. Whether I parent a child I actually give birth to or a child that God leads me to, I will not be careless with my love.
I will be a better mother for all that I have endured.
I am a better wife, a better aunt, a better daughter, neighbor, friend and sister because I have known pain.
I know disillusionment as I have been betrayed by my own body.
I have been tried by fire and hell many never face, yet given time, I stood tall.
I have prevailed. I have succeeded. I have won. So now, when others hurt around me, I do not run from their pain in order to save myself discomfort.
I see it, mourn it, and join them in theirs.
I listen.
And even though I cannot make it better, I can make it less lonely.
I have learned the immense power of another hand holding tight to mine, of other eyes that moisten as they learn to accept the harsh truth and when life is beyond hard.
I have learned a compassion that only comes with walking in those shoes.
I have learned to appreciate life.
Yes, I will be a wonderful mother.
~Unknown
